Having no technique and realizing that if you need a technique, you have too much time on your hands and women are too important to you. In other words, ***** is too important to you and therefore, at the core there is probably some level of neediness, insecurity and desperation.
Techniques don't resonate with me. I say get to the core of evolutionary psychology and realize that you are either a provider beta or a genetic contributor alpha. Then chose which side of the coin you want to be on, change your behavior, actions and lifestyle to be congruent with that side and let the chips fall where they may.