Text Fail or Major B****

[ENIGMA16]

Okay, I figured a text would be easier for her because she is a shy girl.

Shy girls don't exist.

Or I'll just say, "nada, when can I call you?"

Why would you ask for her permission to call, or rather what time works best for her? You don't ask a girl when you can call. God dude, just f*cking call already, stop with all this bullsh!t.

What do you guys think about texting even if you're trying to set something up at work, where you can't call? I'm fvcking bored at work and a lot of the time come up with my plans then.

General rule: if it takes more than 3 texts then you're doing it wrong. Live by it.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

You guys are getting waaaaaaaaaaaay too analytical over the text vs call issue.

The main problem here isn't the method of contact; its that the OP did absolutely NOTHING to increase the existing physical attraction this girl initially had for him. In fact I'd go as far as saying he most likely hurt his chances quiet a bit with that conversation which as everyone has pointed out was not the right way to steer the ship.

Now I use to be a STRONG proponent of always calling over texting for quiet a while (and I still am overall), BUT more and more women these days prefer text. It has nothing to do with being shy, most people in general prefer text now because they get straight to the point, rather than having an informal conversation before getting to the point... make sense?

This girl is BORED with you. The fact that she's not responding in a timely manner and not answering any of your calls is a BAD sign = low interest.


Understand one thing: Girls can be attracted to you and change their mind in a flash based off something such as: a bad habit, poor conversation skills, bad hygiene etc and the list goes on and on.


I'd give it one last shot with this chick; contact her in whatever method you feel will get you the most likely shot at getting her to respond and then shoot the **** for a second, hopefully make her laugh and then ask her out and get to the point. If she gives you any wishy washy answers "maybe" "I'll let you know cuz my sister is giving birth right now" etc then you leave it alone and disappear. If she has any interest she will accept the date, counter offer if she can't make it on a certain night or contact you in the near future to go out.


Go meet more girls....




PIMP

 

[Jonblood]

I called 3 hours ago, no answer not text no nothing..so NEXT. Learning from my mistakes. Fortunately, I ran into this hottie I know and she said that if she wasn't going out tonight she would come over and hang with me and my dogs.

I'm going to text tonight telling her she should come to the park with me tomorrow, hopefully indirectly reminding her to come over tonight instead of going out to party. lol

 

[ENIGMA16]

Now I use to be a STRONG proponent of always calling over texting for quiet a while (and I still am overall), BUT more and more women these days prefer text. It has nothing to do with being shy, most people in general prefer text now because they get straight to the point, rather than having an informal conversation before getting to the point... make sense?

That's the entire point of the 3-text rule. If you're having a conversation over text, then you're doing it wrong.

 

[Jonblood]

I hear so much contradictory info pertaining to texts...dont neg her, but don't raise her value too much etc blah blah

I want to invite this girl to the park tomorrow, either going to say

"You're gonna look mad cute in your duck floaty tonight..btw im going to the park tomorrow you should come"(she might be going to a beach themed party tonight and she said if she doesn't, then she'll come over my house, I joked on her about this)

or just

"I'm going to the park tommorrow yo shuold come"

can i compliment her and then ask? Or is it a turn off? Before this sosuave I never had to think so much about this!!

 

[ENIGMA16]

I hear so much contradictory info pertaining to texts...dont neg her, but don't raise her value too much etc blah blah

The "rules" here are not meant to be followed. Rather, they're manifestations of the "being" that is required of a dj. Because you can't change your state of being instantaneously, you can only change your conscious action, and so the point of the rules is to help you act a way that is in accordance with the correct state of being, which helps condition your mind to develop towards that state.

So when you hear about a rule, you have to immediately start inquiring as to the reasoning behind it and what its meaning is. The reason we disagree on texting/calling is because we are different individuals and have different personalities, and so we not only disagree on correct theory but also apply theory differently ourselves.

So you have to listen to what everyone says and make your own judgment call. No matter what you say there will always be people agreeing with you and others disagreeing; you just have to do what you think is right based on your experience and the advice given.

