Telling a girl shes intimidated, bad move?

[Skel]

So there is this girl at work, shes married but I dont really care. I know she likes me but everytime i see her she will ignore me. So i see her today, she walks right by my desk to the next cubicle to give the lady money to go to my party( Im transferring to new building). I email her. Why do you always walk by me and never say hi, and why the hell did you give money to someone else to go to MY party when im sitting right there?

She emails me back 5 minutes later

I'm so sorry. How can I ever make it up to you. You just looked so busy
working I didn't want to bother you. I only gave Denise the money because
she's closer. So to sum it all up I'm really sorry, it won't happen again,
and please forgive me.


I know shes full of crap. I email her back something like I know a few ways you can make it up to me. I think the real reason you avoid me is because your intimidated by me. Every time you see me you smile and look down at the ground.

She walks up to my desk, and slaps me 5 minutes later. Hows that for intimidation she says.

Um could someone please tell me wtf happened and how i can repair this and still bang her

 

[MrBond007]

You should have slapped her back and told her "know your place, woman".

 

[Skel]

well first of all it wasnt a hard slap and secondly people working with me were laughing at me. Bad idea to hit a female, especially in public

 

[MrBond007]

Originally posted by Skel
well first of all it wasnt a hard slap and secondly people working with me were laughing at me. Bad idea to hit a female, especially in public

It was worse to do nothing at all. You looked like a total doormat, a chump an AFC and the antithesis of a man. You could have at least verbally bashed her into tears.

 

[NatureGuy]

She obviously does not like you, and
in a work place setting your conduct would likely be viewed as harrassment.
Find someone who actually likes you and
who is available.

 

[Skel]

well kinda wierd. She just emailed me and It really makes no sense. Here is what she wrote

See I can't talk to you, you take everything the wrong way. I simply meant
something fun and exciting nothing corny. You let me know and maybe we'll do
lunch or something???? DON'T THINK DIRTY!!!!!!!!!!!! You're really making
me feel like I've insulted you and now I'm trying to harrass you to make it
all better. Is it working??? Ha..Ha.. In the future I guess saying hi is
alot easier and not interpreted the wrong way. All in all I don't want you
to think you intimidate me.

 

[NatureGuy]

I see what you mean. Take her to lunch
(she's already mentioning it after all)
don't say anything "corny" (she obviously
doesn't feel comfortable with that) and
see what happens. I'd say it's hard
to really tell what her interest is exactly,
so take it slow and find out.

 

[Cheiradawg]

Originally posted by Skel
See I can't talk to you, you take everything the wrong way. I simply meant
something fun and exciting nothing corny. You let me know and maybe we'll do
lunch or something???? DON'T THINK DIRTY!!!!!!!!!!!! You're really making
me feel like I've insulted you and now I'm trying to harrass you to make it
all better. Is it working??? Ha..Ha.. In the future I guess saying hi is
alot easier and not interpreted the wrong way. All in all I don't want you
to think you intimidate me.

Some DJ needs to translate this from ********.

 

[Skel]

ya sometimes im really confused by her. It really makes no sense and im thinking to myself, um what????

there is more

me:

oh come on now i was only joking, and where is my apology? You slapped me, your lucky we were at work
Anways...
I know exactly what you meant. I was just playing with your mind a bit but now
you have insulted me and my feelings are hurt, haha see im joking again, no
really you hurt my feelings
and im insulted. Ill let you know about lunch if I deem you worthy.



her:Fine, just because of that I not coming to work on Monday!!!! Now am I any
more worthy than before!! Gotta go it's time for me to leave. See you on
Tuesday. Have a GOOD weekend.

 

[NatureGuy]

I was just playing with your mind a bit but now you have insulted me and my feelings are hurt, haha see im joking again, no really you hurt my feelings
and im insulted. Ill let you know about lunch if I deem you worthy.

My opinion: this kind of talk is unnecessary. It's insincere and I believe
reduces any chances you have with her.
Try not reacting to her talk so much
and just pursue the immediate goal
(lunch) and see what happens.

 

[golf299]

i can't believe anyone has responed to this post to anything but: what the hell are you thinking man? she's married. nuff said...

 

[DJnomore]

Question...

Is she older than you?

Several vibes fit the pattern

1) she is older and she is mothering you and you don't see it. She thinks you are cute but she thinks the idea of the two of you naked would be funny.

2) she likes you but isn't really looking to cheat. You are sending pretty clear buy signals even if you don't realize. She is sending mixed signals.

3) She likes you wants to cheat but needs to wait till you move

4) She is just being friendly and you totally don't know how to read women.

As a general rule women don't avoid the men they like when they don't have to

 

[DJnomore]

Originally posted by MrBond007
It was worse to do nothing at all. You looked like a total doormat, a chump an AFC and the antithesis of a man. You could have at least verbally bashed her into tears.

Only the weak have to respond every time.

 

[MrBond007]

Originally posted by DJnomore
Only the weak have to respond every time.

Oh really.Is that so ?

 

[Skel]

shes yuounger than me

im 26 shes 22 or 23 i forget which

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Clearly, she wants to have an affair with you.

Take her to lunch. Continue to play up the intimidation angle (a little not a lot). Get her in an isolated in a one-on-one situation somewhere (your place probably) after a "lunch" or two together (she will need to feel a little more comfrotable about it - cheating that is - before it happens). And you're in.

When a woman say "NO DIRTY STUFF" what she means, "I am now thinking about having sex with you. Play your cards right and we're doing it."

But she is married. It will be cheating.

 

[Don Rageta]

She slapped you because women in the workplace want to be respected and try not to have anyone think that they are intimidated or an any other level than their male "peers"