What a headache this medium is!! Every response can be construed in many different ways and its hard to come off with the intended tone that you like because its text and not a face to face convo or over the phone. Chick says boyfriend or the such in a text its hard in few word to overcome that objection without sounding the way you don't want to sound considering girls put that out there as a wall or an objection to see how you handle it. We all know most of these very attractive girls have boyfriends for two minutes and throw that objection out there to not sound not too available and or to see how you overcome it and try to get them. Anybody have an advice or strategies?? Because I've found the clearly really high demand girls are never as available as perceived when you first meet them especially the 20 somethings yrs old ones. Texting game seems to be harder than getting their phone number in the first place or the initial approach for me anyway.
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That's what you first think, but texting is GOOD because its confusing. Women LIKE ambiguity. They want to NOT be sure you like them or not.....experimental studies have verified this. Use that to your advantage. Walk that line between just enigmatic and flat-out confusing.
When a girl is showing her friends an ambiguous text you sent her that confused her, you're doing the right thing. She's fervently possessed with figuring out what you REALLY mean. And she's more interested in you (and grateful you get her) for it. Be vague enough to be mysterious, but clear enough so she's not baffled. eg: If you're an investment banker, tell her you work in finance. And you could probably be even more vague than that.
This is for early game too, btw. You don't want to be so ambiguous as relationships progress. But always keep an element of it, it does wonders.
Don't emoticon that much, until the girl is using it herself.
When a girl is showing her friends an ambiguous text you sent her that confused her, you're doing the right thing. She's fervently possessed with figuring out what you REALLY mean. And she's more interested in you (and grateful you get her) for it. Be vague enough to be mysterious, but clear enough so she's not baffled. eg: If you're an investment banker, tell her you work in finance. And you could probably be even more vague than that.
This is for early game too, btw. You don't want to be so ambiguous as relationships progress. But always keep an element of it, it does wonders.
Don't emoticon that much, until the girl is using it herself.
my text today consisted of "since you are spoken for, text me when you are free sometime" In my mind that can be construed as free as time during the day or free as in free of this perceived boyfriend that she hints at having. I don't know if she was insulted by this response or not.
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Not bad, but the message is beta to the bone.
You're putting the attraction on HER schedule, giving her the freedom to reach out when convenient. And what is this "spoken for" business? Does she TRULY have a boyfriend?
Girls aren't ambiguous about THAT in texting. When she tells you that, you do one of two things. You either bail, or you plow with a CONFIDENT response (not weak sht like "text me when you have the free time"), like:
"Yeah, EVERY girl has a guy they call boyfriend" or even better "And I have a girlfriend."
Keep a minimalist design to your texting. If she's really interested, she SHOULD be texting more than you. Each one of her texts should be longer or more verbose than yours. Ideally you shouldn't even be responding to some of her texts, she maintains the conversation because she wants you. She sending one word texts? Send her one letter texts.
You're putting the attraction on HER schedule, giving her the freedom to reach out when convenient. And what is this "spoken for" business? Does she TRULY have a boyfriend?
Girls aren't ambiguous about THAT in texting. When she tells you that, you do one of two things. You either bail, or you plow with a CONFIDENT response (not weak sht like "text me when you have the free time"), like:
"Yeah, EVERY girl has a guy they call boyfriend" or even better "And I have a girlfriend."
Keep a minimalist design to your texting. If she's really interested, she SHOULD be texting more than you. Each one of her texts should be longer or more verbose than yours. Ideally you shouldn't even be responding to some of her texts, she maintains the conversation because she wants you. She sending one word texts? Send her one letter texts.
"spoken for" and "text me when you have free time." the reason why I responded like this is to show no desperation and put the ball in her court meaning I won't be texting her anymore and its up to her to come back to me if she is interested now or in a month or whatever timeframe. She stated she was meeting her "guy" for dinner so I perceived that as her boyfriend right now. I've found many attractive girls don't have the experience or balls to pursue a guy they are so used to being pursued themselves.
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If that's true, then why are you, as you said, "putting the ball in her court"?sicsec said:
Okay, so if I'm reading you correctly, you're saying that this girl doesn't reply to you and she has a boyfriend. You want to express that you're done feeding her attention, and if she wants you, she's gotta come for you.
Alright. So why not just go No Contact? Don't announce that you're leaving because she's spoken for. Just stop talking to her. Let her wonder why. You say you want to show "no desperation" but then you confess that you're walking away because she's spoken for.
Whatever. You live, you learn.
I originally texted her that "we can get together another time than" in which she responded with "another time for sure!" that in my mind is kinda vague response meaning another time could be tomorrow or in six months. thats why I decided to respond the way I did. The whole process is so confusing because you are forced to translate the written text as opposed to a phone convo or face to face which is easier to decipher.Mantis Toboggan said:
Jair213
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thats why you should maybe just call next time for future dates? etc
If George Clooney or Robert Pattinson texted a girl do you think she would respond VAGUELY?
No I don't think so.
Moreoever if she did...those men would NEXT in about .03 seconds.
Girls who REALLY like you will let you know...don't you want to be REALLY liked instead of just being a bargaining chip.
No I don't think so.
Moreoever if she did...those men would NEXT in about .03 seconds.
Girls who REALLY like you will let you know...don't you want to be REALLY liked instead of just being a bargaining chip.
I used to hate it too, but texting is actually ideal in one big way, for it allows you to convey things in as FEW WORDS as possible! It's when you try to say too much that you mess up. Four word emails seem weird, but four word text messages are normal.
Plus, by virtue of being short, texting actually makes poetry work at certain times (like when she is begging to see you but you are busy, NOT when she has blown you off for 3 weeks).
Plus, by virtue of being short, texting actually makes poetry work at certain times (like when she is begging to see you but you are busy, NOT when she has blown you off for 3 weeks).
Clooney and that other guy could be average to below average looking guys and get nice looking women who will chase them because they have the money, status and fame and are celebrities.. That doesn't apply to us posters here on this site that aren't high status celebrities. Girls can like you but that doesnt mean that thry don't throw out tests and walls to see if you are legit in your conquest of them.Burroughs said:
'legit in you conquest'?sicsec said:
These words indicate you're letting the chick set the agenda....who cares if you are 'legit' or not...do you honestly think girls sit around throwing tests at guys they TRULY LIKE...no.
Girls set up hoops and tests for guys that are BETA PROVIDERS not the guys they really want.
Depends on the girl. some girls don't want to appear as sluts or don't have the confidence to pursue a guy or make their interest that obvious. it all depends on the girl and thats why diferent strategies are needed to get different kinds of girls. Some girls have been through so many azz holes that they throw up walls and tests irregardless of how bad they want to go to bed with him to see who is worth their time and who isn't in my honest opinion.Burroughs said:
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sicsec said:
I second this. Really depends on the girl. Some girls will text you paragraphs and text you constantly througbt the day. You have to kirror what she does but make it less as frequent and less length as her's. Some girls will text frequently but text some really short convo. Really just depends on the girl. I like the George Clooney example. Just always text as if George was texting on your phone haha