Texting game?

[War Against Betaism]

I've noticed that women absolutely loving texting. On the other hand I don't really like texting. I usually blow people off after the first or second text message unless it is really important. Though I find it kind of hard to keep in touch with women and I think it has a large part to do with texting. I said that I don't like texting but that is actually a front, I just don't really have texting game.

What I get right IMO is that I don't spend a lot of time on my phone texting like some other friends I have--which is kind of a pet peeve for me, especially during movies--though the problem I have is that, well, I guess I just don't have confidence when it comes to keeping in touch with women through texting. Any help?

 

[I-tallionStallion]

Watch comedians, read jokes, and send interesting messages that have more than one word. There is not really anything special about text messaging and in all reality you shouldn't text too much. I like to let the girl text more.

Just be yourself in the texts. Keep things short sometimes, or send a girl something cute, or sarcastic, or just plain weird. I'm a fan of picture messages if I come across something funny. Or just be damn mysterious and don't text for awhile. Drives women crazy so they are constantly checking their phones just like you do when you wait for a girl you like to text back.

make sure once in a while you get the girl on the phone. If you are more confident talking, do that too. Just mix it up man...it isn't all that difficult. No need to be ultra fancy with text moves with chicks.

Also, use good grammer and make sure the text makes sense.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Thanks man, when you say it like that it sounds so simple, but when you don't have much confidence in a certain area, it seems like you need a deep understanding of it.

 

[Nutz]

I've been really going nuts with text game lately. Here are my rules thumb I've developed thus far:

I've been really going nuts with text game lately. Here are my rules thumb I've developed thus far:

Ground Rules:

• Keep it light, fun, & flirty
  
  Slowly go sexual
  
  Seed the D2
  
  Don't drag text convos on for too long.
  
  Don't expect a reply. Send it out and go about your daily activities.
  
  Always be the one to end it, having her text last.

My current SOP:


1) Be memorable
Do something ballsy on the spot when getting the number. Shortly after I get a number is text her something ****y funny such

"OMG! Who is that sexy guy you're talking to?! Quick, get his number before he leaves!"


2) Reopen.
When following up in a day or 2 I first send a quick fun non-sequitor to get a fun & flirty vibe established. Here are some

examples of what I'm talking about:

# I think I'm pregnant.
# I'm out hunting dinosaurs. What are you doing?
# KABOOM! POW!
# The canary is back in the cage. We're meeting Red at six.
# Did you do that that thing at the place? I'm still waiting for the gift.
# Pull out. Eagle 2 is back.
# Aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking sexy ass people! You will be safe, I'm just texting to say goodbye.
# Why'd you have to give your mom my phone number…? She won't quit calling me now…
# I miss you & want to see you, but this dumb security guard won't let me in the zoo. Is there any way you can escape?
# I just met your twin. – She’s just like you, she won’t stop grabbing my ass / asking me out
# I'm naked...quit day-dreaming!
# You know what I love about you? I feel so smart when I'm around you
# What's cuter, a pony the size of a kitten, or a kitten the size of a pony?
# If I was a pickup artist, you'd so be mine!
# I can’t sleep. Stop snoring so loud
# Is that you right now in my tree again? The neighbors are going to call the cops on you, and I’m not bailing you out this

time. I warned you about this type of behavior!
# I'm going to lure girls back to my house with candy. Do you prefer skittles or M&Ms?
# Gorgeous, funny, charming, and lovable... Well enough about me, how are you doing?
# Hey, remember how I’m psychic? Clean out those dirty thoughts of me in your head, I’m with my family…
# Stop undressing me with your eyes.
# I have a question hon. Can you handle an honest compliment? – Good, so can I. You go first
# I was just at the beach and I saw a fish. It reminded me of you

FYI, the lines came from this thread:
http://www.stylelife.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=55995


3) Follow up
Take their answer or reply and send back something funny and don't be afraid to bust on them a bit. However, you need to snip

& stack to get things moving forward quickly, otherwise the vibe may stall.


4) Logistics
Seed the D2 or follow-up plans if we already time-bridged.


5) Pacing
Generally speaking I try to take as long as they do to reply. If it takes them an hour or two to reply, then I do the same.

It's a good way of matching interest levels and not coming across as needy. The goal is to convey the subtext of always being

busy without saying you are. Just make them wait. Never text back immediately even if you aren't busy. Wait about 10 minutes

anyway. If they are taking longer then that to respond, again, wait the amount of time they took (within reason) to respond.

All that being said, you may need to answer back quickly in the beginning if THEY ARE REPLYING QUICKLY. If they take the slow

boat then you should too.


6) Know when to stop
If they text more and more and start trying to have a conversation then just call. Too much is lost in texting. At least with

a phone call you can be quick, hear the tone and pacing of their voice, etc. Finish up what needs to be said and get off the damn thing.


