Text Messaging

[MotownMack]

It's funny how you guys create your own theories and start believing them without any solid proof.

I agree. Why some people like to text is a pretty individual thing (and there are tons of situations where it's appropriate)

If she is somewhere where she can't text and she wants to communicate, do you actually think it's a bad thing that you're on her mind and she sends you a message? Fine it could mean she was bored, but at least she is communication.

I once had a girl who was out with some girl friends at a bar of all places. I couldn't go. So, practically the whole time she is there, she texts me on and off for two hours because she was thinking about me more than what was going on right in front of her. And this is a bad thing how?


I won't argue that face to face is vastly superior, but to make blanket assumptions about why it's a bad if a girl texts you is pretty silly. There are better ways of telling where you stand than making assumptions about how she choses to contact you.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Someone should ask the mayor of Detroit what he thinks of text messaging.. LOL!

I wonder what he said in those texts.

http://www.wwj.com/pages/1869804.php?contentType=4&contentId=1762338

 

[ZenGodMod]

I have a fond dislike for cellphones in general. To be reached anytime in the day and anywhere. Thats evil. Anyway...

I come from a the type where verbal convo is far better then working out your thumb. Its personal, alot more successful and proves more.

I know you others have mastered the art of the thumb movement, but once you go live on air. You never turn back.

 

[MacAvoy]

Ok to summarize, I never said that you should never txt a women. What I don't agree with is using it to have a conversation via txt. Here's my take

It has nothing to do with being a kiddie thing or age. Its all about communication. Women use it because they can control the conversation, they don't like confrontation so they use it as an escape tool. Texting is great for small things like confirming dates, etc... light flirting here and there.

But you should never get in a scenario where your texting with a chick daily. It gives a women the ability to keep tabs on you 24/7. You should never be available 24/7 for a women. Your a man, your the prize, you should be busy. Never have a full conversation via txt.

However I agree with the following as well

Personally, I think the less we men communicate with a woman via phone, email, IM or text, the better it goes for us.

I do not use text messages except to make arrangements to meet someone, or if I'm in a loud place that I wouldn't be able to hear.

An hour of texting someone is like 4 minutes on the phone, it's a waste of time.

And I can't believe I'm quoting MNIN, but here is a perfect example of how to use text messages!

I'm not sure about this. I think women have become so used to texting they just use it all the time. One time a girl texted me about her plans falling through to go to the club. So I texted back, COME OVER! And she came over and I hit it.

So I think she was pretty interested.

 

[Latinoman]

I wanted to get the MM opinion on text messaging. I've always been 100% against it after getting sucked into it once for a brief period of time. I find its the perfect tool for women, as they don't like confrontation so they can avoid conflict and get their way.

So my question is do you text message? I realize that for most people, you have to use it to a slight degree to not come across as a dinosaur but I refuse to use it to have a conversation with a women.

I've seen women use it when they are bored at work or do to a play by play on life. However I don't think women should have that much of your attention.

IM sucks as it forces you to be sitting in your arse.
Same with the "social networks".

Text messages are appropriate if it is to let somebody aware of something that requires her immediate attention. For instance, "I will be there in 5 minutes". Or "Call me."

I prefer Emails. Especially if you have a blackberry.

Here is why...

1- You can flirt
2- You can isolate her
3- You can up her attraction and interest level by touching on the surface of some issues

Emails tend to be kind of intimate too. It would open her up and she can check them at work or anywhere (if she has a blackberry).

But...there is a danger too. So, you have to be VERY good with them.

 

[Latinoman]

What I meant to say is that I prefer emails OVER any of the other technological ways of communicating. Even over telephone conversations. I discourage IMs, Social Networks (e.g. message boards, MySpace, PMs, etc.) because it discourages the woman from going out there and from meeting you. In fact, she will probably get what she needs from you (attention) and you might not get what you want (intimacy).

Nothing beats face to face. That's number one. Email is number two, because allows you to provide some level of structure and you can do then while at work or if you have a blackberry when you are doing something else. Also, it allows you to show some sense of humor...and to isolate her.

