I met this girl a lil over a month ago and we really hit it off, I went back to her place that night, but she made it clear we werent banging, which was cool with me, I wasnt looking at her as just a slam piece.
The next two weeks she seemed to be all about me and we would hang out a couple times a week, and when we did hang out, she seemed to want me, but all we did was makeout. She even invited me to her parents house and told all of her friends and family about me. So my thoughts were everything was going alright, i wasnt even thinking of a relationship, just that we were both into each other.
She then stops talking to me for the next two days. I was confused so i kind of brought it up to her the next day saying, I wasnt interested in playing games, so if thats what she wanted to do, I wasnt interested.
She told me that she just felt like we were already boyfriend and girlfriend and taking things way too fast, so she pulled back, which she didnt really tell me so I was thrown for a loop. She said she doesnt like to text too much and would rather get to know someone in person. I am fine with all that
So the last couple of weeks, I have given her space, the texting has decreased, which is fine with me because I dont like texting that much, I just never met a girl that didnt, but she truly doesnt. Sometimes she initiates a text, sometimes I do, but during the whole time, I have focused a lot more on myself and its really been no big deal.
We have hung out twice since then, one a date which we had a good time on, and she said she had a good time. The next hangout was yesterday, she was tired from a wedding the night before so she didnt want to do anything and said she was being unproductive so we could just hang out at her place. So i said that works, I brought some beers over, I had a couple, she didnt have any, and we just watched tv, didnt do too much talking. At the end of the night, we had a couple of kisses goodnight.
I went home, and she texted shortly thereafter saying about how her kitchen smelled like fish (which she had for dinner that night). Why the text? I have no clue haha
1) I havent tried anything more than kissing and usually only at the end of the night, because she doesnt really give too many opportunities to, even last night , when we were watching tv, she sat on one side of the couch and I sat on the other. the whole taking things slow continues to run through my mind, so i am not trying to force anything, but I also dont want to sit there if she is expecting me to make a move, which i have no problem doing. I am just beginning to wonder if she just doesnt want a relationship or sexual relationship ever.
I just have never had this issue with a girl, and literally have never been told to take it slow before, so I have no clue what this means and if this is actually legit behavior.
She is a more mature girl, she has a career and she is a year younger than me (28) so I dont think she would play games, but once again she is a female, so who knows.
Any thoughts on what I should do? Right now, I was just going to wait to see if she gets ahold of me again wanting to hang out
The next two weeks she seemed to be all about me and we would hang out a couple times a week, and when we did hang out, she seemed to want me, but all we did was makeout. She even invited me to her parents house and told all of her friends and family about me. So my thoughts were everything was going alright, i wasnt even thinking of a relationship, just that we were both into each other.
She then stops talking to me for the next two days. I was confused so i kind of brought it up to her the next day saying, I wasnt interested in playing games, so if thats what she wanted to do, I wasnt interested.
She told me that she just felt like we were already boyfriend and girlfriend and taking things way too fast, so she pulled back, which she didnt really tell me so I was thrown for a loop. She said she doesnt like to text too much and would rather get to know someone in person. I am fine with all that
So the last couple of weeks, I have given her space, the texting has decreased, which is fine with me because I dont like texting that much, I just never met a girl that didnt, but she truly doesnt. Sometimes she initiates a text, sometimes I do, but during the whole time, I have focused a lot more on myself and its really been no big deal.
We have hung out twice since then, one a date which we had a good time on, and she said she had a good time. The next hangout was yesterday, she was tired from a wedding the night before so she didnt want to do anything and said she was being unproductive so we could just hang out at her place. So i said that works, I brought some beers over, I had a couple, she didnt have any, and we just watched tv, didnt do too much talking. At the end of the night, we had a couple of kisses goodnight.
I went home, and she texted shortly thereafter saying about how her kitchen smelled like fish (which she had for dinner that night). Why the text? I have no clue haha
1) I havent tried anything more than kissing and usually only at the end of the night, because she doesnt really give too many opportunities to, even last night , when we were watching tv, she sat on one side of the couch and I sat on the other. the whole taking things slow continues to run through my mind, so i am not trying to force anything, but I also dont want to sit there if she is expecting me to make a move, which i have no problem doing. I am just beginning to wonder if she just doesnt want a relationship or sexual relationship ever.
I just have never had this issue with a girl, and literally have never been told to take it slow before, so I have no clue what this means and if this is actually legit behavior.
She is a more mature girl, she has a career and she is a year younger than me (28) so I dont think she would play games, but once again she is a female, so who knows.
Any thoughts on what I should do? Right now, I was just going to wait to see if she gets ahold of me again wanting to hang out
