Im a freshman in college locally, one of the girls i'm talking to is of the new generation, shes probably my top plate, shes about to turn 17, she goes to the same HS is graduated from last year. Things are getting serious between us now, and she is obviously used to texting guys 24/7 she is dating, she has had several LTR's and is a loyal girl and everything, but she just texts alllll the time. From reading so much on this site about not texting it reallly irks me to text her all the tme, but she allllllllways initiates so I dont know how AFC I look, if any. I'm a good texter, no AFC stuff, so theres nothing to worry about there. Are all of you guys just older than me and deal with more mature women? it seems like girls these days just text allllll the time. what should I do? Obviously she normally does this in relationships so maybe im just being stupid.
Texting all the damn time
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DonJuanit0
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That great feeling you got when you want to talk to the other one all the time! Even when it's about the weather! I've missed that!
I'm 24 soon to be 25 and I don't do that at all, neither any of my gfs did that in the last 5 years if I remember correctly.
Despite that, I have two friends, same age as me, that they text their gf all the time! Both of them are in LTR so that didn't spoil it for them! Even after 3 years they are always on their phone! I find it disgusting, but they don't seem to have a problem with it!
If it bothers you, try to bring her to your pace. For example, when you are doing something (like homework), and she knows it (so she want suspect anything wrong) don't answer. Answer a bit later. Make her realize that you can't always be over a phone waiting for a text to answer.
Be careful though, cause if this has been happening for a long time, it might backfire with her asking if you lost your interest, so take small steps at a time.
I'm 24 soon to be 25 and I don't do that at all, neither any of my gfs did that in the last 5 years if I remember correctly.
Despite that, I have two friends, same age as me, that they text their gf all the time! Both of them are in LTR so that didn't spoil it for them! Even after 3 years they are always on their phone! I find it disgusting, but they don't seem to have a problem with it!
If it bothers you, try to bring her to your pace. For example, when you are doing something (like homework), and she knows it (so she want suspect anything wrong) don't answer. Answer a bit later. Make her realize that you can't always be over a phone waiting for a text to answer.
Be careful though, cause if this has been happening for a long time, it might backfire with her asking if you lost your interest, so take small steps at a time.
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Cut out the frequent texting. It should be used primarily for logistics. You shouldn't be "gaming" over text, because it's way to easy for her to misconstrue what you're meaning. You will get in more trouble than good. Don't be rude and ignore her, but wait a while to respond and keep your messages short and sweet. Never be the last one to text in a "session". If she calls you out on it, just say you don't like to text and would rather communicate with someone face to face. End of conversation.
HyperAnalyze
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Keep texting her but be the one who is unreactive. You don't want to lose her interest but you also don't want to look like someone who has too much time on his hands.
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Dont listen to that mumbo jumbo. Every girl that I have ever been in an LTR with ALWAYS would text everyday. I would respond, have conversations about stuff, no problems ever.
They have always been needy and obsessed even with all the texting. It just something that these guys say because most guys on this site are hiding the real them because the real them is needy and what have you. So if they text a lot they will let that slip through the cracks eventually.
Just enjoy talking to her if you do like the texting all the time. This is how girl that age operate. They will text every guy they are into all the time. Most guys will do the same, its how our age works. Do you actually think she magically will lose interest in you because you text her? Maybe but unlikely. If she losses interest because you text, she will lose interest in every single guy your age.
They have always been needy and obsessed even with all the texting. It just something that these guys say because most guys on this site are hiding the real them because the real them is needy and what have you. So if they text a lot they will let that slip through the cracks eventually.
Just enjoy talking to her if you do like the texting all the time. This is how girl that age operate. They will text every guy they are into all the time. Most guys will do the same, its how our age works. Do you actually think she magically will lose interest in you because you text her? Maybe but unlikely. If she losses interest because you text, she will lose interest in every single guy your age.
while girls these days text all the time and really a lot of guys do too especially the younger we go down in age.....that said i find the idea of 24/7 texting to be unhealthy and a waste of time.
texting sometimes isnt to bad but it really can become an all day affair.
I'd advise not doing that all day.
texting sometimes isnt to bad but it really can become an all day affair.
I'd advise not doing that all day.
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Even my friends have become complacent that I am impossible to reach on the phone. And this is true. My life is too busy so I throw my phone out of sight, email goes off, chat is gone, facebook is not even an option in my world. I even go as far as disabling my modem if I really need to focus.
I think it really comes down to what your motives are with all this texting but as you get older and take your goals more seriously its hard not see it as an annoyance/problem which is what you suggest here. If it works for you then why stop? But also consider the value of your own time and life and how these little interruptions impact on you. Even enjoying your TVs shows more without the texting breaking your attention may be enough to rise concern.
On a base level though Im not sure about how she barks and you definitely respond. Its a difficult situation to maintain.
I think it really comes down to what your motives are with all this texting but as you get older and take your goals more seriously its hard not see it as an annoyance/problem which is what you suggest here. If it works for you then why stop? But also consider the value of your own time and life and how these little interruptions impact on you. Even enjoying your TVs shows more without the texting breaking your attention may be enough to rise concern.
On a base level though Im not sure about how she barks and you definitely respond. Its a difficult situation to maintain.