Texting is too fragmented. And I believe communication is an important thing.

 

[MacAvoy]

I agree with you Latinoman. I prefer face to face, second telephone, then email. However in this age of technology texting does have a place. Its not going away. I'm not saying embrace it 100%, I'm saying use it as another tool in your arsenal. However a tool that only comes out once in a while.

I also agree with you on the social networking sites, I don't join for a reason. However I probably do miss out on a number of activities because its become mainstream. However for me, the cons outweigh the benefits. I live a VERY private life. I don't like anybody knowing what I'm doing. My family has come to accept the way I am and even joke about it.

 

[Latinoman]

I am not saying that I don't use texting. I do. But I used it more with women I am already involved with. Not to increase attraction.

I feel face to face is #1.

Emails/Telephone (if less than 10 minutes convo) are #2/#3 or vice-versa

Texting is #4 (especially if you want to send a quick message as I stated in my previous message). By the way, I have used it for "flirting" too...but only with women I have already phucked or women that have a VERY STRONG attraction for me and I want to share a silly-well-placed picture of me (or more flirting)...as some of them find that "cute" for some unknown reason. The reason I don't recommend it is that it might work for me or you. But it does not work for everyone as very few people lack the NATURAL sense of humor some of us have.

 

[kingwilliam]

I use text messages all the time to keep the secure the links with the dozens of women I am trying to hang onto at the same time.

I think there are some basic guidelines, however:

1. Never respond immediately.

2. If you just got a girl's number, dont text as your first communication.



I basically have an ongoing conversation with about 5 or 6 people at all times.....and I consider myself pretty damn successful with the ladies.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Let me ask this, since a good percentage of us are above 30 y.o. and can remember a time when there was no internet, cell phones or IMs; did you ever pass notes to a girl you liked in junior high or high school? Did you ever write letters on notebook paper to the girl you wanted to get with? How did that work out for you? Why don't you do it now? Maybe because it comes off as immature?

IMs, chat, email, texts, etc. are simple the 21st century equivalent of passing notes in class. Women may even eat it up, because they love the act of communicating, but it's simply a buffer against rejection. It's a nice, safe wall against looking a girl in the eye and conversing on the spot. It lulls you into a false sense of security with a woman - you have all the time in the world to calculate your words, but you're blind to her body language, her vocal intonations, her eye contact, and all the rest of the subcommunications that women instinctively use on a daily basis. Texting and all the other innovative buffers we think open us to greater facility of communication actually isolate us and limit us from learning to read a woman (and others).

I think the default excuse is to fall back on the idea that messaging is just a new modern convenience that makes it easier to connect, but all it really is is another introversion. I've been married for almost 12 years, and both my wife and I have cell phones, AIM, email etc., but we've never used these for more than what needs to be bought at the grocery store on the way home from work. We talk face to face or on the phone because it's easier.

 

[Nighthawk]

Just use 'em to tease them and tell them they're in for a spankering or whatever. Escalated lots of women's interest this way.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Let me ask this, since a good percentage of us are above 30 y.o. and can remember a time when there was no internet, cell phones or IMs; did you ever pass notes to a girl you liked in junior high or high school? Did you ever write letters on notebook paper to the girl you wanted to get with? How did that work out for you? Why don't you do it now? Maybe because it comes off as immature?

IMs, chat, email, texts, etc. are simple the 21st century equivalent of passing notes in class. Women may even eat it up, because they love the act of communicating, but it's simply a buffer against rejection. It's a nice, safe wall against looking a girl in the eye and conversing on the spot. It lulls you into a false sense of security with a woman - you have all the time in the world to calculate your words, but you're blind to her body language, her vocal intonations, her eye contact, and all the rest of the subcommunications that women instinctively use on a daily basis. Texting and all the other innovative buffers we think open us to greater facility of communication actually isolate us and limit us from learning to read a woman (and others).

