texting annoyances w social circle?

[PlatoPacks23]

when you invite people out to something and they say, "ill keep you posted"

and then never write back after.. what is that?

and then you ask them about it after the event and they're like, "oh well you could have just texted me and asked again"


.... but you said you'd keep me posted? WTF?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's their way of saying they either already have plans or aren't interested but if something changes they will let you know.

Essentially they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

It's their way of saying they either already have plans or aren't interested but if something changes they will let you know.

Essentially they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines.

why can't you just say not interested lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

why can't you just say not interested lol

Because they are waiting to see if other plans fall thru or not.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Because they are waiting to see if other plans fall thru or not.

nah it didn't sound like they had other plans, but at time said didn't feel like going out (in person)

but still if I wrote to someone afterwards "will keep you posted" I would then... keep them posted if they were going out or not

 

[BackInTheGame78]

nah it didn't sound like they had other plans, but at time said didn't feel like going out (in person)

but still if I wrote to someone afterwards "will keep you posted" I would then... keep them posted if they were going out or not

Again...you are taking things literally when it's a figure of speech.

Do you struggle with social interactions? This type of stuff doesn't happen in a vacuum. If you are misinterpreting what this type of stuff means then you are probably doing the same with other things as well.

 

[sevbucmash]

Hi Mike. How you doing bro? I'm going to girl's soccer game to look at some girl's butts, and then to a strip joint, wanna join me man? Let me know.

Yea John, I'll keep you posted.

I'm sure this could be taken as a NO. Because if Mike wanted to come with you, he'd say, Sure John, let's f'ing do it man!

 

[SW15]

they say, "ill keep you posted"

they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines.

"I'll keep you posted" is a meaningless, low interest statement from friends, acquaintances, or possible dates in the early stages.

It is rare that you would ever hear anything back from them about that specific invitation. It's your cue to make other plans.

With a platonic friend or acquaintance, there's a small chance you might hear something from them if the plans they are more interested in fall through. You have some good social credit built up with those people. With a woman that you haven't had sex with and have had fewer than 2 dates with, you aren't going to ever hear back based on her abundance and your lack of social credit with her.

 

[Jor-El]

All the above answers. Its a soft no. In any interaction like this,anything but a yes is a no. "Il think about it/il let you know/wel see/remind me next week etc = NO. Big fat juicy no! As @BackInTheGame78 says "Essentially they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines"

 

[Chow Mein]

Reading between the lines is hard for many men because it might hurt their ego.