tell me is this good or bad?

[christz]

I'm thinking this is good, anywho

in a situation now with one of the two girls i'm talking to, which is also the reason i've asked which girl i should go for (in an earlier thread). Is basiclly one i can have immediatly and the other is a long term seduction. reagurdless The one girl i want the most currently has commitment issues meaning she's already somewhat kinda commited in an LTR.

I was trying to do a search because one of the long time members here had an excelent peice of source material.. but for some reason i can't find it so i'm wondering if this is good.

But things seem to be coming around a lot quicker than i thought they would, because i'm starting to see signs that SOMETHING is changeing between her and her b/f in my favor.

She keeps me totally secret from her current squeeze.

She never speaks about him to me.

She denies his exsistance should i ever bring anything about it up, (which i rarely if ever do)

I notice that he calls a lot more now than ever before, when we speak and i hear a beep on her side. She says something along the lines of

"omg!, this guy keeps calling me what the hell, hold on" (i know its her current b/f)

I do know that when he is around she will not pick up her cell phone, but when she is alone or with other friends she'll pick it up pretty much when it rings. we click very well etc.. And i pretty much have a care free attitude towards this girl, obviously i don't make many plans because she has other commitments i just simply throw out

"hey there's a party, i know you'll have a good time, i'll get at you the day of see if you wanna go otherwise your loss"

she's about an HB8 and kind a control freak i think i'm totally pulling her outta her high seat by acting the way i am. compliments i give her she has ear to ear smiles and blushes, she laughs at anything i say. and i can tell she's happy and herself with me. (unless its just really good game)

What do you guys gather on this?

 

[RedKnight04]

Why are you even wasting your time dude? Their are also chicks who don't have boyfriends.. Think of that!

Bros before hoes too remember?. Even though you don't know the guy we are all brothers so don't try to steal someone else's chick just so you can get a quick lay!

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by RedKnight04
Why are you even wasting your time dude? Their are also chicks who don't have boyfriends.. Think of that!

Bros before hoes too remember?. Even though you don't know the guy we are all brothers so don't try to steal someone else's chick just so you can get a quick lay!

right on

 

[christz]

Originally posted by RedKnight04
Why are you even wasting your time dude? Their are also chicks who don't have boyfriends.. Think of that!

Bros before hoes too remember?. Even though you don't know the guy we are all brothers so don't try to steal someone else's chick just so you can get a quick lay!

i suppose your right, i wouldn't want it done to me, but this girl is to good to not attempt for.

 

[Ziroh]

This isnt actually a matter of good or bad but a matter of freedom of choice.

You are not responsible for the decisions she makes or her issues or relationship. She makes those decisions herself and its her responsability not to be influenced by others, not yours.

The real question is: Would she commit to you, would you really beleive that she will remain exclusive?

 

[Craig Reeves]

I wouldn't do it...

If this is the kind of girl that would lead men on...what's to stop her from ever leading YOU on.

 

[Uncle FranKKK]

Originally posted by christz
I'm thinking this is good, anywho

in a situation now with one of the two girls i'm talking to, which is also the reason i've asked which girl i should go for (in an earlier thread). Is basiclly one i can have immediatly and the other is a long term seduction. reagurdless The one girl i want the most currently has commitment issues meaning she's already somewhat kinda commited in an LTR.

I was trying to do a search because one of the long time members here had an excelent peice of source material.. but for some reason i can't find it so i'm wondering if this is good.

But things seem to be coming around a lot quicker than i thought they would, because i'm starting to see signs that SOMETHING is changeing between her and her b/f in my favor.

She keeps me totally secret from her current squeeze.

She never speaks about him to me.

She denies his exsistance should i ever bring anything about it up, (which i rarely if ever do)

I notice that he calls a lot more now than ever before, when we speak and i hear a beep on her side. She says something along the lines of

"omg!, this guy keeps calling me what the hell, hold on" (i know its her current b/f)

I do know that when he is around she will not pick up her cell phone, but when she is alone or with other friends she'll pick it up pretty much when it rings. we click very well etc.. And i pretty much have a care free attitude towards this girl, obviously i don't make many plans because she has other commitments i just simply throw out

"hey there's a party, i know you'll have a good time, i'll get at you the day of see if you wanna go otherwise your loss"

she's about an HB8 and kind a control freak i think i'm totally pulling her outta her high seat by acting the way i am. compliments i give her she has ear to ear smiles and blushes, she laughs at anything i say. and i can tell she's happy and herself with me. (unless its just really good game)

What do you guys gather on this?

I *TOTALLY* agree with Red Knight on this one. If she's doing this to her BF now, you can bet your a$$ she'd do it to you too.

That being said there are girls who are just not loyal. Never have been and nothing you can do will make them so. $luts to the end. I don't fault you much 'cause if if wasn't you, it'd be some other guy. In fact, who knows maybe there is a third. BUT I also wouldn't blame her BF for blowing your brains out either. That situation is way too much risk for me to take, there's plenty of tail out there that won't get you hurt or killed.

I would lyke to address the first part of your question though. Why would you feel like you can't continue pursuing BOTH women? Until you get a reason (and it better be a d@mn GOOD one) why chain yourself to a woman? What's in it for you? As your girlfriend's boyfriend knows (???? WTF are you getting yourself into man????), being loyal to them has nothing to do with whether they're loyal to you.

-Frank

 

[Bonhomme]

Voice of dissent

I have to break ranks with the other guys on this one.

If she's losing her attraction to her current squeeze and getting hot for you, that's her thing to sort out.

If the other guy is a good friend of yours, then obviously you need to have consideration ... BUT ... if she decides to move on it's up to him to be a man about it, ultimately.

One very good friend of mine ended up marrying an ex-gf of one of his buddies. To the best of my knowledge, all were totally cool about it. One friend of mine went out with a gal I had broken up with (though she didn't dump me), and I was glad she was in good hands.

If you don't know the guy well, you have no obligation whatsoever to try to patch up his relationship for him. But you should see to it that she breaks up with him before hooking up with you.

It happens all the time. Hot gals will very often -- perhaps more often than not -- pick a man's replacement before letting him go.

 

[Fenderules]

sounds like her bf is afc. he puts up with her hanging up on him all the time???

 

[christz]

Originally posted by Fenderules
sounds like her bf is afc. he puts up with her hanging up on him all the time???

this guy is an AFC master, its only lost him her respect. If he walked in on her fu*king another guy in his bed he'd just turn around close the door and pretend like nothing happend

how can a girl, and she doesn't respect a guy like that, the only reason he's still around is because of a security and comfort issue nothing more.

and that's not hard to replace