"You're gonna look mad cute in your duck floaty tonight..btw im going to the park tomorrow you should come"(she might be going to a beach themed party tonight and she said if she doesn't, then she'll come over my house, I joked on her about this)

or just

"I'm going to the park tommorrow yo shuold come"

I'd text her something random that's either funny or sexual, then after she responds I'd respond back with the second thing you said, and then leave it at that (i.e. even if she texts after that just ignore it).

can i compliment her and then ask? Or is it a turn off? Before this sosuave I never had to think so much about this!!

Yeah SoSuave is both a great tool and also something that can really bog you down if you get too caught up in it. Don't stay around here too much, and I suggest spending more time thinking and internalizing than you do reading.

 

[thecurtainfalls]

I hear so much contradictory info pertaining to texts...dont neg her, but don't raise her value too much etc blah blah

Yeah dude, along the lines of what JLay said... you need to stop focusing hardcore on 'rules' and getting frustrated when you get contradictory advice. You need to cultivate an attitude of thinking for yourself. What's great about this site is that you'll get many different viewpoints on your situation, but it's up to you to pick and choose what makes sense to you and apply it to your life.

This is inter-personal relationships we're talking about, not algebra. There are different paths to the same goal and there are no hard and fast rules. However, there is a general consensus on some issues which you may find will likely pertain to your situation as well. But the second you start getting frustrated because we don't all chime in with the same textbook answer, is when you need to re-evaluate what you use this site for. We can't just spit out the magic steps to take to land this girl, like a machine.

Use what seems useful to you and discard the rest. Analyze your result. If it wasn't what you wanted, try something else next time.

 

[Jonblood]

Alright, so I texted her asked to go to the park tomorrow with me. I told her at noon, she said so early. I said "so when we going" she said "when I get up lol". Balls in yer court now...text her tomorrow before I leave? I don't want to sound needy and I guess If she really was interested she would text me...she's getting drunk now might even forget it all.

 

[omega05]

all this texting s***. call her

 

[Kailex]

Alright, so I texted her asked to go to the park tomorrow with me. I told her at noon, she said so early. I said "so when we going" she said "when I get up lol". Balls in yer court now...text her tomorrow before I leave? I don't want to sound needy and I guess If she really was interested she would text me...she's getting drunk now might even forget it all.

Alright, I need to know... what's the story about this girl?

Where did you meet? How did you meet?
Have you two gone out before?

I ask... because you're asking her to go to a park at noon... knowing full well that she is going to be hungover that day.

So, I have to ask... KNOWING this information, what are your intentions?

I think we need to know all of this info.
So you texted... fine.

She said "when I get up".

Wanna bet what she says Sunday afternoon after you text her at around... ohhhh say... 4 PM (because you will)...

Her: I'm sorry, I woke up a while ago and I feel so hungover. I puked this morning.

And you'll be lucky if you even get that at all.

Just read through my post, and please, respond to the questions above.
I just feel like I'm missing something in this saga.

 

[Jonblood]

Alright, I need to know... what's the story about this girl?

Where did you meet? How did you meet?
Have you two gone out before?

I ask... because you're asking her to go to a park at noon... knowing full well that she is going to be hungover that day.

So, I have to ask... KNOWING this information, what are your intentions?

I think we need to know all of this info.
So you texted... fine.

She said "when I get up".

Wanna bet what she says Sunday afternoon after you text her at around... ohhhh say... 4 PM (because you will)...

Her: I'm sorry, I woke up a while ago and I feel so hungover. I puked this morning.

And you'll be lucky if you even get that at all.

Just read through my post, and please, respond to the questions above.
I just feel like I'm missing something in this saga.

The girl I was referring to here was one that I had a crush on lol and she already proved to be a disrespectful b***, but i love those titties so I had to try again....she flaked this morning said she had to go home for her brothers game so NEXT.

I'm going out now with my room mate and my puppy to get some frozen yogurt at our colleges hot spot, gonna try some day game.