**** test? I think so..

[Rainman4707]

I've been dating a HB7.
I've been averaging 70 hours a week at work recently & work weekends
She works Monday-Friday & works 37 hours a week.
I've met her on a Sunday night, Wednesday night, Thursday night & a
Tuesday night.

To me it seems we get on well. Everything seems smooth.

She was at my place Tuesday night & as she was leaving she said "you can text me you know" (I only text to arrange dates)

This is the text conversation that has just happened :-

11:32pm Her Hey you. Did you manage to get tomorrow night off? X (I told her on Tuesday that sometimes I can get a day off at weekends)

11:42 pm Me: Hi. Nah..It didn't happen x

11:47am Her: Nevermind x

12:03am Her: Just say if you aint got time. I invoke appreciate it. Without sounding nasty. I don't like time wasters x

12:16am Her: Bye then x

12:19am Me: I'm busy tomorrow x

12:21am Her Ok. Just be nice to have a text from you once in a while x

I think this is a shi* test. I'm not happy with her attitude. She's trying to see if i'm a wu**y.

Any thoughts lads?

 

[Dgwizdal]

Ya - usually when women pressure me for lack of communication or seeing them because I'm with another plate or doing my own thing I say "you need to miss me..." And maybe a smiley/winky face. Frame it whatever way you have to but end with that and they'll either start stroking your ego and the frame is in your hands from there or it'll lighten up the mood for banter or both.

 

[DarkDetective50]

There was something I read on this forum a while back. Basically, what it said was to avoid dodge and deflect any confrontation from a woman. If she says something to test you or piss you off, just ignore it like she didn't say anything and talk about something else. The guy said that feeding her energy will only increase the confrontation more.

I like what you did. You just ignored her and all she did was have a confrontation with herself. Best believe it didn't end at her last text either. Her mind was running helter skelter within. "Why isn't he responding? Is he mad at me? Maybe he's f**king another girl on the side? I think he doesn't like me as much anymore. OMG...I'm not as sexy to him anymore. I'll try to appease him instead"

That's the point where she calms down and notice how when you eventually replied to her the next day, she was much more calm. If you keep this up, you might notice a bit more neediness or attachment from her towards you. Just keep your head cool and don't commit into her "you have to text me when I want you to". Once you do that, game over. She has in you the palm of her hand and the power struggle will NEVER end especially if this is LTR.

 

[Jariel]

I don't think it is a shVt test, I think she is expecting common courtesy. If I make tentative plans with someone, man or woman, but I don't know if I can make it.......I text or call them the instant I know. And I expect the same from them.

I agree. You seemed pretty cold and rude to her and I'm sure you would be pretty p1ssed off if she did this to you.

Being busy and having a life of your own is a very attractive trait, and being unavailable can work to your benefit with women, BUT this just seems like you have no interest and if she's got any self esteem, she's doesn't want to waste her time pursuing something that's not going anywhere when she can just move on and find someone else.

 

[Dali_tx_o]

I don't remember who said it, but a "Hey you" greeting from a girl stands for "Hey (I want to ****) you".

This might change though - I'd suggest reading:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/01/08/declining-intimacy-vs-declining-attraction/

 

[TheGambino]

Your doing great.

Just next time call her and tell her why your day's so busy.

Try to see her less, don't go in it, keep your cool and standards and only use texts to arrange dates.

On the the actual date rock her world but after don't reach out to her let her iniate.

 

[LP700-4]

I don't think it is a shVt test, I think she is expecting common courtesy. If I make tentative plans with someone, man or woman, but I don't know if I can make it.......I text or call them the instant I know. And I expect the same from them.

But he DID tell her he can't make it. That was his first response and she said "never mind".

 

[denverfan110]

I personally all agree that you're being cold.

I think that's the one problem that most people who eat up the words of prominent poster on this site don't understand. These colder techniques are useful in initially attracting women, but women (especially in a LTR, but even longer term FWB) want some warmth sprinkled in as your relationship progresses.

You can't be a complete ******* for too long unless you're with a women of low value who becomes dependent on you. Not saying you're at the level, clearly, but trying opening up a bit. Don't go full AFC but try and be a little more warm, especially having the courtesy to let someone know your plans when I'm sure you'd expect the same thing in return.

 

[Rainman4707]

Thanks for the input. It's appreciated.

To make things a bit clearer on when we were talking on Tuesday night
she was wondering when I would have a weekend off. I told her that work
is strange..sometimes, I might get a Friday or Saturday night off. Never know.
That's key there.
It's not as though I told her it might happen this weekend. I think she's *****ing.

I agree with DarkDetective about feeding her energy will only
result in argument.

"Hey you" she normally greet me with that lol. Her Knickers are a little
frosty though (read my thread frosty knickers)