complimenting someone does not have to be supplicating behavior.
i would say that if you walk up to a random girl at the bar/club having a drink, and say "you have pretty eyes," in the same generic manner all the dorks and chumps do, she'll brush you off.
on the other hand, you could do something like this-
during my relationship with last gf, we'd always shower together. she'd enjoyed lathering me up and scrubbing away with the loofa. and of course i thought it was sensual.
shed always catch me looking into her eyes while she washed me... one day she asked why. so i looked deep into her eyes and said,
''i love how much you get into washing me.. i love watching your face and how much you enjoy it. even more than that, your eyes captivate me. they are deep and blue like the ocean... i gaze into them because i see vast bodies of crystal blue water, stretching endlessly across the horizon. its mesmerizing... almost hypnotic and sometimes as i look into them i forget about everything but us."
and it was actually the truth. thats what i saw in her eyes.
she ate it up and started blushing.
little stuff like that goes a long way. its good to know when a girl needs to be put in her place, but dont get so caught up in the c&f **** that you lose track of reality. i like to tease my girls a bit, all in good fun... but every so often you need to brush her hair to the side, caress her face, firmly place your hand behind her neck, pull her close to you and tell her something that'll make her world melt. all while gazing deep into her eyes... the give her the most intense and passionate kiss shed ever dreamed of.
flirty teasing more often then not... and then every once in a while make her realize how lucky she is to be with such an astounding lover. not just tooting your own horn... but making her see how deep and strong your bond is. how intense and sensual your connection.
to each their own... but thats what being a real man means to me.
-SLB