Hi!. I need sum advice on this. Ima a pertty easy going guy and have no problems with getting with women. Im not concieted but I mostly get postive feedbacks on my looks so i have no issue there. I can pretty much handle most of the female problems i run into on my own, until this one girl I met. We both go to the same college and we met in the gym since i am a basketball junkie and she plays ball for our college. Anyways I thought she was kinda cute but neva gave her 2 much thought. Until about a year later we ended up taking the same class and we started spending time together thru out the day. We get along real qood. I am usually the one making people laugh but in this case she makes me laugh 2. As much as im trying to fight it she is getting to me HARD. She acts like she likes me at times and at times it feels like she likes me as a friend. On top of that im not sure if she is str8 (you know how them basketball players are) although she says she is, sumtimes i have my doubt. To make long story short. I do not know if i should go out and tell her how i feel or just wait and see where things lead too. A couple of times i tried to tell her but when it comes to doing it i turn into a little ***** im 50/50 about how she feels about me. Its crazy because i do not have this problem usually. It also kind of scares me because she got the potential to be the "one" and that **** is scary. We very compatable and on top of that we both from the same home town even though our college is far away from there and we both graduate this Year. So everything is perfect except im confused on if she likes me as a friend or as more than that. I know its easy to say just ask and find out. But i see this girl every day on campus and if she likes me as a friend its gona ruin everything. Another thing, I see a lot of myslef in her like we have very similar personalities. I almost allways avoid people when i feel like they are getting to close to me. I do not like the concept of others being attached to me or me being attached to them. I started to notice this with her, she started to cut down on talkin to me and all that but its like she can help it because we both end up talkin regradless. The problem is i do not know if that is a friendly thing or if its more than that. She is also seems like she is emotionally shy. She never says anthing emotional unless its jokingly. Not just with me but with everyone. I thought about leavin it alone but i dont want to miss out on a good thing if i am wrong. I have dated many women in the past, but this is actually the first i can actually see myself in the long run. And its like she got somthing bothering her or she feeling down abotu sutming but because she is just like me she keeping it to her self. I want to help her out so bad and be for her, this is why i think she is different from the others. Anwyays Should i just wait (even though the suspense bout to kill me) and see if her tru feelings come out. Or should I go hard and find out by asking and risk our friendship. I think if i wait it will be good on the long run, anyways im asking yall because everyone has gone through that one girl that they break all thier rules for, im 22 just like her so i thought it be good to see other people's view on this, SO I NEED YALL HELP..i know this sounds like a *****y message..but hey i had to do sumting haha..
That one girl, should i pursue or let things fall as they may.
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A good way to find out if a woman likes you, is to go right ahead and kiss her, if you get a positive response, then you obviously know shes interested !
If she pushes you away or you get a negative response, make a joke out of it, DO NOT repeat DO NOT act as if it bothers you.
For all others reading:
This should only be used on someone your pretty familiar with as you are, i.e. dont go ahead and kiss someone you haven't even met !
Do not focus all of your efforts on one woman, do not become dependant! Don't put all your eggs in one basket !
Thats just my advice, I might get flamed for it ! But just my opinion !
If she pushes you away or you get a negative response, make a joke out of it, DO NOT repeat DO NOT act as if it bothers you.
For all others reading:
This should only be used on someone your pretty familiar with as you are, i.e. dont go ahead and kiss someone you haven't even met !
Do not focus all of your efforts on one woman, do not become dependant! Don't put all your eggs in one basket !
Thats just my advice, I might get flamed for it ! But just my opinion !
I dont think the kissing will work here because I remember her telling me once that she was so shyin elementry class. she even failed a class because she refused to read outloud because she was that shy. This girl plays ball for my college, they usually have 5 million friends on campus. She got like 20. She does not like to get attached to people, and i think that would just scare the **** out of her.
I would say gradually try to build up more physical contact, and even the most nervous of girls would'nt be freaked out by a kiss ! Some people value a kiss differently, for me it certainly isn't a big issue !
Make your intentions known by actions, rather than verbally, saying i like you etc ! Actions speak louder than words!
Virtually every girl responds to actions!
Rather than worrying about messing it up, think that if you don't act you will never get with this girl ! You don't want regret do you ?
Make your intentions known by actions, rather than verbally, saying i like you etc ! Actions speak louder than words!
Virtually every girl responds to actions!
Rather than worrying about messing it up, think that if you don't act you will never get with this girl ! You don't want regret do you ?
that brought up another thing i forgot to say. Like we be just chillin and out of nowhere she will just wrap her arms around me all close like i can feel her ribs and **** lol..and she be holding me like that for like a min, even though we dont really make physical contact like that because im not a touchy touchy person. She does like playfully smack me a lot and i know thats kinda of a way tellin if some one likes you (but i think thats kinda of childish lol)
But i like what you said about tell her with actions. That was really good advice cuz i aitn think of that really. how would you suggest i do that? i know i sound like a high school kid but im not used to trying to get with people usually its people trying to get with me (not trying to sound concided)
But i like what you said about tell her with actions. That was really good advice cuz i aitn think of that really. how would you suggest i do that? i know i sound like a high school kid but im not used to trying to get with people usually its people trying to get with me (not trying to sound concided)
Actions:
Lots of Eye contact, don't stare but you know what i mean right?
Hold Her hands (both)
Wrap you arm(s) around her
Playfully pinch/poke her
All of these actions need to be in the right situation, they should not be out of context !
Also a piece of advice, listening to problems, don't end up being a fool and being a really good friend as opposed to being with her in the way that you want !
Lots of Eye contact, don't stare but you know what i mean right?
Hold Her hands (both)
Wrap you arm(s) around her
Playfully pinch/poke her
All of these actions need to be in the right situation, they should not be out of context !
Also a piece of advice, listening to problems, don't end up being a fool and being a really good friend as opposed to being with her in the way that you want !
Damn you got some good advices lol. aite let me see..i do make eye contanct some times but we both end up looking away lol. HOlding her hands i dont know about that i dispise doing that and since i see a lot of me in her i doubt she like that 2, play full pinch and poke we do that a lot already. I think this girl is particularly difficult for me to deal with because she is not the normal girl. She play ball so she is more phyiscal and got guy qualities, i dont know if that makes sense. Like she will put both her legs up on the table, put her legs up on chairs in class and stuff like that. But im liking your advice. I am thinking man and i usually think about every aspect. but you bringing new avenues to my attention. I definatly dont want to end up being super buddies, but im a type of person if i like a person one way i wouldnt mind having them in another way. I really think if i lay low and just be friends and eventually things will take over down the road cuz if its meant to happen it will happen. I just dont know if i am right
TRUE TRUE.. so how do I do i go about doing that without scaring her away due to the fact that she is emotionally shy and does not get attached to too many people. (without directly asking her and excluding the phyical affection aspect since we covered that already)
She already seems fairly attatched to you, from what you have wrote in your first post! You already seem to have quite a bit of physical contact, I would definitely say, that the next time you get close, you should go for a kiss !
We shall see if the situations occurs. I got one more question. Before i liked her like this, I gave her rides from campus to her apt since she aint got no car or i buy her like drinks (soda) and **** like that when we on campus because ima type of guy that if i am with any girl i like like that or not and i am getting something, i ask them if they want one or will get them one. when i did these things for her i didnt care back then didnt give it much thought. But now that I am having strong feelings for her, i feel like im being whipped and i cut back down on that. What do you think about that