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Taking a Girl to the beach but she has a bf

mtlwlu

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Im going on a day date with a girl to the beach, she has a boyfriend though, I dunno if I should kino (easy to do when playing around in the water) or just do the friend thing.
 

donjuanapprentice01

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Forget the fact that she has a bf dude. She is going out with you, so that means her I'll for her bf aint that high. Do the same things you would normally do on a date.
 

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Do you want to be her friend? If not, don't act like her friend.
 

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personally, I don't advise going out with chicks willing to cheat on their gf.

If you want to jump into a relationship with her, chances would be high that she'll have her feet in two boats.
 
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red flag!!! if you are smart you will cancel now.. why the hell would you try and hang out with a girl that has a guy? seriously, if you took my gf to the beach and you knew about me, i would kick you in the teeth
 

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SleepyRangerMedic82D said:
i would kick you in the teeth
Yeah, I would do the same, or would pay someone for doing that. But some guys are suicide.
 
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yeah its true.. and chances are if you are going to the beach you aren't getting any ass.. if a woman was going to cheat, she would more than likely have you come to her place..

seriously stay away
 

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My gut instinct is if she was interested in you "that way" then you wouldn't be going to the beach. It'd be to a club and back to your place and she'd be explaining to the bf the next day why she spent the night at your place and how you are "just a friend", which is after she complains to you as you're pounding her out about how her bf is so needy and keeps calling to see where she's at.
 

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I never quite understood why the boyfriend puts so much blame on the guy taking his girl out and not the girl herself. If the girl was any good to begin with she would have stuck by the boyfriend and not the random guy flirting with her.

Just reading the information available in the DJ bible etc. it comes off to me all is fair when it comes to gaming girls. After all why let a boyfriend you don't know nor give a damn about get in the way of you trying to pickup a chick. There should be no rules as long as her boyfriend isn't your best friend or something. Its the boyfriend and his girls fault that there relationship isn't strong enough to survive a random DJ from interfering. From the boyfriends perspective: don't put blame on the other guy instead put the blame on the girl, she obviously doesn't like you much.
 

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Commandante said:
Yeah, I would do the same, or would pay someone for doing that. But some guys are suicide.
luckily Im bigger than that guy haha.
 

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mtlwlu said:
luckily Im bigger than that guy haha.
and luckily for him bullets don't care how big you are. That "I'm bigger than dude" shyt is always a laugh.
 

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i agree with the guys who are saying this doesn't sound like a place a woman would take a guy she wanted to cheat with.... especially for a "day date"... if you were going to be staying the night in her hotel or something - i'd say that you have a shot then... but you can use this oppurtunity to establish some chemistry with her... keep in mind the possiblity that she could be using your "day date" at the beach to try to rattle her boyfriend or get back at him in some way...

but i guess it depends on what frame you have her in right now... if it's a friendship frame or a sexual partner frame. because these things have already been established in her head.

DonChino said:
Just reading the information available in the DJ bible etc. it comes off to me all is fair when it comes to gaming girls.
Honestly, 5-6 years ago... this board wasn't so "church" like.... and most of those posters are the ones who laid the foundation for what it means to be a "dj" (i do not consider myself that at all). but in recent years - the morale police have taken over here; mostly keyboard jockeys who aren't far removed from being an AFC (who most likely got cheated on themselves, which would explain their bitterness)....

but you are right... threads about cheating and having a lot of girlfriends were much better received back in the day here... there's still plenty of sites out there that don't judge as much as this one though... fast seduction, seduction database, rsd... etc...
 

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Warrior74 said:
and luckily for him bullets don't care how big you are. That "I'm bigger than dude" shyt is always a laugh.
You'd have to be a serious f*cking idiot to do 25 to life over some b*tch who cheated on you in the first place. Only a few people are that dumb.
 

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You'd have to be a serious f*cking idiot to do 25 to life over some b*tch who cheated on you in the first place. Only a few people are that dumb.
^^ Spot on ^^

Any boyfriend that is gonna fight/kill/jump another dude because his girlfriend cheated on him is a fvcking chump in the first place. If i was the one getting cheated on i'd tell the other guy, " Thanks for showing me that she is a waste of my time."

Oh and please comeback with well maybe he is a chump and he MIGHT do something like that. Well guess what MAYBE she has a stalker also and the stalker MIGHT be thinking of killing her boyfriend because he is a bigger chump than he is. This is a stupid fvcking mindset to have.



Some of you on here need to get with the program. You shouldn't disqualify yourself from a woman just because she has a boyfriend. All you're doing is limiting yourself from getting more plates and potential quality women.

Read the obey your d1ck thread. Your d1ck doesn't care if the slvt has a boyfriend.
 

mtlwlu

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Warrior74 said:
and luckily for him bullets don't care how big you are. That "I'm bigger than dude" shyt is always a laugh.
luckily Im in Canada where hand guns are easily available...
 

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Consider your ethics. Do you **** girls with boyfriends?

In my personal code of ethics, I do not. The reason is that I want to help my fellow man, not destroy him emotionally by being an ass thief.

Additionally, you need to consider whether or not pursuing a girl with a boyfriend is acting congruently with being a high value guy. A high value guy has an abundance mentality. Is pursuing a girl with a boyfriend coming from a place of abundance or scarcity?
 

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This is another case of a person not obeying his d**k.

First off, if the girl is going out with you, you must have something going on to have her to go on a date with you over her bf. Keep her interest up and she'll dump him for you.

You should also know not to act like her friend if you want something to develop.

The best friend waited for something to develop and then WHAM! He got developed!

Your d**k doesn't give a f**k about the girl's bf.

And, TO THE OP, why the f**k are you all worried about beating up the bf? You are insecure even if you do whoop his monkey ass like he owes you money! And that shooting sh*t, don't do it motherf**ker! 20+ years in prison ain't worth a score unless your cellmate bends over in the shower.
You think cuz you're bigger than that dude you're big and bad? Huh? What a jackass! :crackup: That's an Omega male quality you have there. Stop that sh*t. You won't be so big and bad when Five-O brings you to that ground in cuffs.

Seriously, if she really wants her bf, she wouldn't be with you. Act as if you don't need her. And yes, kino unless you wanna spend 20+ years in Platonic Springs, Tennessee.

The girl knows what she's doing by going out with you in the first place! Attraction is not a f**king choice!

Play your cards right!
 

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What's the problem? Treat her like you would treat any other low-value but pleasurable lay. If she cheats, she ain't LTR material, but another plate is another plate.
 

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mtlwlu said:
Im going on a day date with a girl to the beach, she has a boyfriend though, I dunno if I should kino (easy to do when playing around in the water) or just do the friend thing.
If you do "the friend thing" you will be in the friendzone. End of story.

You have to kino, if you don't, you're in the friendzone. Forget about her having a boyfriend. Treat her like any other woman you're dating.

personally, I don't advise going out with chicks willing to cheat on their gf.
It's fine to date/have sex with them, just don't get into a relationship with them, as they will cheat on you too.

I never quite understood why the boyfriend puts so much blame on the guy taking his girl out and not the girl herself.
He should blame her if she cheats (she should either not do it, or end her first relationship), and himself, for not keeping her interested.

In my personal code of ethics, I do not. The reason is that I want to help my fellow man, not destroy him emotionally by being an ass thief.
If a man can't keep a woman attracted, it's his problem. She'll cheat sooner or later, may as well be with you ;)
 

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I think, bottom line, is everyone needs to stop banging other people's chicks just because they're drunk/bored/going through a rough patch/succeptible to good or very good game.

Being a DJ isn't just about the craft, it's about the craftsman.
 
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