Texting than disappeared?

[R.U.G.]

@flowtheory Make sure you report back in this thread for those dates you didn't confirm, went to the venue, and nobody showed. This way the men here can learn via empirical evidence in lieu of blog sites soliciting 'cartoon tactics.'

I think you will be surprised Guru1k.

 

[guru1000]

I think you will be surprised Guru1k.

I would as this has happened to every seasoned member on the site. So if it has yet happen to you, then schedule more dates, and soon it shall come.

Consider also the level of rapport for scheduled dates differ from member to member. A guy with a 15-20 min telephone convo will have a different level of rapport than a guy with 15 words on an initial OLD opener to schedule.

 

[flowtheory]

@flowtheory Make sure you report back in this thread for those dates you didn't confirm, went to the venue, and nobody showed. This way the men here can learn via empirical evidence in lieu of blog sites soliciting 'cartoon tactics.'

Yep. I was going to make a fresh thread on the 4 dates which I have planned this week.

 

[guru1000]

Yep. I was going to make a fresh thread on the 4 dates which I have planned this week.

Cool. Don't confirm any of them. Just show up.

 

[flowtheory]

Cool. Don't confirm any of them. Just show up.

Exactly what I’m doing. All dates have been set.
And that last message was supposed to say 5 dates, not 4.

 

[Clamslammer]

Did you actually set concrete dates with them? For example, tell them "if something comes up let you know otherwise I will see you there," or something along those lines. Basically you should have indirectly told them you are going to be going on your dates guranteed and I will not be reaching out to you until then because I am confident in myself and no girl flakes on me ever. This will avoid the crap that they send that "you didnt reach out so I thought it was off" text...which basically means I was going to flake on your a** anyways because I am a big fat flake.

 

[RickTheToad]

An update. I didn't call this one and just texted like suggested. We set a date on Monday to meet today for drinks. She works for a hospital and said if she'll need to reschedule, she'll let me know on Wednesday. Low and behold, at noon she texted and said she so sorry, but needs to reschedule. An organ is coming in at 5pm, so I cannot meet you tonight at 7:30. I replied no prob., we'll reschedule. She replied, again, so sorry, but no offer of a new day or time.

Another lady I was chatting online with sent me her number yesterday afternoon after suggesting we meet up. I texted her today and say hey it's rick, how are you? She replied a bit later and said okay, how are you? I said I am great. Do you have any plans for this weekend you are looking forward to? That was five hours ago. Not a peep since.

Not doing well with texting w/o calling. Ideas?

 

[flowtheory]

Did you actually set concrete dates with them? For example, tell them "if something comes up let you know otherwise I will see you there," or something along those lines. Basically you should have indirectly told them you are going to be going on your dates guranteed and I will not be reaching out to you until then because I am confident in myself and no girl flakes on me ever. This will avoid the crap that they send that "you didnt reach out so I thought it was off" text...which basically means I was going to flake on your a** anyways because I am a big fat flake.

Right now my dates being set up 3-6 days in advance. And it is specific.

“We’ll go for a beach walk. Let’s meet at the Starbucks at 1st and 2nd for 7pm. Does this work for you?”
“Yes”
“See you then”

That’s it

 

[marmel75]

An update. I didn't call this one and just texted like suggested. We set a date on Monday to meet today for drinks. She works for a hospital and said if she'll need to reschedule, she'll let me know on Wednesday. Low and behold, at noon she texted and said she so sorry, but needs to reschedule. An organ is coming in at 5pm, so I cannot meet you tonight at 7:30. I replied no prob., we'll reschedule. She replied, again, so sorry, but no offer of a new day or time.

Another lady I was chatting online with sent me her number yesterday afternoon after suggesting we meet up. I texted her today and say hey it's rick, how are you? She replied a bit later and said okay, how are you? I said I am great. Do you have any plans for this weekend you are looking forward to? That was five hours ago. Not a peep since.

Not doing well with texting w/o calling. Ideas?

If you read your texts and could fall asleep reading them, dont send it.

They are boring. They are the same texts women get all day long from 10 guys. You are lumping yourself in with all these guys instead of standing out.

Be interesting. Be unique. Have fun. Be bold. Get laid. Its that simple.

 

[flowtheory]

An update. I didn't call this one and just texted like suggested. We set a date on Monday to meet today for drinks. She works for a hospital and said if she'll need to reschedule, she'll let me know on Wednesday. Low and behold, at noon she texted and said she so sorry, but needs to reschedule. An organ is coming in at 5pm, so I cannot meet you tonight at 7:30. I replied no prob., we'll reschedule. She replied, again, so sorry, but no offer of a new day or time.

Another lady I was chatting online with sent me her number yesterday afternoon after suggesting we meet up. I texted her today and say hey it's rick, how are you? She replied a bit later and said okay, how are you? I said I am great. Do you have any plans for this weekend you are looking forward to? That was five hours ago. Not a peep since.

Not doing well with texting w/o calling. Ideas?

