Texting back in grey area

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How do you text a girl you think is on the fence or is losing interest and is sending messages as to when she is free only to not reply for days.

I want to send a text re-affirming whether she wants to still meet up and if she doesn't, not to waste anymore time leading me on.
 

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Simple.

Don't waste your time and move on. If your already waiting days for to get a reply from her then your on the backburner. Trust me man no girl makes a guy she is interested in wait on her like that. She is interested in someone else and is most likely only texting you when she is bored and isn't hearing from her primary guy.

Now there is a slight chance that I'm wrong for your particular scenario but with women you are usually alot better off just following general rules about this kind of stuff. Remember there will always be exceptions but that doesn't make all advice null.
 

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Thundernuts said:
Simple.

Don't waste your time and move on. If your already waiting days for to get a reply from her then your on the backburner. Trust me man no girl makes a guy she is interested in wait on her like that. She is interested in someone else and is most likely only texting you when she is bored and isn't hearing from her primary guy.

Now there is a slight chance that I'm wrong for your particular scenario but with women you are usually alot better off just following general rules about this kind of stuff. Remember there will always be exceptions but that doesn't make all advice null.
This was after one date, i texted her to go out again to which she replied that she can't go on the days I set however she could go tomorrow. I told her I couldn't tomorrow and suggested her other free day only to not get a reply. This is why it's confusing seeing the date went well and she wanted to meet up on the next day.
 

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Greensticker said:
This was after one date, i texted her to go out again to which she replied that she can't go on the days I set however she could go tomorrow. I told her I couldn't tomorrow and suggested her other free day only to not get a reply. This is why it's confusing seeing the date went well and she wanted to meet up on the next day.

Hmm, try waiting a few days and initiate a convo. Just don't ask her out right away again otherwise you could unintentionally give her the feeling that she is your only option.

Once their ego hits that peak its a ***** to knock down and usually isnt worth it.

But she did counter-offer so thats a plus. Just try not to come off as to desperate and don't hang on her text.
 

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Thundernuts said:
Hmm, try waiting a few days and initiate a convo. Just don't ask her out right away again otherwise you could unintentionally give her the feeling that she is your only option.

Once their ego hits that peak its a ***** to knock down and usually isnt worth it.

But she did counter-offer so thats a plus. Just try not to come off as to desperate and don't hang on her text.
What can you text out of the blue when the last thing you said to her was that you're free for another day and she didn't reply to that? It's hard to casually start a conversation, especially since so far we've only set plans to meet through text.
 

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Greensticker said:
What can you text out of the blue when the last thing you said to her was that you're free for another day and she didn't reply to that? It's hard to casually start a conversation, especially since so far we've only set plans to meet through text.
What you text in this scenario is something funny like "what happened did you break your fingers".
 

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Married Buried said:
What you text in this scenario is something funny like "what happened did you break your fingers".
I was thinking of repeating the question in a simple way, 'Hey, are we ___ Saturday?'

Re-affirms my intentions in a simple question that doesn't show neediness/desperation.
 

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Or you could go nuclear and initiate a pre-emptive flake.
Just tell her something came up and you have to cancel. You may be able to gauge her interest by how she reacts.
This move takes big balls.
 

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Greasy Pig said:
Or you could go nuclear and initiate a pre-emptive flake.
Just tell her something came up and you have to cancel. You may be able to gauge her interest by how she reacts.
This move takes big balls.
Don't think this is the best response here. She hasn't replied in days, flaking here seems like i'm trying to avoid rejection and does nothing to INCREASE her interest, only to decrease it further.
 

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I would not send a confirmation text.

In these situations I like to send a funny or interesting picture. For example, a pic of your friend doing something dumb. Or a pic of you in a silly hat and pose with a caption "all dressed up and nowhere to go". I once sent a pic of my daughters little chihuahua laying next to a Dumbell and said "he hates leg day" and got a great response that carried into flirty banter.

Even a pic off the internet that's funny and relates to something you talked about on your date will work.
 

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Greensticker said:
How do you text a girl you think is on the fence or is losing interest and is sending messages as to when she is free only to not reply for days.

I want to send a text re-affirming whether she wants to still meet up and if she doesn't, not to waste anymore time leading me on.
Don't re-affirm dates or text girls who are on the fence losing interest. Her interest is not high enough to actually want to hang out. What's the point in doing that? Only hang out with high interest girls if you expect to get some pvssy.
 

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Update:

I msged her yesterday asking if we're on for Saturday. She replied saying that she had to exchange shifts at work and can no longer come.

No alternative times given so I think i'll go NC. It was 1 date but I fell too hard too soon and it might have showed. Is there anything you guys suggest (thinking about msging back in a week) other than NC?
 
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