Techie Seduction : Need help ASAP!

[Don Ronny]

OK here is the rundown. I met this girl a few weeks ago and we were talking about computers. She is into film editing so I told her how I have all these great programs and she should come over and I will install them for her. She seems very grateful for this, but I want to know how I can make her EXTRA grateful (wink, wink) I know this girl through a friend and we have only spoken once in person and twice on the phone. She hasn't given me any buying signals, but I know this doesnt mean sh!t as most girls are excellent actresses. I ran into our mutual friend and it turns out she has been talking about how cool I am to be helping her out, so I know she digs me on some level. I just need to figure out a way to smoothly escalate things and get physical with her. What would you smooth operators do in my shoes? I have 4 hours to devise a few plans/ideas and then let it flow when she shows up.

So I am basically asking: How do I go from Tech Support to Sex Support without making cheesy references to how I want to install my big hard disc in her motherboard?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Hmm, what are you getting out of this tech support deal? She paying you cash, or is it a favour?

If the latter, why not tell her to pay you back with a couple of beers/coffee/dinner/whatevers appropriate?

The situ does sound a little KFC though...

Oscar.

 

[Helios]

GOOD GAWD MAN! I don't think I've ever heard of a situation like that working out anywhere near where you'd like it to go. Sure she may think you're cool for helping her out but that's about it.

My advice to you would be to just get the programs installed and try to set up another date.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

....just ask her out to dinner, start with the basics my friend!

M.A.C.

 

[Quick]

You can't buy her and create attraction by doing her a favor. That's a mistake we all made in our pre-DJ days. Gratitude and attraction are two separate things, and you can't get to one through the other. Often, you'll work against your cause. You're being too nice and giving things to her just because she's attractive. You're asking her to use you.

What you need to do now is to suggest that she repays you by cooking you dinner or buying you dinner. She may not be attracted to you, but this way you get a chance to increase her attraction, and at the very least get paid for your work.

 

[Don Ronny]

Awesome replies here. I like this whole "whats in it for me attitude" Makes me see how close I was to supplicating this chick.

thanks guys, you have inspired me to just go with the flow here. The Sade, Massive Attack and Portishead CDs are all set in my CD changer and I just bought some red wine and some incense just in case things go better than planned, but for now I will keep things light, fun and casual and see how things pan out. I will definitely be milking her for a free dinner and then some!

Thanks again fellas. This site fukkin rules!

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Hey...buy some white wine just in case she don't like the red!

Pino Grigio is a good white wine.

M.A.C.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Quick
You can't buy her and create attraction by doing her a favor. That's a mistake we all made in our pre-DJ days. Gratitude and attraction are two separate things, and you can't get to one through the other. Often, you'll work against your cause. You're being too nice and giving things to her just because she's attractive. You're asking her to use you.

I could not have said it better. With the gift giving, nice guy mentality, you are better off calling an escort service.

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

I agree with M.A.C Ron.

Have a bottle of red as the backup.

This is just my own personal tastes though..who knows.

 

[Ninja Dude]

I had a similar situation happen and it worked out nicely for me.

She came to my office afterhours with her laptop and I was giving her massive amounts of MP3's (These were in the Napster days and I was a fanatical collector at the time) The whole transfer took like 45 minutes so it was ample time to run game on her.

We talked about our favorite bands and she kept thanking me for doing her this favor. This was when I turned the tables on her. I was like "Favor? I'm sorry honey, you are terribly mistaken if you think you are getting all this quality sh!t for free!" I paused for effect and she got this wide-eyed "oh shyt" look in her eyes. Then I kept pressing. "C'mon, aint a damn thing for free in this world, one hand washes the other..." and so on. I asked her how she planned to repay me and she was at a loss, so I started askin her if she could cook. She couldn't. I asked her if she was filthy rich. She wasn't.

Finally I was started to pretend to unhook the cables like I was backing out of the whole deal and right when she was about to protest, i smiled and broke the tension. We both laughed and then I told her,"Hey I'll tell you what. Take me out to dinner after we are done here and we will call it even. Fair?" How could she argue? We went to dinner and although it took me a few days, we eventually hooked up and had some of the best sex ever.

