Texting for Maximum Attraction

[GrimReapaLifeEnda]

Does someone have a guide/tips for texting for maximum attraction with a girl who you just recently met. I do realize that most attraction is built through body language, etc and that a phone call is better. However, in today's day and age, texting has become a reality. Some girls give you the digits with the expectation that you'll exchange some texts throughout the next few days to get to know eachother.

I was just wondering what the best way is to maximize your chances with a girl when you find yourself having to text her. Eg how to build rapport, how long/short to make responses, use of "lol's", smileys, what to say when she tells you what kind of relationship/guy she's looking for, and basically, how to send off your dominant/****y/funny vibes with only the use of words.

 

[Chickfight]

Does someone have a guide/tips for texting for maximum attraction with a girl who you just recently met. I do realize that most attraction is built through body language, etc and that a phone call is better. However, in today's day and age, texting has become a reality. Some girls give you the digits with the expectation that you'll exchange some texts throughout the next few days to get to know eachother.

I was just wondering what the best way is to maximize your chances with a girl when you find yourself having to text her. Eg how to build rapport, how long/short to make responses, use of "lol's", smileys, what to say when she tells you what kind of relationship/guy she's looking for, and basically, how to send off your dominant/****y/funny vibes with only the use of words.

Yes, you should always do exactly what a woman expects. Predictability is the always the biggest turn on.

Seriously bro, why would you follow her rules? You make the rules and the best part is thats girls want you to do! Texting DOES NOT create attraction, the best you can hope for is to retain the attraction level you already have. Everything that works in person doesn't work through text and there's a million ways you can fck up, something funny sounds stupid, something ****y sounds assholish, why would you set yourself up in that position?

Like many others have said, ONLY text to set up a date. If you call, you can flirt around a bit, but in the end you also have to move it towards a date.

CALL her and if she tells you to text, just say you don't like texting and you'd rather talk. What's so hard about that?

 

[runner83]

Yes, you should always do exactly what a woman expects. Predictability is the always the biggest turn on.

Seriously bro, why would you follow her rules? You make the rules and the best part is thats girls want you to do! Texting DOES NOT create attraction, the best you can hope for is to retain the attraction level you already have. Everything that works in person doesn't work through text and there's a million ways you can fck up, something funny sounds stupid, something ****y sounds assholish, why would you set yourself up in that position?

Like many others have said, ONLY text to set up a date. If you call, you can flirt around a bit, but in the end you also have to move it towards a date.

CALL her and if she tells you to text, just say you don't like texting and you'd rather talk. What's so hard about that?

This is great advice, but I couldn't rep him again.

Keep it short and always do it less than she does. Primary focus should be to set up to meet in person.

"Judge by Actions not by Words" - and texting falls under the criteria of words. Sure, you might get some idea of how into you she is by if she initiates texts, how quick she responds etc but these are unreliable.

Meeting up in person and how she acts then is the only true measure.

The girl I am banging again (with a bit of a hiatus because of my broken arm) has told me on more than one occasion about how she is going to time my responses to texts, I don't always respond etc...but guess what, it works.

Personally I only use text until I have banged the girl and she has earnt the value of my time, in which case she might get the occasional phone call.

Avoid use of "lol" and smileys...use them very sparingly.

Don't overdo of ****y and funny since it can be misinterpreted in text.

Ignore anything she says about the sort of guy she is looking for, since as we all know, words mean nothing. Actions are all.

If you don't know that, read the post linked in my sig.

 

[rocket87]

Although what you guys are saying is fully true, texting is very much accepted as a communicative norm with the younger crowd, esp. with the 18-24 range. I used to follow these (above) rules pretty strictly until I realized it was actually hurting my game. Yes. It was hurting my game.

The use [sparingly] of texts to create attraction is totally beneficial and WILL enhance your comfort & attraction between you and a younger girl; but by no means should you rule out phone game all together -

Remember, a lot of these girls will be much more comfortable texting with someone they don't know; especially at first. Here's a great example. Currently, I'm building towards a potential LTR (or rather, a sweet girl who has LTR potential) with someone who I met and interacted with for about 60 seconds... I literally told her that she had cute boots, and asked if she always wears shoes that are as adorable as what she had on. It was at the silent area in a strict-ass library so after saying that I told her I wanted to take her out and we exchanged numbers.

We texted each other for a couple days, met up, and she's one of the most genuine, highest IL, sexiest girls I've ever met. Think of my situation - There's NO WAY calling her would have been able to form such a connection that would've lead to a quick hang out (2 days later - while the spark was still there.. Which is also a quick reminder that, and yes this is counter-intuitive, the LESS connection, the faster you have to move!). I didn't talk to her on the phone once 'til she pulled into the place we met and told me she was there.



