skinnyguy said:
You misread my post. I was differentiating between cold approach and meeting a girl through a common interest activity. If you meet a girl through say, a cooking class, you will have 100 times more value to her than if you cold approach because of your common interest (assuming you go regularly).
I'm not "afraid of rejection". I'm more afraid of wasting my time. I work 70 hours a week and I'm not going to spend my time getting to know a girl unless 1) I have seen some interest and 2) I know she is intelligent and hold a decent conversation. Randomly picking up chicks will lead to a majority of them being completely incompatible with you, or them having their "guard" up because you're just another person with a penis to them.
I have not yet seen anyone prove that daygame is effective. Getting one lay out of 100 approaches is not effective; it's borderline pathetic.
Instead of preaching "cold approach", we should be preaching building your own interests and going to targeted events that that will both make you happy and also possibly match you with someone who is compatible with you (so you don't end up on here 2 months later crying about some BPD you met on the street).
You can meet a BPD on the street, class, work, etc. What does that have to do with anything? If you know what to look for, you won't get stuck with a BPD. It's pretty simple. You can't even tell if a girl is a BPD until you hang out with her a few times, especially the high functioning ones.
Now if you aren't good looking to average looking with above average fashion, yes, cold approaching will suck, especially on the better looking girls. But that is the point, to work on yourself and your social freedom, which is the biggest benefit of day game.
You keep talking value this, value that. The fact is most girls aren't gonna want to f**k you, high value or low value. A good majority of the time it doesn't even have anything to do with you. You keep swimming in theory and thinking about bs like alpha, beta, value, status, etc. You take Leonardo Dicaprio in the streets and he even he wouldn't pull every girl he approaches. It's just the way it is. Women are much more picky. If you want to get laid, maximize your looks, style, and social freedom. That's all there is to it. There are girls who would only seriously date rich, successful men but it doesn't mean they wouldn't be open to fvcking a guy if they find him physically attractive, and that guy could be you.
Are you looking for a GF or to get laid? Watch Chris from goodlookingloser's vids. He pulled a girl into his car within 5 minutes using day game.
The way you are talking is you want to look for a highly compatible GF, which according to studies, even dating sites with their matching algorithms aren't any better than any other sources of meeting and dating people. Having a petty hobby in common with a girl doesn't ensure longterm compatibility, anyway. Longterm compatibility is based on similar religions, views on how to run a family, shared views in relationship dynamics, cultural similarities, similar ideas and expectations for where both people see themselves in the future, etc. It's very hard to find what I am describing and your best option is casting a wide net and filter through it. That's the whole point of the abundance mentality.