Below is a real transcript of me gaming an HB over the last couple days:

Me: What's cuter, a pony the size of a kitten, or a kitten the size of a pony?
HB: Well, I think the second one. wouldn't a kitten the size of a pony be like a tiger? I like tigers!
Me: Lol ur such a girly girl! Never would have taken u for that. (that's a neg in case you missed it) Tigers are badass tho-were my hs mascot.
(giving value to her choice and relating it to me)
HB: Yeah I can be a girly girl. It depends on my mood. Tigers and leopards are definitely bad ass.
(now I have enough to work with)
Me: Ok miss tigres, when u going to show me your special pounce moves? Cant be 2nite tho...about 2 walk into class.
HB: Like a tiger I watch my prey first. To see if it is worth pouncing on.
(slight **** test, which was essentially punished with the 3 hour break for class and my busting back in my next reply. and since the flirting and sexual vibes were probably lost a bit I'll need to bring them back as well)
Me: Big talk for a ***** cat
(notice the space and subtle hint)
HB: Ha ha your funny.
Me: Dont forget sexy. Dont think I didnt notice u checking me out (kinda forced it)
HB: Oh really? Huh well aren't you high on yourself? Lol (yea, overdid it a bit, calibrate back down)
Me: Yeah, u got me. ive been known 2 flirt from time to time
HB: yeah flirting is fun (game is back on)
Me: Hope u r hungry. If u can wait a few days u can stalk your prey Wed night.
HB: Oh I'm sorry. I can't Wednesday night. How about another night?
Me: Friday is still partially free. Might be able to bring mr merlot with me and do a little hunting of our own in the tiger's natural habitat.
HB: I think Friday I'm going out with the girls in Annapolis. Hey just curious where do you live?


This is where things started to get off track and I called. We fluff talked and I tried to set up the D2 for Friday, but she seems sketchy about that day since she has plans with her friends. Later I followed up with:

Me: Fri just booked up 4 me. Maybe i can get the guys to go on an annapolis safari. We'll have 2 see as it gets closer
HB: Ok. I totally understand.
Me: Cool. Worst case u guys can swing by after the hunt and unwind with me and my wii...Hey, did u know im psychic? Stop thinking dirty thoughs! Naughty girl
...next day...
HB: Oh what games do you have to play on your wii? (completely missed the opportunity to go sexual with "playing with my wii")
Me: Guitar hero world tour, legends of rock, wiifit, and a few others. U a gt/rock band chick?
Me: Also have lion tamer 2.0 and cougar hunter 4
HB: Never played guitar hero. But I heard it was crazy fun! Ha ha lion tamer.
Me: Never? We'll have 2 fix that. Lucky 4 you i might be free l8r. U have to promise not to bite or scratch or ill have 2 use the whip. Ill bring the catnip
HB: I have to do some things when I get home tonight. Are you busy on Sunday? We can get together for lunch or dinner?
Me: Ok little kitten. Sunday works, but only if you promise to make me laugh once a day
HB: Well how about try to make you laugh. I can't be reprimanded if you are moody and nothing will make you laugh. Lol
...next day...
HB: Hey do you enjoy your wii fit? A co worker told me it is on sale right now at Target?
Me: Was fun at first, especially watching girls hula loop realy tho i dont use it that much. Not enough time these days. If u get it cheap id go 4 it
HB: Ahh so you bought the wii fit to watch the hula hooping. You know you are the hula hoop champion!
Me: I am the hula master. U should see how I swing those hips baby!

 

[crazymedstudent]

I've been really going nuts with text game lately. Here are my rules thumb I've developed thus far:

1a) I try to do something memorable on the spot. My stock thing to do shortly after I get a number is to text her something funny such as the following:

"OMG! Who is that sexy guy you're talking to?! Quick, get his number before he leaves!"

1b) After I've gotten the number, as in later on in the night, assuming it's a cellphone that receives sms I send one of the below lines. If not, then I try to call her and ask her something silly and playful and seed a time-bridge if I hadn't already.

2) When following up in a day or 2 I first send a quick fun non-sequitor to get the right context and vibe established. Here are some examples of what I'm talking about:



3) I follow up their answer or reply with something funny and bust on them a bit, then snip & stack.

4) From there I establish logistics and seed the situation for us to hang out (or follow-up plans if we already came up with something). If they text more than that and start trying to have a conversation then I just call.

