talk some sense into me

[hamilton]

So here's the deal-

Up until this past saturday, I had not had sex in 3 years. Yes, you read that right, 3 years. I had sex with my one girlfriend in high school, and had some problems w/ cumming too early. Over the span of my drought, this performance anxiety grew. Several times I avoided sex, for fear of disappointing. One time I came before penetration. Another time I was so nervous I came in my pants. That's the backstory.

Last week, a girl I have had a little crush on since freshman year (i'm a junior now)started texting me saying she wanted to hang out. I knew she had had a bf who I was friendly with, but he had transferred hundreds of miles away at the beginning of last semester. I checked her facebook, and it said single, so it was on. We went out, played some pool, went back to my house, smoked some weed and had sex, and it was great, surprisingly. I then read the sex god method (amazing book) earlier this week, and have literally rocked her world the last 2 nights, for 30+ minutes each time.

Now here's the problem: I know I should be elated about overcoming my "problem", because at times I seriously thought I was gonna be chronic PE for life. However, this morning she let slip that she had only broken up with her bf last week. This creates 2 problems for me. The first is that I am feeling guilty. I was pretty friendly with her boyfriend, and I started banging her literally days after they broke up apparently- I kinda feel like **** about this. The second problem is that I am starting to get attached. As anyone who has read the sex god method knows, it heavily pushes emotional connection during sex, so I have been trying to implement that, with great results. However, the combination of that + the fact that she basically took my second virginity is ****ing with my headspace to the point where I am debating cutting it off with her.

Anyways, what do you guys think I should do with this? Half of me wants to say screw it and have fun/gain experience for as long as I can (she is graduating this year), but the other half wants to cut it off right now just so I can clear my head. I seriously hate this attachment crap, all the other girls I have hooked up with in college I have not gave a crap about. Sorry if this post is kinda pointless but I really just wanted to get this out somewhere.

PS- Anyone who has not read the sex god method, go read it right now. It completely changed my perspective on sex. Some of the stuff you won't believe when you read it but when you see how girls react to it it is incredible.

 

[ENIGMA16]

First, don't feel guilty about it. They were broken up, so it wasn't even cheating. You have nothing to apologize for. You f*cked a single girl. There's nothing wrong with that.

Second, regarding the oneitis you're developing, you should stop being around her and contacting her so much and create some distance. I don't think no contact is necessary, but you should definitely create some distance between you two. This has two effects:

First, while you are creating this distance you should go game other girls. The combination of the distance plus being around other women should decrease or maybe even rid you of your oneitis.

Second, it will increase her interest level in you, because now she will have to pursue you. You don't have to stop seeing her/talking to her, but always end up cutting off short and tell her you're doing something really interesting and have to go (don't literally say that of course, just be like "I gotta go" and if she asks you why just tell her you've got something going on, or pick something that sounds interesting, but keep it vague - women love mysteriousness). Oh, and you don't have to stop f*cking her, either, I don't think.

Do this and you should see her interest level rise.

 

[hamilton]

Thanks for the reply, that actually helped a lot.

Anyways, I have been gaming other girls, and she ahs been the one initiating meetups. Last night, I was at a dance party without her (we'll call her hboneitis), and I ended up making out with hbfreshman, a girl I have been gaming for a while. I probably could have brought hbfreshman home with me, but in the middle of the party hboneitis texted me "you know, if you're too tired to drive home tonight...:^)". At the end of the party, I ended up leaving hbfreshman to chill w/ hboneitis, because I like her more and sex was guaranteed. I did get hbfreshman to agree to meet up for coffee later in the week though, so we'll see how that goes.