Tell me if I should be upset

[italostud]

K, me and the girl are having a nice long talk last night, about two hours. She calls me up and is complaining about other girls wanting me and whatnot. I smooth it all out, you know one of those convos. So anyways, about 2am I'm say that I'm tired and that I'm going to bed, and she's like "ok, yeah, I'm tired too"

THEN

she goes "Hey, do you care if I call up one of my guy friends and talk for a bit"

I just shook my head. It's like we just had that nice convo, and she's asking me permission to call another guy(who she works with) at 2am. I told her I thought that was a bit weird, but I was like "whatever". So she calls me this morning, and I basically told her I thought that was disrespectful. She's acting like she had no idea that calling up other guys at 2 or 3 am is a big deal.
She told me that sometimes her guy friends call her that late, after I leave and that she talks to them, sometimes for hours.

So now I'm a little pissed because I feel like I showed some jealousy.

She honestly acts like she doesn't think it's a bad thing. I don't know if she's trying to **** with my head, or if she really thinks it's o.k.

Should I care about this or what? I'm a little confused. Something tells me that **** just isn't right.

 

[squirrels]

Please tell me you're smart enough to see the correlation between HER arguing with you about other WOMEN and then letting you know she's calling other MEN.

She played the "two can play" gimmick on you and you walked right into it.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by squirrels
Please tell me you're smart enough to see the correlation between HER arguing with you about other WOMEN and then letting you know she's calling other MEN.

She played the "two can play" gimmick on you and you walked right into it.

Yeah bro, I have to agree with squirrels. She ran that game and you fell into it. It's all good though, it happens. Don't let it overwhelm you, shake it off and move on.

Showing emotions, shows that you care, thus giving 'her' the power.

My response would have been 'why you asking me for, do what ya gotta do'. This would have really pissed her off, lol.

 

[italostud]

Yeah, I think both you guys are right. That's why I love these forums, i get the straight info I need with no bullshyt.

Any way to save face here? Maybe tell her I over-reacted and that I thought about it and I don't give a shyt, or just not bring it up?

 

[DJ_Dork]

She was doing the 'pay attention to me only' test on you. You failed. I failed the same test too before.

Save face? Well, just keep it cool, let her call you and do whatever. She'll bring up the same test...this time be funny/aloof in answering.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by italostud
Yeah, I think both you guys are right. That's why I love these forums, i get the straight info I need with no bullshyt.

Any way to save face here? Maybe tell her I over-reacted and that I thought about it and I don't give a shyt, or just not bring it up?

Wait your the dood that just got cheating right?? LOL Dood your "girl" is going to play your @ss so hard now, and you've gotta be prepared for it!!!

Anyways, when she mentioned that her "guy friends" call her late and night and visa versa, she was definitely trying to get a rise outta you. The best way to respond when she asked you if that was ok, could have been a ****y smile and laugh or a blantant I don't mind. As Squirrels indicated, this would've drove her crazy!!!

I'd start looking at other options bro, because yoru relationship with this chick will never be the same and I wouldn't be surprised if she starts cheating on you to show you that she can play that game too.



PIMP

 

[jama]

Listen dude, you are really in very good shape. You know why? Because she is jealous, she knows that you have other options; she knows that you can have other chicks. CONGRTS MAN.

Know, what you need to do is:
1- Show her that it’s ok to call anyone that she wants. Don’t ever try to correct her (she knows what she is doing).
2- Don’t ever, ever, and let me say it LOUD and CLEAR, show her jealousy in any form.
3- When you are with her on the phone or any other situations, if you feel like to go or to hang up the phone, SAY SO. Be A MAN.
4- And keep doing what you are doing.

Try to date other chicks now. Don’t think to be honest or wherever here. Just have your own fun with as much chicks as you desire.

Good luck

 

[italostud]

Yeah you guys were right, the shyt test came again tonight. She again said she needed to ask me something. She asked something she knew would probably piss me off, or at least get a rise out of me. I said "no, why would I care?" And continued laughing at the t.v.
Then she kind of rephrased the question and I could tell she was a little confused as to why I wasn't getting upset. By this point I was seeing right through her, so I replied again with a very convincing "I don't mind" and started laughing at the t.v. again.

At this point, I swear to god, out of the corner of my eye I saw her make this really funny, confused face, and I think her eye even twitched hahahahaha. Priceless.

 

[becker]

Hey, this reminds me of when I was trying to dump my GF in the past. She was totally into me, but I no longer wanted anything to do with her because we were just not compatible.

The more I tried, the more she kept calling. However, she eventually moved on when we totally cut off all contact from each other.

Be careful what you're doing, because everyone has their breaking point. Jealousy is one thing, but if all you do is show indifference, you can bet your a$$ that she'll be out of there at some point because she'll just get tired of it.