5) If calling or texting, take as long as they do to reply. If it takes them 4 hours or 24 hours to reply, then I do the same. It's a good way of matching interest levels and not coming across as needy. However, I like the advice one of the guys in my local lair has on this as well:




FYI, those lines above came from this thread:
http://www.stylelife.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=55995


Here's an example of how to do text game right (IMO) and is a direct transcript of me gaming an HB I met Saturday night at the bar crawl. The key points are

- keep it light, fun, & flirty
- slowly go sexual
- seed the D2

Me: What's cuter, a pony the size of a kitten, or a kitten the size of a pony?
HB: Well, I think the second one. wouldn't a kitten the size of a pony be like a tiger? I like tigers!
Me: Lol ur such a girly girl! Never would have taken u for that. (that's a neg in case you missed it) Tigers are badass tho-were my hs mascot.
(giving value to her choice and relating it to me)
HB: Yeah I can be a girly girl. It depends on my mood. Tigers and leopards are definitely bad ass.
(now I have enough to work with)
Me: Ok miss tigres, when u going to show me your special pounce moves? Cant be 2nite tho...about 2 walk into class.
HB: Like a tiger I watch my prey first. To see if it is worth pouncing on.
(slight **** test, which was essentially punished with the 3 hour break for class and my busting back in my next reply. and since the flirting and sexual vibes were probably lost a bit I'll need to bring them back as well)
Me: Big talk for a ***** cat
(notice the space and subtle hint)
HB: Ha ha your funny.
Me: Dont forget sexy. Dont think I didnt notice u checking me out (kinda forced it)
HB: Oh really? Huh well aren't you high on yourself? Lol (yea, overdid it a bit, calibrate back down)
Me: Yeah, u got me. ive been known 2 flirt from time to time
HB: yeah flirting is fun (game is back on)
Me: Hope u r hungry. If u can wait a few days u can stalk your prey Wed night.
HB: Oh I'm sorry. I can't Wednesday night. How about another night?
Me: Friday is still partially free. Might be able to bring mr merlot with me and do a little hunting of our own in the tiger's natural habitat.
HB: I think Friday I'm going out with the girls in Annapolis. Hey just curious where do you live?


And this is where I called since it was getting off track...

those are some money texts nutz!

 

[AcerGuild]

I'm ok starting a text convo but I slip when a chick initiates a text and I can't think of anything funny to say like she has the control.
Those lines are cool - cheers

 

[nightcrawler]

I've been really going nuts with text game lately. Here are my rules thumb I've developed thus far:

1a) I try to do something memorable on the spot. My stock thing to do shortly after I get a number is to text her something funny such as the following:

"OMG! Who is that sexy guy you're talking to?! Quick, get his number before he leaves!"

1b) After I've gotten the number, as in later on in the night, assuming it's a cellphone that receives sms I send one of the below lines. If not, then I try to call her and ask her something silly and playful and seed a time-bridge if I hadn't already.

2) When following up in a day or 2 I first send a quick fun non-sequitor to get the right context and vibe established. Here are some examples of what I'm talking about:



3) I follow up their answer or reply with something funny and bust on them a bit, then snip & stack.

4) From there I establish logistics and seed the situation for us to hang out (or follow-up plans if we already came up with something). If they text more than that and start trying to have a conversation then I just call.

5) If calling or texting, take as long as they do to reply. If it takes them 4 hours or 24 hours to reply, then I do the same. It's a good way of matching interest levels and not coming across as needy. However, I like the advice one of the guys in my local lair has on this as well:




FYI, those lines above came from this thread:
http://www.stylelife.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=55995


Here's an example of how to do text game right (IMO) and is a direct transcript of me gaming an HB I met Saturday night at the bar crawl. The key points are

- keep it light, fun, & flirty
- slowly go sexual
- seed the D2

Me: What's cuter, a pony the size of a kitten, or a kitten the size of a pony?
HB: Well, I think the second one. wouldn't a kitten the size of a pony be like a tiger? I like tigers!
Me: Lol ur such a girly girl! Never would have taken u for that. (that's a neg in case you missed it) Tigers are badass tho-were my hs mascot.
(giving value to her choice and relating it to me)
HB: Yeah I can be a girly girl. It depends on my mood. Tigers and leopards are definitely bad ass.
(now I have enough to work with)
Me: Ok miss tigres, when u going to show me your special pounce moves? Cant be 2nite tho...about 2 walk into class.
HB: Like a tiger I watch my prey first. To see if it is worth pouncing on.
(slight **** test, which was essentially punished with the 3 hour break for class and my busting back in my next reply. and since the flirting and sexual vibes were probably lost a bit I'll need to bring them back as well)
Me: Big talk for a ***** cat
(notice the space and subtle hint)
HB: Ha ha your funny.
Me: Dont forget sexy. Dont think I didnt notice u checking me out (kinda forced it)
HB: Oh really? Huh well aren't you high on yourself? Lol (yea, overdid it a bit, calibrate back down)
Me: Yeah, u got me. ive been known 2 flirt from time to time
HB: yeah flirting is fun (game is back on)
Me: Hope u r hungry. If u can wait a few days u can stalk your prey Wed night.
HB: Oh I'm sorry. I can't Wednesday night. How about another night?
Me: Friday is still partially free. Might be able to bring mr merlot with me and do a little hunting of our own in the tiger's natural habitat.
HB: I think Friday I'm going out with the girls in Annapolis. Hey just curious where do you live?


