Tell me if the following have damaged my relationship

[itishe]

- Ditched this girl I was seeing one night. We went to a local fast food joint to meet one of my friends who was bored and lonely after I saw a movie with my date. Anywho after the joint it's my friend, her and me. Her friends come by in rollerblades and she's outside talking to them for about 10 minutes. My friend and I get bored so we wave good bye to them and leave. I get a call from one of her friends in the next few minutes saying I was a **** and that my "girl-friend" is pissed. My "girlfriend" later tells me I made her cry and she never cries. I apologized because I felt like a ****.

- The day after the above incident was prom. I didn't really talk to her much that day, nor did I dance with her much (I did a few slow dances with her). Felt akward. She was upset about this one too.

- When we go on dates I tend to not pay for her (if we go to the movies, I usually make her pay, but food and icecream, etc I usually get the tab). She has given me **** for it, but it's playful. I think if it really bugged her she wouldn't say anything about it and let it build up over time. She makes alot more money then I do because I work about 4 hours a week... yes radioindustry sucks **** sometimes. This one I'm not too worried about, because I don't know if she'll be around in a couple months and I love money.

 

[Obsidian]

f*ck that b1tch, why should you spend all your money and she not have to pay a dime

 

[Skel]

f*ck that b1tch, why should you spend all your money and she not have to pay a dime

You're an idiot.

 

[itishe]

Ok now the other two points of discussion.

 

[Obsidian]

Definitely don't let her whine about the fact that you're not buying everything. That's just crap.

If you didn't dance with her much at prom, yeah that was kinda dumb. Why wouldn't you dance with your gf? If you say it made her upset (rather than it being her choice not to dance with you), I can understand why.

The first one -- about ditching her when you're going out -- sounds a little iffy. I personally wouldn't have done it. But then again, I've been known to act a bit chumpish myself (so I myself would be more likely to go toward the opposite extreme of being too nice).


You seem to be forgetting one overall rule: Reward good behavior, and punish bad behavior. It seems stupid to ditch a girl on a date unless she was chatting up someone else for a long time and ignoring you. Same with the dance -- Why the hell wouldn't you dance with her?

 

[itishe]

I didn't really dance with her because it felt akward. Just the night before I ditched her and made her cry then bam it's prom, time to smile, take pictures, and dance. Just felt weird.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

- Ditched this girl I was seeing one night. We went to a local fast food joint to meet one of my friends who was bored and lonely after I saw a movie with my date. Anywho after the joint it's my friend, her and me. Her friends come by in rollerblades and she's outside talking to them for about 10 minutes. My friend and I get bored so we wave good bye to them and leave. I get a call from one of her friends in the next few minutes saying I was a **** and that my "girl-friend" is pissed. My "girlfriend" later tells me I made her cry and she never cries. I apologized because I felt like a ****.

- The day after the above incident was prom. I didn't really talk to her much that day, nor did I dance with her much (I did a few slow dances with her). Felt akward. She was upset about this one too.

- When we go on dates I tend to not pay for her (if we go to the movies, I usually make her pay, but food and icecream, etc I usually get the tab). She has given me **** for it, but it's playful. I think if it really bugged her she wouldn't say anything about it and let it build up over time. She makes alot more money then I do because I work about 4 hours a week... yes radioindustry sucks **** sometimes. This one I'm not too worried about, because I don't know if she'll be around in a couple months and I love money.

^lmao...

 

[itishe]

Have a date going bowling tonight. I plan to not pay for her.

1. I suggested pool and since the table is at the bowling alley she wanted to bowl.
2. I'm not married to her.
3. Bowling is expensive.