Text gone bad, I think I shot myself in the foot

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Well after studying in the library at college, I saw this very good looking chick, who was with some of my buddies friends. So I told my buddy that she was just smoking hot and I wanted her number (jokingly, she was out of league). So I left to go back to my dorm, when I got a txt from this chick...

her: hey, its me sally :)
me: the blonde in the lib?
her: haha yeah
me: your cute, i wanna get to know you....
her: aww thats sweet but im kinda talking to sumbody now....
me: well I play hockey and we say even if there is a goalie doesn't mean i cant score, what are you doing thursday?
her: NO
me: sorry for being a **** ;)
her: hahaha

I know that was a very very ballsy text, but do you think I ruined my chances? Im sure I will see her again, especially because my buddy knows her and her group of friends. How do I proceed with this?
 

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MR MIZUN0 said:
Well after studying in the library at college, I saw this very good looking chick, who was with some of my buddies friends. So I told my buddy that she was just smoking hot and I wanted her number (jokingly, she was out of league). So I left to go back to my dorm, when I got a txt from this chick...

her: hey, its me sally :)
me: the blonde in the lib?
her: haha yeah
me: your cute, i wanna get to know you....
her: aww thats sweet but im kinda talking to sumbody now....
me: well I play hockey and we say even if there is a goalie doesn't mean i cant score, what are you doing thursday?
her: NO
me: sorry for being a **** ;)
her: hahaha

I know that was a very very ballsy text, but do you think I ruined my chances? Im sure I will see her again, especially because my buddy knows her and her group of friends. How do I proceed with this?
Why did you say that?

That is the worst game i have ever heard. Slap yourself.
 

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She sent you a text without giving her your number and she claimed to be "talking to somebody now"? You shot yourself in the foot indeed.
 

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So basically, you tell a friend how you think shes hot and you want her number, then she sends you a text out of the blue (knowing what you think about her), you ask her out and then she says NO.

AW
 

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She wants a text buddy/orbiter/whatever it is it will not benefit you in the least.delete everything about her.
 

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her: aww thats sweet but im kinda talking to sumbody now....
you: OH thats cool because im currently seeing 2 girls, you need to catch up



what do you guys think of that reply?
 
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you owned yourself real bad. If she was being straight forward you should have worked it a little better. You could have confirmed interest on her end by playing a little hard to get/c+f and then giving her a little bit of interest. then you can wam bam it. You used the line way too early or too sober.
 

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Not sure what the outrage is about. I've seen much worse, probably even by some of the posters who have replied in this thread.

Your absolute worst move was apologizing. Don't ever apologize for sh!t to a female.

The compliment + get to know you line was bad, but not terrible.

After she said NO, I would have replied, "Does 7:30 work for you?"
 

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wataf said:
her: aww thats sweet but im kinda talking to sumbody now....
you: OH thats cool because im currently seeing 2 people you need to catch up



what do you guys think of that reply?
Yep, that was horrible. Atrocious!!! You did not shoot your foot; you stepped all on your d i c k !!!!!

You simply say: and...... what's that got to do with me little girl? You telling her she was cute and you wanted to know her was DuMb!!!

I would leave her alone after she responded with I am seeing 2 others and you need to catch up. Some folks like the challenge and would try... but not this guy though. Not that kind of a challenge anyways.
 

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You should´ve told her to get a life, for going around messaging strangers. :D
 

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When she sent you a message did you consider calling her? That's what I would have done.
 

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This was a bomb that blew up in your face. The end was a sh!t test, which you failed. She had interest, because she must had asked around to get your number, sense you didn't give it to her. You could had totally turned this into your advantage and did some slight negs on her, and make her qualify herself to you. Instead you said "your cute, I want to get to know you.." that means you already qualified her, based on her looks a lone. You didn't even put up any resistance or hoops for her to jump through. You got suckered into her bait. Not only that, but the whole line about the goalie thing is just creeper-ish in this context. If you had built some rapport with her, and busted her balls a bit, you could have easily gotten a way with this. Instead, your opening line only admitted "Hi, I'm desperate and will take anything I can get. Can we please have sex?" You weren't a challenge. You were just creepy. Better luck next time my friend.

-Scars
 

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The person you were texting wasn't "sally" it was one of your friends friend and they were busting your chops. A girl would not respond to that goalie line that way. She'd go no contact, blow up completely or challenge your ability to follow through.
 

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The person you were texting wasn't "sally" it was one of your friends friend and they were busting your chops. A girl would not respond to that goalie line that way. She'd go no contact, blow up completely or challenge your ability to follow through.
Highly probable !
Sorry...;)
 

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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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MR MIZUN0 said:
Well after studying in the library at college, I saw this very good looking chick, who was with some of my buddies friends. So I told my buddy that she was just smoking hot and I wanted her number (jokingly, she was out of league). So I left to go back to my dorm, when I got a txt from this chick...

her: hey, its me sally :)
me: the blonde in the lib?
her: haha yeah
me: your cute, i wanna get to know you....
her: aww thats sweet but im kinda talking to sumbody now....
me: well I play hockey and we say even if there is a goalie doesn't mean i cant score, what are you doing thursday?
her: NO
me: sorry for being a **** ;)
her: hahaha

I know that was a very very ballsy text, but do you think I ruined my chances? Im sure I will see her again, especially because my buddy knows her and her group of friends. How do I proceed with this?
Actually, I thought you did pretty well. Couple minor little mistakes but nothing earth shattering like some here are making it out to be. You were cute, funny, kinda ****y. I bet she remembers you. And if she texted you, she does have SOME interest trust me. No girl is going to text some guy she thinks is disgusting. I would keep her on the back burner, maybe text her a "hey what's up' every now and then and see if she ever stops talking to the guy she is now and becomes available.

