Tell her I am a virgin?

[Jumpman23]

So I grew up in a relatively religious household and was planning on waiting for until marriage. I have had bj's, and hj's before but, not intercourse. I was set up on a blind date with this girl via her uncle. We hung out last summer, hooked up numerous times, and that was that. But we have been seeing each other over the spring. I am actually moving jobs for the summer, leaving this Sunday. For the most part, I really am not going to be back. So I would like to consummate our relationship this weekend. Should I bring it up. Thoughts?

 

[Maxtro]

Wow I can't believe that people are still waiting for marriage. In the Bible days 2,000 years ago. Waiting for marriage made sense because people got married around 16-18. It's no big deal waiting till you're 18 to have sex. The reason that this fails in todays society is that the average age for marriage is about 26. I read somewhere that it was like 25 for women and 28 for men. I can't imagine anybody putting off sex for that long. The fact that you've lasted till 26 is a miracle

BTW why have you decided to stop waiting?

As for telling her. I would wait till the time was right. Maybe if you are having a conversation about sex you can tell her that you are a virgin. Tell her that you were waiting till marriage and why you decided to stop waiting. Another occasion is in the middle of foreplay. You can say something like, "I've never done this before and I'd like you to guide me." She should probably get the idea.

 

[azanon]

If it helped your game to say you were a virgin, all the single guys here would be doing it. They don't, so what does that tell you? ;-)

 

[Bible_Belt]

Tell her I am a virgin?

no way, not until you have had sex with her a lot already and she asks in passing how many girls you've been with, this should be while lying in bed naked after sex.

If she wants to know right before sex, in a std prevention concern kind of way, then just tell her you know for sure that you are clean and do not elaborate.

 

[NewMan]

There's no point - and it probably will not come up.

Have fun.

 

[reset]

No way, not until you have had sex with her a lot already and she asks in passing how many girls you've been with, this should be while lying in bed naked after sex..

There's no point - and it probably will not come up.

Have fun.

Can't they tell?

 

[NewMan]

Can't they tell?

What - you mean look for the hymen on his c0ck?

No, they can't....... Fake it until you make it.

 

[reset]

What - you mean look for the hymen on his c0ck?

No, they can't....... Fake it until you make it.

LOL! Just been out of practice. There's lots of threads here that say "fvck her like she's never been fvcked before" and that gives guys performance anxiety. It's probably not such a big deal though.

 

[thedeparted]

Wait. So you were gonna wait all this time, and now you got one chance, and so you're like, Fvck it, I'll blow it all on this one chick?

Either you're not being honest about your reasons for waiting, or you're putting this chick on the pedastel. It's way more manly to say something like, "I'd like to fvkc you, but I intend to wait until marriage, and you are not marriage material," than it is to say, "I'm a virgin b/c I was waiting until marriage, but my great resolve melted as soon as I saw you."

So if you are gonna go for it, you'd better keep your mouth shut. However, if you want to tell, keep in mind that some women will enjoy breaking in a virgin, and others will go for the sensitive guy story, as long as it doesn't sound like a weakness. They like the idea that they will be the centerfold in your life, and they think this will give them more control of you. And, actually, they are often right.

So your bigger concern here is not that she finds out you are green, but that after one whiff you turn into a pvssy addict with only one supplier, who will then sense your desperation, and start jacking-up the price of the goods. Pretty soon you'll be breaking into cars to pay for your habit, and then we'll find you homeless wandering the streets muttering, "I thought she was the one... I thought she was the one..."

P.S. I'm kidding about the last part. You'll probably be wandering the streets muttering, "$800 a month for child support!? Does she really need organic locally-grown diapers and a crib made of naturally-felled hardwood? Why can't she just leave the baby in the bathtub and turn on the shower every time it poops?"

:nervous: :nervous: :nervous:

 

[ElChoclo]

You won't have to explain your poor performance like its a test at school. Chances are that a girl attracted to a religious type is not going to be in much of a position to evaluate your performance.

Virginity is that little secret men keep, like women not telling their age. It is much classier not to tell either before or after.

 

[Tazman]

I highly recommend you not saying anything before or after, it's not necessary. Also, don't go into it thinking you've got something to prove or you're not going to enjoy yourself and it can make you nervous as well.

I faked it and was never asked if I was a virgin. Just go into it to enjoy yourself, don't "think" about anything.

 

[( . )( . )]

How the fvck can a 26 year old man be a virgin? I just dont get it. I dont even buy the "but religion" trumps a mans urges" bullsh!t argument anymore either.

It's straight up pathetic in my books, and unless you got the sex drive of a eunuch it's just baffling.

And for crying out loud it doesnt even say you have to wait until marriage to have sex you moron.

Is it? Fundamentalists would have us believe it. But the Bible is unclear. In Exodus, chapter 20, we read the Ten Commandments, and are told that we should not commit adultery. Adultery however is not defined as simply having sex outside of marriage. It's defined as having sex with a married person. Nothing is said to prohibit sexual relations between two unmarried people. In fact, if we look in the book of Leviticus, we are given a list of every situation in which we should not have sex. We're not to have sex with married people, or with family members, or with animals. We are not, however, prohibited from having sex with an unmarried person who is not in our family.

--Fighttheright.