You already know what to do Ronny my boy. Take your time and be laid back, but be sure to push it every chance you get. We are rootin 4 ya pal!

 

[Player_Supreme]

tell her to take you out to dinner or coffee sometime soon. make a quick date with her right on the spot in return for helping her. If she doesn't say anything about your helpt then she is probably selfish and not worth the effort...but you may want to either bring it up or just plain old ask her out....

 

[LowPlainsDrifter]

I think I messed up a situ like this...

I picked up a cute 50 year old single mom over AOL by talking about her computer problems.
I went to her house late one night ostensibly to work on her computer, but I didn't go for the kiss close.
She even asked me if I thought of her as a client or a date, and I dodged the question, while in fact it was a failed attempt to keep her guessing.
I wish to this day I had made it more clear from the get-go that I was interested in her, and not her PC.

 

[Don Ronny]

Let me just start by saying how much I love you guys. Between the great advice and the tale of regret from LowPlainsDrifter, I have taken these words to heart and things have gone pretty smooth for me. Here is the breakdown

First Night


She came over with her laptop and we fluff talked for a bit before I dove into the computer job (Wanted to make it obvious I was not just interested in her machine) I offered her some wine and it turns out she wanted WATER after all (DOH!) No biggie really but I found it funny how I was stressing over this detail earlier and now it meant jack sh*t.

So we are having some great conversation about travel and life dreams and everything seems sweet, until we hit a snag with her laptop. She was running OS X and didnt have the admin password so I couldnt install a damn thing! I tried a bunch of different tricks to hack the password (NetInfo Manager, restarting from CD, etc) and nothing worked. It was really eating my time so I pretended to be annoyed and said, "Damn now you owe me big for all the effort I am putting in here" She agreed with me and offered to take me out to dinner! I told her that was not enough and pointed to my cheek. She gave me a kiss. Then I pointed at my other cheek and she gave me another. I pointed at my lips and she gave me a warm kiss. No tongue but still sweet. I can tell she is a bit nervous from her body language so I take things slow and back off. (At this point I am trying to change my tactics because in the past my impatience has ruined my game)

A few friends called me so I ended up ditching her and said we should continue this another time, after I talk to my Mac specialist. She was a little thrown off, and maybe it wasnt the best move of the evening, but I didnt care at this point because I felt like going out and being rowdy and meeting some other chicks.

Second Night

I called her 2 days later and said I had found the solution to her problems. She came over right away and I was all set to work some hacking magic on her machine when I experienced the strangest problem ever on a computer. Her keyboard started triggering the wrong keys. I would press "7" and "q" would pop up on the screen. I got very frustrated but didnt show it. Instead we kept talking and making jokes about how much Apple sucks. I tried everything in my power but the machine is totally fuct so we head out to have some dinner. (she still owes me )

After dinner we go for a walk and wander through a park. I figure she is already into me if she has come this far so I am looking for a way to just makeout already. The conversation grew quiet and thats when I decided to comment on her lip-piercing and started busting on her, saying that she probably cant even kiss with that thing. She proceeded to prove me wrong and we got a nice make-out feel-up session goin. I tried to get her to come back to my place as we were making our way back but she declined saying she had to work in the morning.

So far so good, but I refuse to let her dominate my thoughts.
Time to go out and meet some more fine hunnies!

Thanks again guys, I am celebrating with wine as I type this

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Played

 

[Helios]

Sweet work guy!

 

[Don Ronny]

We finally hooked up this past weekend. I didn't even push up on her. She just turned all aggressive and jumped my bones!

thanx again for the killer advice guys! Amazing what a little patience will do for ya!

 

[Lionheart]

Something similar has happened to me recently, I helped out a girl with her computer, not to seduce her, but to give me a reason to see this girl and hang out with her for some great social proof.

Also I wanted to do her a favour, she is a friend and a wonderful girl, but I have no designs on her.

Especially when I found out that this nice girl is moving in with her soon, and I want an excuse to go back over in a few weeks.

I couldn't fix her computer, but she said to come over some time, I said I will be back over in a couple of weeks, perfect timing for this other chick!

 

[Quick]

Real glad to hear the good news. I love it when guys come on here and take advice to heart.