I say nice job and keep it up.
 
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Bad Company should re-issue their 1974 hit as "Good Textin' Gone Bad"
 

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cordoncordon said:
I actually thought you did pretty well. Couple minor little mistakes but nothing earth shattering like some here are maing it ou to be.
You thought he did well Cordon? I thought it was pretty bad. Not terribly horrible like someone who knows nothing about approaching,but bad for someone who been a part of this forum for almost a year. To me,the best part of the whole thing was him saying what he said to his friend,then it getting back to the girl.



I'm with Scars on this one. The OP generated some interest in the girl towards himself,even if it was no more than mere curiousity of who found her attractive.


As far as the text conversation between him and the girl....well I'll just explain what I mean....


MR.MIZUNO said:
her: hey, its me sally :)
me: the blonde in the lib?
her: haha yeah
me: your cute, i wanna get to know you....
The "you're cute" comment wasn't so bad,although I wouldn't have used it,but the "I wanna get to know you" is just soooo played. It's so cliche.



It's dull,boring,snooze-a-romma. It has no "excitement" to it. He should have thrown a neg,or some type of ****y comment in there at that point.



"I wanna get to know you" is just too.....too dull.



MR.MIZUNO said:
her: aww thats sweet but im kinda talking to sumbody now....
I believe this is what Scars meant right here. This girl said that she was "kinda" talking to somebody. Well she knew that when she took the time to go and get MR.MIZUNO's number. She knew that WHILE she was texting him. So why is her "talking" to somebody all of the sudden NOW an issue?


It's because she lost interest. Instead of telling the Op she's not interested to get out of having to meet him,she can fall back on the excuse of already being involved with someone.



It's simple....he screwed up.



MR>MIZUNO said:
me: well I play hockey and we say even if there is a goalie doesn't mean i cant score, what are you doing thursday?
And I don't know WHERE this came from.

He went from wanting to get to know her,to trying to "score" with the girl?

He took her from being a PERSON that he was interested in learning more about,to some "random chick" he was trying to bang.


Yeah,I'm sure she felt reeeeal special after that comment. :rolleyes:


MR.MIZUNO said:
me: sorry for being a **** ;)
And believe it or not,him saying "I'm sorry" is even worse than the "score" comment he made.


The score comment was sort of an a-hole-ish thing to say,but you know what? A-holes get women.



He was being incongruent when he apologized. If you're going to be an a-hole,fine,then be an a-hole,at least she'll know who she's dealing with.




MR.MIZUNO said:
but do you think I ruined my chances?
Well logically,it would appear so,but you know how unpredictable women can be. She gave a DIRECT "no",but to me,a direct no IS BETTER THAN an indecisive response like "maybe" or "I don't know".


Maybe he can still flirt with her and see how she responds,but he'll need to drop that "get to know you" crap and get more sexual with her.
 

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Igetit! said:
You thought he did well Cordon? I thought is was pretty bad. Not terribly horrible like someone who knows nothing about approaching,but bad for someone who been a part of this forum for almost a year. To me,the best part of the whole thing was him saying what he said to his friend,then it getting back to the girl.



I'm with Scars on this one. The OP generated some interest in the girl towards himself,even if it was no more than mere curiousity of who found her attractive.


As far as the text conversation between him and the girl....well I'll just explain what I mean....




The "you're cute" comment wasn't so bad,although I wouldn't have used it,but the "I wanna get to know you" is just soooo played. It's so cliche.



It's dull,boring,snooze-a-romma. It has no "excitement" to it. He should have thrown a neg,or some type of ****y comment in there at that point.



"I wanna get to know you" is just too.....too dull.




I believe this is what Scars meant right here. This girl said that she was "kinda" talking to somebody. Well she knew that when she took the time to go and get MR.MIZUNO's number. She knew that WHILE she was texting him. So why is her "talking" to somebody all of the sudden NOW an issue?


It's because she lost interest. Instead of telling the Op she's not interested to get out of having to meet him,she can fall back on the excuse of already being involved with someone.



It's simple....he screwed up.





And I don't know WHERE this came from.

He went from wanting to get to know her,to trying to "score" with the girl?

He took her from being a PERSON that he was interested in learning more about,to some "random chick" he was trying to bang.


Yeah,I'm sure she felt reeeeal special after that comment. :rolleyes:



And believe it or not,him saying "I'm sorry" is even worse than the "score" comment he made.


The score comment was sort of an a-hole-ish thing to say,but you know what? A-holes get women.



He was being incongruent when he apologized. If you're going to be an a-hole,fine,then be an a-hole,at least she'll know who she's dealing with.






Well logically,it would appear so,but you know how unpredictable women can be. She gave a DIRECT "no",but to me,a direct no IS BETTER THAN an indecisive response like "maybe" or "I don't know".


Maybe he can still flirt with her and see how she responds,but he'll need to drop that "get to know you" crap and get more sexual with her.

Cordon is *****wh!pped and has alot of money so that's why his girl likes him. If he was broke and didn't drive a fancy car, she would dump him. Don't listen to Cordon.
 

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Bluntmaster said:
Cordon is *****wh!pped and has alot of money so that's why his girl likes him. If he was broke and didn't drive a fancy car, she would dump him. Don't listen to Cordon.
And you are a crazy insane psychopath who has had 10 different alias's on here, the most recent being Mynameisnobody.....who has done the most afc and 100% crazy stuff to be with ugly skank ho's. So there.
 
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