Rich, be more direct and take the reigns. Be the one to suggest new dates. Don’t go back and forth on texting and say ‘yea it’s okay we’ll reschedule’. Don’t even worry about phoning them.
Be concrete with plans and if they say they need to reschedule, immediately lock a new day down. Or ask what day works for them then go from there planting the new date.

Don’t get hung up in the reschedules or their weird behaviour because it’s probably going to happen with OLD women and just with women in general; they’re all over the place. Comes with the territory. Seems like you’re getting hung up and expecting to be let down these days.

Suggest one date, if she flakes or asks to reschedule, do that. If it happens twice, move on. And if she comes back, let her do all the leg work and be a little distant.

 

[RickTheToad]

Rick, not Rich.

I did state, we do it some other time, and she agreed, but didn't offer another day. That was where she would suggest another time and day. Running after ladies never works. Not hung up, it just weird how these ladies act. It is what it is. The funny thing is that she reached out to me online. I'll never understand these ladies and how they think.

 

[guru1000]

Exactly what I’m doing. All dates have been set.
And that last message was supposed to say 5 dates, not 4.

How much has the OLD Blueprint helped in your scheduling 5 dates?

 

[RickTheToad]

If you read your texts and could fall asleep reading them, dont send it.

They are boring. They are the same texts women get all day long from 10 guys. You are lumping yourself in with all these guys instead of standing out.

Be interesting. Be unique. Have fun. Be bold. Get laid. Its that simple.

How? Open to options. I am new to this texting game. I am not ashamed to say I just do not understand how to be interesting, unique and bold.

 

[flowtheory]

Rick, not Rich.

I did state, we do it some other time, and she agreed, but didn't offer another day. That was where she would suggest another time and day. Running after ladies never works. Not hung up, it just weird how these ladies act. It is what it is. The funny thing is that she reached out to me online. I'll never understand these ladies and how they think.

Rich, ladies always acting like this. But see it as feedback rather than ‘oh it’s funny’ because it’s not funny. Something is wrong with what you’re doing or your photos if this is a consistent thing. Come from the side that everything is your fault. Just show decisiveness and make bold moves. No patty cake texts to get her interest. That’s it. And in person kino, make some moves, don’t care too much, and make her qualify herself to you. Not the other way around. It seems as though you’re looking at them as the prize; which if you do it the other way, your game will have a shift. Don’t look for different, be different and you’ll get a different result.

Plus, Rich, I hijakced this thread from you. It’s mine now. Go start a new one.

 

[flowtheory]

How much has the OLD Blueprint helped in your scheduling 5 dates?

Respond to my PM’s and I’ll tell you

 

[RickTheToad]

Rich, ladies always acting like this. But see it as feedback rather than ‘oh it’s funny’ because it’s not funny. Something is wrong with what you’re doing or your photos if this is a consistent thing. Come from the side that everything is your fault. Just show decisiveness and make bold moves. No patty cake texts to get her interest. That’s it. And in person kino, make some moves, don’t care too much, and make her qualify herself to you. Not the other way around. It seems as though you’re looking at them as the prize; which if you do it the other way, your game will have a shift. Don’t look for different, be different and you’ll get a different result.

Plus, Rich, I hijakced this thread from you. It’s mine now. Go start a new one.

Still the OP, so I'll still take the lead in the thread. I do not put any of them on a pedestal. Is there a reason why you call me Rich instead of Rick? Would you like me to call you flowtoliet?

 

[flowtheory]

Still the OP, so I'll still take the lead in the thread. I do not put any of them on a pedestal. Is there a reason why you call me Rich instead of Rick? Would you like me to call you flowtoliet?

Rich, I never said you were pedestaling them. But you are certainly getting down about these girls who are rescheduling and flaking. We get it. It sucks when this happens. I’m just saying change your perspective a bit on why they may be doing this. They have to have a reason if it’s a consistent thing which happens to you. Right?

 

[RickTheToad]

flowtoliet, I get where you are coming from, but I cannot understand the reasoning or what I am doing that is necessarily wrong. When a lady gives you their number, You say hi how are you doing and anything cool coming up this weekend? What else is one supposed to text? I honestly do not know.

 

[flowtheory]

flowtoliet, I get where you are coming from, but I cannot understand the reasoning or what I am doing that is necessarily wrong. When a lady gives you their number, You say hi how are you doing and anything cool coming up this weekend? What else is one supposed to text? I honestly do not know.

Rich, don’t say THAT!
Get her number quickly, within first messages, and come out the gate with a date plan. BOLD. Who cares about her weekend?

Get number.. and then message her..
Rich: “Hey its RichTheToad, let’s meet at Toads for a drink at 7:30pm on Friday. Does this work for you?”
Her: “Yes, sounds good. But can we make it 8pm? I get off work at 7”
Rich: “See you then.”

Like I said. Stop the patty cake talk. It’s poinless and doesn’t make her fish wet. Get to the date. That’s your mission with them; everything else is just noise.
Then be cool and exciting and go for what you want with her - kino, kiss, sex, whatever. Get her juices flowing

 

[RickTheToad]

I will try that. Thank you. I have two others coming up.

Let's see what the next ones say... I hate texting.