So, can/should texting be your primary method of communication? Absolutely..! But, it depends on the maturity and specific situation surrounding the girl. You have to calibrate and pay attention to comfort levels/interest levels/attraction levels... It should be fairly obvious, just step back and look at it as a common sense approach instead of over-analyzing the situation (think back to my example.)

And it's worth repeating (as stated by others above this post) - There are things that should be avoided such as over-use of smileys (I personally use them all the time depending on how often a girl does);

And, finally.. At the end of the day... If a girl is into you, IT DOESNT MATTER what you do really as long as you're alpha about it. This also comes with time and should become a fairly obvious indicator.

 

[Audiophile]

Although what you guys are saying is fully true, texting is very much accepted as a communicative norm with the younger crowd, esp. with the 18-24 range. I used to follow these (above) rules pretty strictly until I realized it was actually hurting my game. Yes. It was hurting my game.

The use [sparingly] of texts to create attraction is totally beneficial and WILL enhance your comfort & attraction between you and a younger girl; but by no means should you rule out phone game all together -

Remember, a lot of these girls will be much more comfortable texting with someone they don't know; especially at first. Here's a great example. Currently, I'm building towards a potential LTR (or rather, a sweet girl who has LTR potential) with someone who I met and interacted with for about 60 seconds... I literally told her that she had cute boots, and asked if she always wears shoes that are as adorable as what she had on. It was at the silent area in a strict-ass library so after saying that I told her I wanted to take her out and we exchanged numbers.

We texted each other for a couple days, met up, and she's one of the most genuine, highest IL, sexiest girls I've ever met. Think of my situation - There's NO WAY calling her would have been able to form such a connection that would've lead to a quick hang out (2 days later - while the spark was still there.. Which is also a quick reminder that, and yes this is counter-intuitive, the LESS connection, the faster you have to move!). I didn't talk to her on the phone once 'til she pulled into the place we met and told me she was there.



So, can/should texting be your primary method of communication? Absolutely..! But, it depends on the maturity and specific situation surrounding the girl. You have to calibrate and pay attention to comfort levels/interest levels/attraction levels... It should be fairly obvious, just step back and look at it as a common sense approach instead of over-analyzing the situation (think back to my example.)

And it's worth repeating (as stated by others above this post) - There are things that should be avoided such as over-use of smileys (I personally use them all the time depending on how often a girl does);

And, finally.. At the end of the day... If a girl is into you, IT DOESNT MATTER what you do really as long as you're alpha about it. This also comes with time and should become a fairly obvious indicator.

+reps, good post.

Texting is just another tool you can use to create comfort/keep attraction. I believe texting can be used to create attraction, but ONLY if you are very good with your words and are talking to the right kind of woman. I've found that shyer, more reserved girls are much better to text at first than to call, it will make them a lot more comfortable around you once you are in person.

I bolded my favourite part of that post. It really doesn't matter what you do as long as you know what you're doing. I guarantee each one of us works differently when attracting women, what works for one may not work for another, texting included.

 

[GrimReapaLifeEnda]

Although what you guys are saying is fully true, texting is very much accepted as a communicative norm with the younger crowd, esp. with the 18-24 range. I used to follow these (above) rules pretty strictly until I realized it was actually hurting my game. Yes. It was hurting my game.

The use [sparingly] of texts to create attraction is totally beneficial and WILL enhance your comfort & attraction between you and a younger girl; but by no means should you rule out phone game all together -

Remember, a lot of these girls will be much more comfortable texting with someone they don't know; especially at first. Here's a great example. Currently, I'm building towards a potential LTR (or rather, a sweet girl who has LTR potential) with someone who I met and interacted with for about 60 seconds... I literally told her that she had cute boots, and asked if she always wears shoes that are as adorable as what she had on. It was at the silent area in a strict-ass library so after saying that I told her I wanted to take her out and we exchanged numbers.

We texted each other for a couple days, met up, and she's one of the most genuine, highest IL, sexiest girls I've ever met. Think of my situation - There's NO WAY calling her would have been able to form such a connection that would've lead to a quick hang out (2 days later - while the spark was still there.. Which is also a quick reminder that, and yes this is counter-intuitive, the LESS connection, the faster you have to move!). I didn't talk to her on the phone once 'til she pulled into the place we met and told me she was there.



So, can/should texting be your primary method of communication? Absolutely..! But, it depends on the maturity and specific situation surrounding the girl. You have to calibrate and pay attention to comfort levels/interest levels/attraction levels... It should be fairly obvious, just step back and look at it as a common sense approach instead of over-analyzing the situation (think back to my example.)

And it's worth repeating (as stated by others above this post) - There are things that should be avoided such as over-use of smileys (I personally use them all the time depending on how often a girl does);

And, finally.. At the end of the day... If a girl is into you, IT DOESNT MATTER what you do really as long as you're alpha about it. This also comes with time and should become a fairly obvious indicator.

