Talking for like 5 hours

[JJaySBK]

I just face book chatted with a girl for like 5 hours. All we did was build comfort. I gave her **** for some things then I pulled her back in. We recycled this process over and over for a long ass time, just through chat.

I know I'm supposed to be unavailable and make chat sessions short. What can I say, it was raining outside and my computer was on while I was doing some homework.

I don;t know if I ****ed this up too bad, but I know that I sprinkled CF throughout the whole session, did a lot of push/pull and qualifying. At the end of the night, we were pretty much talking about if she was Bi or how we have a lot in common.

I'm afraid she is so comfortable with me online, that she will be too scared or flake in reality.

Was this 5 hour session nearly 5 hours too long? Or was it acceptable in this situation?

 

[f283000]

Brother I'm not even going to say anything about the 5 hours and how you shouldn't talk to her that long since i'm sure there's going to be plenty of people that will come along and yell at you for it (and rightly so). Instead i'm going to focus on something else.

YOU TALKED TO HER FOR 5 HOURS AND DIDN'T EVEN ASK HER OUT???? WTF??? The least you should have gotten out of this was a date. Please tell me you got a date out of this or at least that you asked her out!!!!! :cuss:

No way i'm going to let some hor take 5 hours of my time without trying to get a date out of it. I'm not trying to be friends with women here and neither should you. End the conversation while it's still good and offer to carry it over downtown for some drinks or something at a later time.

5 hours????

 

[JJaySBK]

Brother I'm not even going to say anything about the 5 hours and how you shouldn't talk to her that long since i'm sure there's going to be plenty of people that will come along and yell at you for it (and rightly so). Instead i'm going to focus on something else.

YOU TALKED TO HER FOR 5 HOURS AND DIDN'T EVEN ASK HER OUT???? WTF??? The least you should have gotten out of this was a date. Please tell me you got a date out of this or at least that you asked her out!!!!! :cuss:

I didn't ask her out too directly, but she kept asking me to ride on the back on my motorcycle and we can go to a bookstore or something afterwards.

After joking around with that for a little, she asked if she could come over so I could teach her how to play Call of Duty :crackup: at 1 AM but I had to work.

I'm just scared that I entered the friends zone or something... her being too comfortable with me... being the person to "talk to" instead of "****"

You know what I mean? Maybe that clears things up a little bit.

I NEVER EVER talk for more than 5 minutes online. This time was just the exception since I was very lazy today and allowed myself to chat for an extended period.

 

[f283000]

I'm just scared that I entered the friends zone or something... her being too comfortable with me... being the person to "talk to" instead of "****"

And how do you find out the truth? By asking her out on a date which you didn't which i'm sure she probably wouldn't have said no. She already insinuated twice (which you should have gotten the hint).

Like I said you can find out the truth and clear all confusion by asking her out. If she agrees then you just have to make your shot work. Don't complicate yourself brother. Next time ask her out.

 

[JJaySBK]

Hmmm.. I can see where you are coming from.

I had it a little backwards on how I did this. I figured that since i chatted too long, she wouldn't want to "****" me, so I didn't bother asking her out :crazy:
I guess I should've asked her out first and asked the question on this forum afterwards.

I'll ask her out tomorrow... I believe she'll either say "yes" or "finally" so I think I'm still in the clear with the whole date thing.

 

[Reckoning]

If she was willing to spend 5 hours chatting with you, she's definitely interested one way or the other. Just steer the communication between you towards the "let's have sex" path.

 

[Mistic]

Dude, I am in the middle of an FB chat right now. Here's how it is going so far . .

Me

whats up

8:52pmEva

nothing much. why watz up with you?

8:53pmMe

nuthin just messin around

8:55pmMe

if you had ur own place I might *** over and grab a handfull of your hair and get you on ur knees

9:00pmEva

dont tease me

9:00pmMe

why not

9:03pmEva is offline.
9:04pmEva is online.

9:06pmEva

because your gonna get me in trouble!!

9:07pmMe

Thats the point


Get it. To the point. Dont listen to anyone saying this is a good thing, she must be interested.

 

[Diaforetikos]

She asked if she could come over so you could teach her how to play Call of Duty, and you said NO!!? What is goin on!!? Biggest IOI ever and you say no because you had work!? And now your sitting here on this forum wondering if there is anything between you two.

