Tales of the 18 Year Old
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Played well Synergist.
Like every1 has said, and you originally knew... you write:
It had its moments of escalation, into serious-emotions, etc.
But even in such scenarios... like Rollo said, ego aside you learned and benefitted.
Cheers Man.
I enjoyed this tale'
Like every1 has said, and you originally knew... you write:
And essentially... that is exactly what it was.
It had its moments of escalation, into serious-emotions, etc.
But even in such scenarios... like Rollo said, ego aside you learned and benefitted.
Cheers Man.
I enjoyed this tale'
Good gaming, you stated your terms and she pretty much took it. I agree with some guys here who say that girls who are under 21 are pretty much idiots (just like we were) but there are some under 21 yo who are really mature ,know where they're going, and are emotionally mature. If they're not at least they know what they're compatible with and where they're going. Usually the more you are compatible with a type of person the higher success she will bond with you, from the adventure that this 27 year old guy did, the whole relationship sounded like one of pure on the surface and sex buddy kinda thing. I can't relate to you as I see relationships in a different light but I congratulate you.
thesynergist
Don Juan
It began as something very superficial, very physical. Then it stopped. Then a few months later it picked up again and went quite a ways beyond the superficial, turning into an actual romance/relationship rather than a fling, at which point, naturally, it stopped after a few months (check out Rollo's behaviorism response earlier on in the post).Macgyver said:
She most certainly was not an airhead. Just a really sharp, fun, mixed up, hot-@55 18 year old with no idea where she was heading in life. My error was in allowing things to progress as far as they did, rather than slowing things down a litte, distancing myself more, stretching things out and creating more tension. Regardless of how excited she seemed about things getting serious, she wasn't ready for it.
We hooked up the second time because a) I'd showed her a hell of a good time the first time; and b) because I'd exercised the necessary discipline in my interactions with her after we split the first time.
We split the second time because a) I was showing her a hell of a good time a bit too often; and b) because i was not longer exercising the necessary discipline to maintain a position of strength in the relationship. She knew she almost had me, and I was no longer at a point where I was willing to walk away in a second.
Losing that mentality, I surrendered all. "Love" is interesting, and dangerous (and under the right circumstances without doubt amazing and fulfilling). I certainly don't understand it, but I think it without doubt has the power to make you slack, make you lose focus, and bring out the AFC that still lurks in the depths of your mind. UNLESS you've truly internalized the right mindset, which is where I need the most work. My dj mindset is powerful superficially, but crumbles at greater depths.
Peace and Quiet
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
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Master Don Juan
Yo Thesynergist,
Good post dude.
I think what you've done here is really By-the-Book Babe Busting.lol
No need to be hard on yourself at all. I've found that as much as we like to talk about it, a woman's age can sometimes ultimately be a moot factor in her behavior towards you.
I've had chicks from 20 to 40 go unexpectedly flakey on me in record time. Sure, maturity can sometimes be measure by age, but most of the time it's not. All we acan really do is make an educated guess armed with very little information.
Actually, life experiences and choosing to learn from life experiences is what produces maturity. Babes can be 40 years old and be as emotionally and intellectually as a 12 year old. Trust me, I've seen them!(...and dated them too...sigh).
If you have any doubts about the fact that i've just stated, think about the phrase i've listed below, and then consider all the connotations it has:
ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT.
To me it seems your only fault here was in allowing yourself to expect that at some point that your strategies would yield you more lasting results.
WTF???? How dare you allow yourself to feel optimistic! How dare you allow yourself to actually believe the behavior you're seeing for a change and put a little stock in it!! LOL
In truth, I find myself doing the same thing sometimes. It's the dream we all dream of. Honestly, it's one of the things that inspires me.
Why? Because ultimately I'd like to be able to relax at least a little bit, rather than feeling like I've got to be "ON" all the time. Ahhh, but as we all know, the existence of such thoughts are usually the triumph of hope over experience. That is, until the day comes when we meet someone REALLY worthy of our sustained affection and attention (see LOVE).
Until then, we've got to always keep our eyes open. The only way we can remain free from the tyranny of our own propensities for becoming emotional slaves to women is to ALWAYS be "ON".
I think that Sargent Slaughter from the old 80's version of the G.I. JOE cartoon show said it best:
"The price of freedom is ETERNAL VIGILANCE."
Peace...one day.
Good post dude.
I think what you've done here is really By-the-Book Babe Busting.lol
No need to be hard on yourself at all. I've found that as much as we like to talk about it, a woman's age can sometimes ultimately be a moot factor in her behavior towards you.
I've had chicks from 20 to 40 go unexpectedly flakey on me in record time. Sure, maturity can sometimes be measure by age, but most of the time it's not. All we acan really do is make an educated guess armed with very little information.
Actually, life experiences and choosing to learn from life experiences is what produces maturity. Babes can be 40 years old and be as emotionally and intellectually as a 12 year old. Trust me, I've seen them!(...and dated them too...sigh).
If you have any doubts about the fact that i've just stated, think about the phrase i've listed below, and then consider all the connotations it has:
ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT.
To me it seems your only fault here was in allowing yourself to expect that at some point that your strategies would yield you more lasting results.
WTF???? How dare you allow yourself to feel optimistic! How dare you allow yourself to actually believe the behavior you're seeing for a change and put a little stock in it!! LOL
In truth, I find myself doing the same thing sometimes. It's the dream we all dream of. Honestly, it's one of the things that inspires me.
Why? Because ultimately I'd like to be able to relax at least a little bit, rather than feeling like I've got to be "ON" all the time. Ahhh, but as we all know, the existence of such thoughts are usually the triumph of hope over experience. That is, until the day comes when we meet someone REALLY worthy of our sustained affection and attention (see LOVE).
Until then, we've got to always keep our eyes open. The only way we can remain free from the tyranny of our own propensities for becoming emotional slaves to women is to ALWAYS be "ON".
I think that Sargent Slaughter from the old 80's version of the G.I. JOE cartoon show said it best:
"The price of freedom is ETERNAL VIGILANCE."
Peace...one day.