talking reality with Mom

[logicallefty]

My mom is almost 70 and she and I have a pretty good relationship. She is a filthy potty mouth just like I am. Drops more F bombs than I do, and won't hesite to flick you off and tell you to go F yourself if she feels compelled to. I love her to death!

When I first introduced her to my GF two years ago, mom said to me "Don't under estimate your mother. I pushed you out of my t**t, didn't I?"

Not too long ago mom and I had a conversation we had before several years ago. It was me telling her that everything she taught me as a kid about women, dating, and being myself was a complete line of crap. She said "(sigh)Yeah I know it was, but as mothers that's just what we teach". Talk about getting right to the root of it.

Has anyone else had similar talks with their mother?

To get mom to admit this really goes a long way for the people who think that the core beliefs we have on this site are wrong. I have friends my age who still think all the old crap their mothers fed them is correct. To hear a mother admit it was crap is pretty cool, I think.

 

[MtnMan]

I've actually tried a bit with my mom. My mom is very open to deep political and philosophical conversations, but anything that involves introspection (calling out her false teachings) shuts her down instantly. She almost starts to get it, and then shuts down right away.

 

[Kailex]

My mom always shot straight with me because she didn't want me to repeat the same mistakes her or my father made. She always emphasized that I should make my own life a priority first and to be happy... not to have any one woman be the source of my happiness.

She never pushed me into getting married, having kids, none of that...

In essence, she taught me how to be a little more thick skinned when it came to women than my dad was.

She also brought up my sister the same way... didn't bring her into the fantasy realm and my sister actually did really good when it came to getting a man. After 5 years, they are getting married and moving in together. She's her own person, independent, and can make it on her own but defers very much to her fiancée and he is definitely the man in that relationship.

I've seen other members of my family... with a lot more unfortunate circumstances.

Then again a lot of my family isn't completely "Westernized", so things work a bit different in some parts of Puerto Rico.

 

[Night-hawk]

Shyt, I was having a short chat with my grandma the other week...she knows how them 'hoochies' are these days.

 

[Alvafe]

truth good thing one thing I did learn earlier was never really heard or do what my mom said, I had several problems with kids when I was kids, with then picking on me, my mom said to never fight back adn run to a teacher or something, it was never possible, then I did what I wanted for a ****ing long time, and fight back and started to strike then,

after I started doing that things started to get better (figured the if you don't respect me then you will fear me pretty young).

it also means she never wanted for me to learn how to fight, too bad to her I did anyway and when I was older enough to put more backbone on me(and pay for it) I started to do classes,

my dad was more cool on it, but most of time he never was around, or was working, or working, so several times I had to learn on my own, guess only thing I learn from him was to fix things.

and I always though I would do better then my dad if I ahd kids I would be around tehn more then my dad, but who knows.

 

[apprenticedj]

My mom and I have great conversations all the time about love, relationships, dating etc. I think she truly believed alot of that Disney fairy tale stuff when I was young, she was still an idealist but time has given her a taste of the other, darker side of love.

My dad has always been frank about everything, hyperaware of the pitfalls of love and women yet he's been married FOUR times so he seems to still want to try. :kick:

I'm pretty certain that 85% of the world (men and women) is sold on the fantasy so I don't try to convert anybody. I let them live in their fantasy world.

 

[VladPatton]

My mom is pretty red pill, too, now that I think about it. It was on several occasions she muttered the phrase "that bıtch just needs to get back in the kitchen!"