Texts - Lack of Interest

[wpet16]

Just started dating a girl in the past week and a bit, still hung up on someone else but this taking my mind off it and she is a nice girl so who knows.
The point is though we've been on two dates, ended up kissing on both and I'm going to try to get her back to mine for the third one this weekend. I'm literally instigating all the texts though usually doing a bit of banter first and then when she replies asking about the date after.

She basically just replies with what she has been up to, and then a quick sentence at the end saying; 'How's You?' No real conversation at all. I normally wouldn't be bothered but do you think this is showing a lack of interest?
I've probably been texting a bit more than is necessary, about 4 or 5 times in the past week - too much? Should I just hold off for a few days when she does that to get her interest level back up, she seems really great on the dates and is always really happy to be there.

Thanks

 

[betheman]

cut back on the texts, if she is into you, she will initiate, she might initiate just to keep you dangling to entertain her, some women are just sh!t at texting though. seriously, cut back on the texts

 

[wpet16]

Thanks,

I am getting better but I do feel like I'm still chasing girls too much, anyway I'll wait until later in the week before setting it up and we'll see what happens this weekend.

 

[Atom Smasher]

It's very important that a girl see that you have a busy life and that you're seeing if you can fit her in somehow.
I can see that you already know that you don't want to chase too aggressively. She sounds either boring (most probable) or her IL is low. I would directly settle the matter asap and move on if necessary. Don't waste any time on a boring or LI female.

 

[J Roc]

stop texting. pick up the phone and call. if she doesnt call back then you know she isnt interested.

 

[wpet16]

She got back to me today and I'm seeing her this friday night so we'll see what happens then, I'll leave it until tomorrow evening to reply and make plans.
Thanks for the Advice Atom Smasher she does seem a bit of a pain at the moment, and I've just got out of seeing someone similar so I'm in no hurry to repeat my previous mistakes, warning signs already...

 

[omega05]

4 to 5 times a week of texting might do that. She's the pain because she's not engaging in full conversations through texting?

 

[wpet16]

I will phone her tomorrow to arrange the details, I find early on that alot girls prefer texting because it's to the point but maybe I'm wrong.

 

[Alvafe]

woman like texts, that is for sure, of all girls I know all of then send 2 msg a hour more or less, they also never delete any msg they get, only after some long time and the phone start to show its full. but here is the deal, they are better on texts so you sure don't want to let her play at her straong point,calling her make you comunicate better, you can note her voice tone and gauge her IL with you, you can send msg but I would say to never do it too much.

but just follow atom hints and you will be fine

 

[AlphaBoy]

Just let her start the talk, don't ignore her as it's a new relation and you guys probably don't have much strong bound between both of you. Try to entertain her, talk less but maintain the quality and if you can talk more with quality then do it. Just give the priority to the quality of conversation you make, if it starts getting boring - just remove attention from her and let her start the topic's. Be lovely with her and a bit moody too you should be a confident boy with a girl. Don't be afraid of losing her or that she's losing interest, if you're not afraid of this, she won't lose it ever. Being confident is very attractive in girl's eyes and they don't go for physical look's like we boy. Girl's are attracted toward personality first and then look. Try doing what i said for 1-2 weeks, if it didnt helped, start texting less and less.

 

[frisco]

This is the only txt you need of course with slight variances depending on certain variables.

name, Whats going on hope your night was fun. Im just getting ready for the week... Any big plans coming up?

In this one text you cover all your bases, Gives the reciever lots of options to respond, Begins to set up a date and comes off as caring all in one.

One of many responses i have received, I picked this one for a reason.


ME: name, Whats going on hope your night was fun. Im just getting ready for the weekend... Any big plans coming up?

HER: Hey it was fun... got a little to drunk and had to deal with the awesome hangover all day today at work lol. but no plans besides hanging out with my sister cause he's coming in town and im celebrating moms 48th.

Since i had all bases covered, I gained some comfort/report while seeing that this chick is obviously to busy to ask on a date and not have to work around nine million things. So I now to build more comfort and end it witha TTYL like so.

ME:Looks like you had more fun than us, Sounds like a busy weekend for you. Give your mom birthday wishes for me.

Her:Will do! What are your plans?

ME: I was gonna see if you wanted to join in on Sushi Sunday, Looks like you are super busy thought... Other than that Relaxing by the pool maybe some V ball.

Again I cover all my bases, Showed that I have a interesting life, Gets her thinking that I may take another girl out thats less busy,Preselection. Makes her weekend look a lot less interesting while still being caring.

Her:Yeah Sunday is her actual birthday, But that sounds like a good fun weekend to me.

I obviously know shes crazy busy, Dont want to sound needy and ask her to join in on pool and vball so I cover my Bases.

ME:Lemme know how things go, Dont forget the birthday wishes . TTYL

HER: I will, Have a great weekend!


just so you know, She txt asking me out on a date on sunday. Had she not I would Of initiated with almost the identical txt that i started with, and only changed the Variables, If your not asking for a date or trying to setup a date then there is no need to text the girl. SHE eventually will get bored with the Whats Up? or Hows It going txts

 

[frisco]

I was PMed asking if name is Yours or Hers for verification it is the Girls Name,

During Number exchanges to keep from getting the WHO IS THIS response this is what I do.

While talking to the girl and at the time i want her number, I pull out my Iphone and tinker with it ask the girl what kinda of phone she has and ask to see it. Then tell her Lets exchange phones, I then I tell her how do I enter in my number so she can have it with a smirk, I then txt myself Whats up stud while she has my phone. Usually gets a laugh. and shes going to remember you.