I think the default excuse is to fall back on the idea that messaging is just a new modern convenience that makes it easier to connect, but all it really is is another introversion. I've been married for almost 12 years, and both my wife and I have cell phones, AIM, email etc., but we've never used these for more than what needs to be bought at the grocery store on the way home from work. We talk face to face or on the phone because it's easier.

You know, Mr. Tomassi has a way of clarifying the most obvious of observances. Whenever I read one of his posts, I slap my self in the forehead and follow it up with a: "I'm a fvcking numbnutt!"

If I were a drunk it would be the equivalent of having my moment of clarity.

Reps to you Rollo my man!

 

[Paradox]

I have to chime in again to qualify my initial response to the topic.

I have 2 women who just send me text jokes. Nothing else. No conversation, just jokes. When i call or try to suggest meeting up I get the brush off. They both have low Il no matter what I do.

I have 1 woman who texts me asking how I am or to say good morning...ect. She has high Il.

So it depends on the content. A girl who only texts you jokes & junk is probably not interested in you.

Texting is a great tool though. Like Kingwilliam. I use texting to try and keep plates spinning when I am too busy to call

 

[Latinoman]

Let me ask this, since a good percentage of us are above 30 y.o. and can remember a time when there was no internet, cell phones or IMs; did you ever pass notes to a girl you liked in junior high or high school? Did you ever write letters on notebook paper to the girl you wanted to get with? How did that work out for you? Why don't you do it now? Maybe because it comes off as immature?

IMs, chat, email, texts, etc. are simple the 21st century equivalent of passing notes in class. Women may even eat it up, because they love the act of communicating, but it's simply a buffer against rejection. It's a nice, safe wall against looking a girl in the eye and conversing on the spot. It lulls you into a false sense of security with a woman - you have all the time in the world to calculate your words, but you're blind to her body language, her vocal intonations, her eye contact, and all the rest of the subcommunications that women instinctively use on a daily basis. Texting and all the other innovative buffers we think open us to greater facility of communication actually isolate us and limit us from learning to read a woman (and others).

I think the default excuse is to fall back on the idea that messaging is just a new modern convenience that makes it easier to connect, but all it really is is another introversion. I've been married for almost 12 years, and both my wife and I have cell phones, AIM, email etc., but we've never used these for more than what needs to be bought at the grocery store on the way home from work. We talk face to face or on the phone because it's easier.

I agree with you. But in some cases...that's the only available (email) way to isolate a person or to "marinate" the person...before you see her in the near future again. Kind of put her in the comfort zone. As long as you don't over do it.

 

[AgentRice]

good morning texts after sleeping with a chic is the best.. best one I had was..

good morning!! sorry i was giggly when u were eating me out.. it just felt really good

 

[Latinoman]

Personally, I think the less we men communicate with a woman via phone, email, IM or text, the better it goes for us.

It is.

Only use when required (although, IM is a total waste) and in a case by case basis.

If over done or used too much...it allows the woman to develop a comfort zone (she gets what she strive for - attention) and denies us of intimacy.

Women can get ATTENTION via email, IM, text or in person. Men can ONLY get intimacy in PERSON.

 

[Latinoman]

good morning texts after sleeping with a chic is the best.. best one I had was..

good morning!! sorry i was giggly when u were eating me out.. it just felt really good

Giggly when you were eating her out? I have bad news for you...you did a TERRIBLE job as she should be moaning (not giggling).

 

[AgentRice]

Giggly when you were eating her out? I have bad news for you...you did a TERRIBLE job as she should be moaning (not giggling).

lol.. no she giggled at first... then it was just eyes rolled back and moans.. with a holy fvck look when done..

and on top of that she wouldnt stop talking about it for a week

 

[Latinoman]

lol.. no she giggled at first... then it was just eyes rolled back and moans.. with a holy fvck look when done..

and on top of that she wouldnt stop talking about it for a week

Sure.

 

[AgentRice]

Sure.

lol not gunna e argue it.. in the end you dont matter...