Wilko said:
Atom Smasher, I really, really like the sound of that move. Had any direct feedback about it, like a week later the girls says, "you know that first time we went out and you told me to turn my phone off, I........"?
Yes, Wilko, three of them have later told me exactly the same thing, that they were rather surprised that I did and said this, and that their respect for me went way up because of it.
I've never had a bad response, and if I ever do she's gone. But again, so far no problems with this move, only an increase in respect.
To expound, I've found that the "shock" factor works wonders, but you have to either be well-calibrated with it or else just have a knack for pulling it off (probably the latter is the case with me). For example, I'll indicate to them that the male is the leader in any relationship, and after their jaw hits the ground you can practically see those little cartoon hearts fly out of her head like when Sally looks at Linus in The Great pumpkin.
I think I'm talking about something that I just have a knack for, though. I don't know how universal it is when it comes to that male/female stuff. The bottom line for me is to establish dominance inmmediately.
I encourage everyone to try the "shut off the phone" move, though. I would suspect that its effect would be fairly universal. And when I say it, I mean it because I
will not tolerate a woman talking on the phone or texting while she's with me. She's allowed one mistake, and one only. No second chance, but honestly, once I declare the boundary there is never a breach or a testing in my experience. YMMV.