All you can do now is call her tomorrow and ask her out. Don't waste anymore opportunities or you'll only end up mad at yourself.

 

[RMM]

Get it. To the point. Dont listen to anyone saying this is a good thing, she must be interested.

I'm going to give you a different tack, but it's not going to be to dissimilar to that.

I've had longass chats on Yahoo chat that were rather fruitful. While I didn't do the teasing bit like Mistic suggested, my usual modus operandi is to build a fantasy and go from there. It's my style. Its slower. But it works. It works because it adheres to the same basic principle of Mistic's approach: You get some sexual tension going.

Mine go more towards the "romance novel" kind of thing (just check a handful, they're incredible formulaic because it works). However, no matter which method you use, you have to do it with a purpose.

If you talked for five hours and didn't get a clear answer to whether there is attraction or not - as in, are you going out with her or have clear signs that you can be banging her in the near future - then you're doing it wrong.

 

[chulhee]

up to 5 hours
you are ruining your eyes

 

[Commandante]

I just face book chatted with a girl for like 5 hours.

Some questions:

- Why to chat if you can call her on Skype? It´s more personal.
- Why to chat if she is living in the same town like you do? Asking her out for a drink is even more personal. And both of you had time - 5 hours.
- Why to chat if she is living in an other town like you do? How do you want to fvck her?
- Why to chat anyway?

 

[Scion]

Dude, I am in the middle of an FB chat right now. Here's how it is going so far . .

Me

whats up

8:52pmEva

nothing much. why watz up with you?

8:53pmMe

nuthin just messin around

8:55pmMe

if you had ur own place I might *** over and grab a handfull of your hair and get you on ur knees

9:00pmEva

dont tease me

9:00pmMe

why not

9:03pmEva is offline.
9:04pmEva is online.

9:06pmEva

because your gonna get me in trouble!!

9:07pmMe

Thats the point


Get it. To the point. Dont listen to anyone saying this is a good thing, she must be interested.

was this your cousin that you were chatting with. See even she thinks inter-cousin-lovin is wrong. Don't keep it in the family.

 

[Trader]

I just face book chatted with a girl for like 5 hours. All we did was build comfort. I gave her **** for some things then I pulled her back in. We recycled this process over and over for a long ass time, just through chat.

I know I'm supposed to be unavailable and make chat sessions short. What can I say, it was raining outside and my computer was on while I was doing some homework.

I don;t know if I ****ed this up too bad, but I know that I sprinkled CF throughout the whole session, did a lot of push/pull and qualifying. At the end of the night, we were pretty much talking about if she was Bi or how we have a lot in common.

I'm afraid she is so comfortable with me online, that she will be too scared or flake in reality.

Was this 5 hour session nearly 5 hours too long? Or was it acceptable in this situation?

Welcome to Friend Zone

Population: You

 

[horaholic]

What Trader said. I was gonna post the exact same thing, before I read his.

Just because a girl is going along with your flirting messages, does not means she's interested! They do that shyt for attention all the time. Dont read too much into it.

If you get sexual again, AT THE VERY LEAST switch it to a phone call and have phone sex. Obviously the better option would be for one of you to come over.

 

[JJaySBK]

Welcome to Friend Zone

Population: You

Believe it or not.. thats the first time I've been in the friends zone since I found out about it 2 years ago.

Like I mentioned above, this is possibly the only time I've done more than a 5 minute chat and look where it got me. Lesson learned. At least I know 1 more thing NOT to do

 

[scribblec]

your not in the friendzone just because u talked to this chick on fb for 5 hours, dont believe the bull**** u read here, if u take initiative and lead the interaction and call and tell her time and place then everything will work out.

 

[brekke]

I have talked to girls for that long when I liked them. I do not see anything wrong with it if you are enjoying yourself.

 

[f283000]

your not in the friendzone just because u talked to this chick on fb for 5 hours, dont believe the bull**** u read here, if u take initiative and lead the interaction and call and tell her time and place then everything will work out.

Exactly what I said. The only way to find out where he stand is to ask her out plain and simple. No need to especulate he needs to ask the question.