And this is where I called since it was getting off track...

are you gaming 10 year old girls man? this is horrible.

 

[Nutz]

are you gaming 10 year old girls man? this is horrible.

27 year old Sr financial analyst for some accounting firm in DC. Also working on 2 models, and a chemical engineer (and just cut a veterinarian).

Women like emotional stimulation. Whodathunkit?! While to guys romance novels are utter crap, to women they're a guilty pleasure. There's a reason for that and knowing how to tap into that conduit of the female brain is key to getting women interested. This is why women will say things about me like "he's not usually my type, but...." It means I have enough game to get past their usual preferences and I'm fun, sexy, and a challenge. All of which are things quality women respond positively to.

 

[nightcrawler]

27 year old Sr financial analyst for some accounting firm in DC. Also working on 2 models, and a chemical engineer (and just cut a veterinarian).

Women like emotional stimulation. Whodathunkit?! While to guys romance novels are utter crap, to women they're a guilty pleasure. There's a reason for that and knowing how to tap into that conduit of the female brain is key to getting women interested. This is why women will say things about me like "he's not usually my type, but...." It means I have enough game to get past their usual preferences and I'm fun, sexy, and a challenge. All of which are things quality women respond positively to.

What's cuter, a pony the size of a kitten, or a kitten the size of a pony?

^^ what kind of male thinks about that?

 

[COD]

ya I agree U should adjust your texts to the situation or individual. I disagree with the matching time lag.........2 hours or the next day to respond to a text........like who remembers what they texted 2 hours or 24 hours ago. I think virtual seduction falls outside normal gaming parameters pertaining to time intervals as far as coming across too needy.

Keep in mind the time of day and their attention level affects results when texting. If I texted someone at 2:00Am as opposed to 2oPM it might reap different results. Whether they are alone or at a party, driving or in class this all affects text results.

I STILL STANDBY-TEXT 4 A PURPOSE not cause You are bored. That means text to get to the next level, have a plan, not just for the sake of flirting, building future potential.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I am no master texter but I think it helps to occasionally shut your phone off or not answer it for a few hours at a time here and there. Most guys hover over the phone so that they don't miss a text reply from a girl they like. Going a few hours without responding will make a girl think of you, wondering why you did not reply and if you could be out with another girl. It also tells a girl you have stuff to do, and that she is not your top priority.

 

[Ollie]

What's cuter, a pony the size of a kitten, or a kitten the size of a pony?

^^ what kind of male thinks about that?

None. That's the point of it. Being unusual and strange are a good thing if it's done in a funny way. I've never used any of the above lines per se and can't really think of anything I've used as I just think of them spontaneously, but the sh!t works really well. Get a girl laughing and the games all but won unless you're socially retarded. What would you recommend? Texting them and asking if they caught the football game last Sunday? Just curious.

 

[Nutz]

After looking over some stuff at the CC and reviewing my transcript with that in mind, I see a few things wrong with it. Came off as needy a few times, seem to be too available, and wasn't dominant and sexual enough throughout. Need to push boundaries more. Overall it's a huge step up from the last HB I tried to run text game on, but there's room for improvement.

 

[nightcrawler]

None. That's the point of it. Being unusual and strange are a good thing if it's done in a funny way. I've never used any of the above lines per se and can't really think of anything I've used as I just think of them spontaneously, but the sh!t works really well. Get a girl laughing and the games all but won unless you're socially retarded. What would you recommend? Texting them and asking if they caught the football game last Sunday? Just curious.

use the above lines if you want to come off as a queer.

 

[Nutz]

Bump because I updated my rules and had some commentary on the transcript. Also...

I STILL STANDBY-TEXT 4 A PURPOSE not cause You are bored. That means text to get to the next level, have a plan, not just for the sake of flirting, building future potential.

I fully agree. I should probably put that into my guidelines since I do that already. I just don't think I've ever explicitly stated as much.

 

[The Bat]

Thanks man, when you say it like that it sounds so simple, but when you don't have much confidence in a certain area, it seems like you need a deep understanding of it.

Man, what kind of BS is this?

You are not confident in texting?

Give me a break bro. Read what you wrote to yourself again. Why feel bad about yourself when there is no need for it?

For the record, I think you do fine. Just text back if it's important otherwise don't. Who gives a fvck? If words had the ability to increase or decrease attraction in a woman, then all the internet Shakespeare nerds would be getting laid like rockstars, wouldn't they?