Good stuff. Texting definitely affects your game...every girl I know texts and loves to receive texts. I personally use them because I am usually talking to multiple girls at once and I prefer to text since I'm at work all day. It's just more convenient for me.

Love how you said you have to gauge the situation. I have indeed gotten some shy girls to open up much quicker through texts, and built attraction in the attention-*****s by responding quick for a while and then becoming mysteriously unavailable.

Also, great point about the less connection-faster move. If you haven't built a strong rapport with a girl when you get the digits, you'll be out of sight-out of mind in a hurry so its best to keep yourself relevant with some texts.

With smileys, I have found they work best when used right after she uses one in relation to you. Eg if she says "I was just thinking about you ;-)" go ahead, wink back if you can pull it off. BUT, never use them first, and never use them in response to something random she says with a smiley, eg "I just ate some great food =)", don't say "I bet it was delicious =)".

PS I didn't mean to set off a bunch of "just call, don't succumb to her rules and text" responses. I was simply acknowledging the fact that texts have become a major part of most of our lives and wondered if anyone had refined text game the way we have refined club game, street approach game, online game, etc.

 

[vatoloco]

Texting is just another tool you can use to create comfort/keep attraction. I believe texting can be used to create attraction, but ONLY if you are very good with your words and are talking to the right kind of woman.

IDK about creating attraction (you don't have the physical interaction needed for that) but I'd say that it at least keeps you in her mind.

Go ahead and text, as long as you know what you're doing. Just do it in moderation.

 

[Jariel]

Rapport and charisma are your best friends when it comes to texting/emailing. Show that you're interested in her, get her to talk about her interests and passions, and she'll feel like she's had the most amazing conversation. Don't worry too much about selling yourself or trying to be cool, ****y or funny, although the occasional C+F response or neg hit is always good.

This will separate you from the guys who text "What's up?" and try too hard to be cool, or the others who jump right into the sex talk and come off desperate.

I always find that once you engage a woman's mind, you get her to invest time in you and that goes a long way.

Just be careful not to become her friend. Wait until she seems comfortable with you, and then gradually introduce sex talk with the odd cheeky comment or innuendo and escalate from there.

 

[Chickfight]

Although what you guys are saying is fully true, texting is very much accepted as a communicative norm with the younger crowd, esp. with the 18-24 range. I used to follow these (above) rules pretty strictly until I realized it was actually hurting my game. Yes. It was hurting my game.

The use [sparingly] of texts to create attraction is totally beneficial and WILL enhance your comfort & attraction between you and a younger girl; but by no means should you rule out phone game all together -

Remember, a lot of these girls will be much more comfortable texting with someone they don't know; especially at first. Here's a great example. Currently, I'm building towards a potential LTR (or rather, a sweet girl who has LTR potential) with someone who I met and interacted with for about 60 seconds... I literally told her that she had cute boots, and asked if she always wears shoes that are as adorable as what she had on. It was at the silent area in a strict-ass library so after saying that I told her I wanted to take her out and we exchanged numbers.

We texted each other for a couple days, met up, and she's one of the most genuine, highest IL, sexiest girls I've ever met. Think of my situation - There's NO WAY calling her would have been able to form such a connection that would've lead to a quick hang out (2 days later - while the spark was still there.. Which is also a quick reminder that, and yes this is counter-intuitive, the LESS connection, the faster you have to move!). I didn't talk to her on the phone once 'til she pulled into the place we met and told me she was there.



So, can/should texting be your primary method of communication? Absolutely..! But, it depends on the maturity and specific situation surrounding the girl. You have to calibrate and pay attention to comfort levels/interest levels/attraction levels... It should be fairly obvious, just step back and look at it as a common sense approach instead of over-analyzing the situation (think back to my example.)

And it's worth repeating (as stated by others above this post) - There are things that should be avoided such as over-use of smileys (I personally use them all the time depending on how often a girl does);

And, finally.. At the end of the day... If a girl is into you, IT DOESNT MATTER what you do really as long as you're alpha about it. This also comes with time and should become a fairly obvious indicator.

I've had a lot of success doing it my way, but I've never been much of a texter, so I won't rule out what you're saying.

I just don't feel there is such a thing a text game. If you're good at texting, you can build comfort and not say things that will make her lose attraction, but I stand by my opinion that you cannot build real attraction.

You're obviously an experienced texter so you don't overdo it or send messages that turn her off, but what I see in your example is her already being attracted to you from your first in person meeting, but lacking any comfort cause she hardly knew you. The texting afterwards was useful to build enough comfort so she would actually go out with you. She didn't get more attracted, she just became more comfortable showing the attraction she already had.

I've never experienced a girls real physical attraction level being higher than the last time I saw her in person from texting in between.

There's nothing wrong with texting, it serves it's purpose, but texting with the goal of building attraction puts you at a severe handicap.