Six-String Samurai
Don Juan
Recently I've been pushing myself even harder to approach, contact, call the numbers I've gotten, meet up with girls, and generally be as pro-active as I possibly can. I realized that over the last couple of months I'd been half assing it... hanging out with prospects only when I was in the absolute best mood or when I could muster up the balls.
Over the last couple of weeks though, I began posting at this board again, and really pushing myself to challenge my comfort boundaries. On one hand I'd say it's definitely working. If the "me" of two years ago heard the numerous phone messages from various girls I have every time I pick up my phone, I wouldn't believe my ****in' ears. I'm regularly networking myself and getting myself out there, but I feel like I've lost a bit of discretion.
I'm not talking in terms of asking out every warpig I see... I mean just the opposite. I'm being flirty and DJ'ing every attractive woman in my life, regardless of their status in my life. A few minutes ago I was chatting online to this really cute girl I went to high school with. She's basically had a boyfriend constantly for years, so I've never done anything but make out with her a bunch of times. So we ended up being pretty close friends in high school by default. Anyway, right after finding out that she just broke up with her b/f, the DJ instinct immediately kicked in and I told my mostly platonic friend of 4 years that we should go out on a date. She seemed taken aback, but the weird part was that she said yes and gave me her new cel phone number.
And less than 12 hours ago I was out at a bar with a group of my friends when ANOTHER HB9 friend of mine walked in with some loser. She seemed REALLY happy to see me, and though I was inebriated, I asked for her number... right in front of her date. The guy looked like he was going to tear me a second *******. The weird part here was that I got the number AND I wasn't beaten up by this much bigger guy.
The point of this post is that I'm worried that my discretion has flown out the window. Even though these two scenarios worked out well, I'm afraid something like this might **** me over later.
Is it even worth it to have female friends, or was I right to ask this cutie out even though it may have made things permanently awkward between us? Is it a DJ move to ask for a girl's number in front of her date, or am I cruising for a bruising? Should I keep asking out every attractive thing in sight, or is discretion the better part of valor?
Over the last couple of weeks though, I began posting at this board again, and really pushing myself to challenge my comfort boundaries. On one hand I'd say it's definitely working. If the "me" of two years ago heard the numerous phone messages from various girls I have every time I pick up my phone, I wouldn't believe my ****in' ears. I'm regularly networking myself and getting myself out there, but I feel like I've lost a bit of discretion.
I'm not talking in terms of asking out every warpig I see... I mean just the opposite. I'm being flirty and DJ'ing every attractive woman in my life, regardless of their status in my life. A few minutes ago I was chatting online to this really cute girl I went to high school with. She's basically had a boyfriend constantly for years, so I've never done anything but make out with her a bunch of times. So we ended up being pretty close friends in high school by default. Anyway, right after finding out that she just broke up with her b/f, the DJ instinct immediately kicked in and I told my mostly platonic friend of 4 years that we should go out on a date. She seemed taken aback, but the weird part was that she said yes and gave me her new cel phone number.
And less than 12 hours ago I was out at a bar with a group of my friends when ANOTHER HB9 friend of mine walked in with some loser. She seemed REALLY happy to see me, and though I was inebriated, I asked for her number... right in front of her date. The guy looked like he was going to tear me a second *******. The weird part here was that I got the number AND I wasn't beaten up by this much bigger guy.
The point of this post is that I'm worried that my discretion has flown out the window. Even though these two scenarios worked out well, I'm afraid something like this might **** me over later.
Is it even worth it to have female friends, or was I right to ask this cutie out even though it may have made things permanently awkward between us? Is it a DJ move to ask for a girl's number in front of her date, or am I cruising for a bruising? Should I keep asking out every attractive thing in sight, or is discretion the better part of valor?