Texting question

[DangNammit]

Okay... gonna try this again.

Kailex - Never said didn't want her to call... something prolly misunderstood. I just don't want to have the epic chats as jonwon describes.

Okay - she's older than me... older women turn me on. I'm very attracted to her and teeny-boober chics annoy the sh1t out of me.

Kids... yes, she is a divorced mom with kids. I am a divorced dad with 2 kids as well. I like kids and am not put off by the fact she has kids.

Lack of time / availability - this isn't just due to her... I have custody of my young kids as well. It makes it hard to get away at times. Our freetime, though limited does line up quite nicely. We have agreed to not meet each other's kids for some time. They are all young and do not need added confusion in their lives... in time, this may change and we will have the ability to meet with kids present.

I dig her...she is unlike most women I have met. We get along like buddies and physically, she does it for me. I can get sex - I've been there done that enough... I want the whole deal.

Make sense?

 

[jonwon]

Okay... gonna try this again.

Kailex - Never said didn't want her to call... something prolly misunderstood. I just don't want to have the epic chats as jonwon describes.

Okay - she's older than me... older women turn me on. I'm very attracted to her and teeny-boober chics annoy the sh1t out of me.

Kids... yes, she is a divorced mom with kids. I am a divorced dad with 2 kids as well. I like kids and am not put off by the fact she has kids.

Lack of time / availability - this isn't just due to her... I have custody of my young kids as well. It makes it hard to get away at times. Our freetime, though limited does line up quite nicely. We have agreed to not meet each other's kids for some time. They are all young and do not need added confusion in their lives... in time, this may change and we will have the ability to meet with kids present.

I dig her...she is unlike most women I have met. We get along like buddies and physically, she does it for me. I can get sex - I've been there done that enough... I want the whole deal.

Make sense?

Yes it does, why change yourself for someones opinion on a forum, us guys like to jump the gun, because we get so many guys come on here, who post about any piece of snatch.

You've described you like this chick, you have two kids of your own, and the reason for her not seeing you, is 50% your fault.

With that I still fail to see what the original problem is, personnally, I wouldn't give two monkeys about the text level, this from a guy who knows the sort of phone call wading you have to do, when a women incists on calling you, plenty and often.

I must state though that your need for her to reply and contact you, is needy! I'd address where this is coming from, she doesn't respond almost straight away no biggie.

Though it seems you have the pefect opportunity to aquire a few more plates, why dont you do so?

 

[DangNammit]

Hey jonwon - thanks for the reply...

Yeah, I'd agree to an extent... I don't think its so much neediness as a bit of a lack of self assurance. After my last run with a bpd nut, I am second-guessing my judgement a bit.

I've done a lot of self-evaluation in the past 6 mos... have dated tons... I think this gal spooks me because she really seems like a good fit for me. Only time will tell...

Honestly, I was getting rundown spinning plates... I didn't have enough time to myself. On my open weekends, I was going on anywhere from 2-4 dates with different gals. I'm tired of that right now...

I have found myself wanting to only spend time with the gal I'm seeing now... we have a good time.

 

[jonwon]

Hey jonwon - thanks for the reply...

Yeah, I'd agree to an extent... I don't think its so much neediness as a bit of a lack of self assurance. After my last run with a bpd nut, I am second-guessing my judgement a bit.

I've done a lot of self-evaluation in the past 6 mos... have dated tons... I think this gal spooks me because she really seems like a good fit for me. Only time will tell...

Honestly, I was getting rundown spinning plates... I didn't have enough time to myself. On my open weekends, I was going on anywhere from 2-4 dates with different gals. I'm tired of that right now...

I have found myself wanting to only spend time with the gal I'm seeing now... we have a good time.

I understand, but you hardly see her.

Your needyness will be solved if you have another girl in the mix or two, trust me on that.

You'd think you'd jepordise the relationship, its a natural avoidance to not want to mess up a relationship by tossing another girl into the mix, but personnally, I know from experiance if anything it makes the girls your with, how can I say, more invested - As long as you know how to keep it under wraps and make them not think your dating other girls, what it does is infuse that type of guy women drift towards, it removes the insecurity and the needyness and replaces it with inner confidence, confidence in knowing you have options and if one of the girls doesn't comply you can replace her.

Seriously you should only be thinking about being serious after an extensive test period with ideally 2-3 girls in the mix and then choosing the best one, it is the best way.

I feel you think this chick is a fit for you, because your not getting any other chick to compare her to, your not getting other experiances.

Get a few more plates, you have the pefect opportunity - You dont even date this girl that often, maybe you use your kids as a crux or other excuses, but you know deep down you want a few more options available, instead of sticking all your eggs in one basket, a basket that to me isn't as great has your making out, yeh she seems ok for your tastes, but in all fairness, you could if you put some work into it, get a girl who is far more accomodating and is a bit more of a giver, instead of tossing in romantisced notions to this chick, which is what you are doing due to your lack of comparitive options.