This is old news and available to ALL, why the hell are you young, horny "christians" or whatever the fvck you are not latching onto this piece of news like it's a mothers tit and shouting it to whoever will listen in your church?

Weirdos. .....""Should I tell her I'm a virgin??" Pffft

For fvcks sake you got bigger problems as far as I'm concerned and should get your priorities right, how's about admitting to yourself first and foremost that perhaps waiting was maybe a bloody stupid idea, and making sure your kids dont go through the same bullsh!t you did if and when you do meet "the one" That God decides to give you.

Unfvckinbelievable.


On thinking back this was more of a rant I just realised, oh well. Feel free to delete if it's against the rules or whatever.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Well, for the past few months I have been telling girls I am a virgin. Ofcourse, it was just a joke and I think they know that. So if you want, go ahead and say "I'm a virgin" but have a smile on your face. Then she won't know whether you are just joking or not. But make sure you bang her like you are NOT a virgin.

Get some of those condoms that make your d!ck numb and have at it for an hour or 2. She will never know the truth. Those condoms are crazy, it's impossible to bust a nut with them.

 

[Trader]

How the fvck can a 26 year old man be a virgin? I just dont get it. I dont even buy the "but religion" trumps a mans urges" bullsh!t argument anymore either.

It's straight up pathetic in my books, and unless you got the sex drive of a eunuch it's just baffling.

And for crying out loud it doesnt even say you have to wait until marriage to have sex you moron.

--Fighttheright.

This is old news and available to ALL, why the hell are you young, horny "christians" or whatever the fvck you are not latching onto this piece of news like it's a mothers tit and shouting it to whoever will listen in your church?

Weirdos. .....""Should I tell her I'm a virgin??" Pffft

For fvcks sake you got bigger problems as far as I'm concerned and should get your priorities right, how's about admitting to yourself first and foremost that perhaps waiting was maybe a bloody stupid idea, and making sure your kids dont go through the same bullsh!t you did if and when you do meet "the one" That God decides to give you.

Unfvckinbelievable.


On thinking back this was more of a rant I just realised, oh well. Feel free to delete if it's against the rules or whatever.

Get your facts straight - the bible clearly forbids sex between two unmarried people. This is called FORNICATION.

Galatians 5:19-21 - "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these, adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness ... of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."

I'm 26, a Christian, a virgin, and proud of it. And I could care less if you think it is 'pathetic.'

Now to the original poster - if you are a virgin for religious reasons - you don't need to take the initiative and let her know. You are not on Oprah - she doesn't need to hear your life story.

If she asks directly if you are a virgin, THEN tell her confidently and be proud of it.

You will drive her crazy with lust as most men don't have the balls to stick with their convictions and beliefs.

And it is golden when you turn a hot girl down for sex - you should see the look on her face

 

[azanon]

That tells me they're saying it wrong. Most of the single guys here say it and use it as an insecurity. If you say it confidently, and then possibly make a joke of her wanting to steal your virginity, you could play it off cool.
But really, it'd just be easier not tell her, and fvck her. Simple.

Its not just easier... its better not to tell her. Yes, there's worse vs. worst (duh), but why not just do it the best way?

Isn't this in the DJ bible 101 section?

 

[h_roberts]

Wow. I admire you for holding out. I can't comprehend it either, but I respect you. I wish more people would try to understand the big picture about celebacy until marriage. For some people, it isn't because religious convictions DICTATE it (damnation for violating) , but rather because the underlying values that the religion instills make sense to the person, and if they can hold out, it makes the relationship with that special person all the more valuable.

HOWEVER, I believe that if you have this conviction, your first partner should share it as well. That is, if you are getting married and have gone through with the celebacy until the right person happens along. IF YOU ARE ABANDONING THAT BELIEF, then an experienced partner will benefit you.

Here is my suggestion. If you are abandoning this conviction and are seeking experience, then you MUST consider your first partner a learning experience rather than an all important event with "ramifications". That is too much pressure. So what if the first time is akward? You can BET that the first time, no matter who it is, will be. I say that tongue in cheek, because a lot of it just comes natural.

If this woman is special to you or you don't want to mess it up, find another female friend who you think is attracted to you that KNOWS your situation and is willing to be your teacher. That might be a tall order, but it isn't all that rare.

But most important, just do it. Don't allow the pressure to keep you from pursuing what you want.

 

[Jitterbug]

If you really must tell her, do it after you've just given her the royal fvcking of her life, not before it (because then it'll never happen).

 

[Bible_Belt]

Get your facts straight - the bible clearly forbids sex between two unmarried people. This is called FORNICATION.

Galatians 5:19-21 - "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these, adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness ... of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."

I'm 26, a Christian, a virgin, and proud of it. And I could care less if you think it is 'pathetic.'

If she asks directly if you are a virgin, THEN tell her confidently and be proud of it.

Get your facts straight. Pride is more of a sin than sex.

 

[STR8UP]

So I grew up in a relatively religious household and was planning on waiting for until marriage. I have had bj's, and hj's before but, not intercourse.

Thank the lord for "technicalities"....

 

[STR8UP]

Get your facts straight - the bible clearly forbids sex between two unmarried people. This is called FORNICATION.

But bj's and hj's are ok?

Sorry, but man, it must suck to be you.