Taking a co-worker out tomorrow after work

[zinc4]

Ok, after declining to go out with the POF girl who i banged last weekend with her and her friends for girls night out this Saturday, I decided to ask a new co-worker out yesterday and she accepted...well, i asked her to help me learn Chinese but same thing...i have never asked out a co-worker in my life before nor have i hooked up with one...

Will meet her tomorrow after work...I am leaving work in like 3 weeks so it shouldn't be a huge issue however, i am a little concerned about being overly aggressive as she will no doubt tell everyone we work with details and stuff....making my last 3 weeks miserable there if i get rejected after being aggressive...

Plan is to take her to my favorite Vitenamese or Thai resturaunt here near the train station for some food and beer...it will be early in the day, no bars open....and then after that take her back to my place with the movie excuse and get some loving......she has a perfect ass and legs and great curves all around and a nice dark tan...

Anyone think i should tread carefully here?

With normal girls who i game and take out i am pretty reckless and aggressive. I will quickly try and get them back to my place and get the kiss close quickly and then lay....sometimes kiss close will get rejected, though initially only to be accepted by third try probably because i work really fast...but if this one somehow backfired, it would be an awkward last 3 weeks at work...and not to mention, she sits right behind me and sometimes across from me at work....

 

[zinc4]

any thoughts..i am thinking about screw the potential consequences and going full throttle on her....i don't know her yet and she is a shy girl so i will have to be a big time aggressor....screw it, i am going balls to the wall...

 

[TheCWord]

I kinda want you to do it just so that I can see what happens

 

[Wolfgang D]

I would say, if she is Chinese, don't take her to a Thai or Vietnamese restaurant. It could look like you are interested in all things Asian, and therefore interested in her only because she is Asian, not because of who she is.

Of course if she is attractive and she is Chinese, she will be attractive in a Chinese way. But women don't want to hear that they are part of a group. Plus, if she thinks you are into Thai and Vietnamese because of your choice of a restaurant, and lump her in in the same category, then that is a big minus. China for all its faults is a much less brutal culture than Southeast Asian countries, and a Chinese woman - especially if she comes from one of the big cities on the east coast - generally doesn't want a guy who thinks it is all the same. There are also much more Thai and Vietnamese women who throw themselves at Western guys to get a ticket to the land of plenty. A Chinese woman really, really doesn't want to be connected to that. And Asians like the West. Why would she want to go to an Asian restaurant when she is in the West and can go to a Western restaurant? Would you go to a Western restaurant if you were in China? You want the local ambience.


Other than that, of course, go for it. But listen to signals. Like you say, could be a very awkward three weeks if you make mistakes. If she agrees to go with you home you have a right to show romantic interest though, and she knows that. Even if she would reject you at that point there shouldn't have to be any awkwardness at work later. Only if you tried to jump a few steps by kissing her out of the blue or similar.

 

[zinc4]

I would say, if she is Chinese, don't take her to a Thai or Vietnamese restaurant. It could look like you are interested in all things Asian, and therefore interested in her only because she is Asian, not because of who she is.

Of course if she is attractive and she is Chinese, she will be attractive in a Chinese way. But women don't want to hear that they are part of a group. Plus, if she thinks you are into Thai and Vietnamese because of your choice of a restaurant, and lump her in in the same category, then that is a big minus. China for all its faults is a much less brutal culture than Southeast Asian countries, and a Chinese woman - especially if she comes from one of the big cities on the east coast - generally doesn't want a guy who thinks it is all the same. There are also much more Thai and Vietnamese women who throw themselves at Western guys to get a ticket to the land of plenty. A Chinese woman really, really doesn't want to be connected to that. And Asians like the West. Why would she want to go to an Asian restaurant when she is in the West and can go to a Western restaurant? Would you go to a Western restaurant if you were in China? You want the local ambience.


Other than that, of course, go for it. But listen to signals. Like you say, could be a very awkward three weeks if you make mistakes. If she agrees to go with you home you have a right to show romantic interest though, and she knows that. Even if she would reject you at that point there shouldn't have to be any awkwardness at work later. Only if you tried to jump a few steps by kissing her out of the blue or similar.

We live in Taiwan and she is Taiwanese but grew up in Thailand....I take all of my dates here to the same Vietnamese place and they all like it a lot. Most have never had Vietnamese food and they all thank me for showing them it. Doubt she will think what you are saying because our only choices are all Asian food here hahaha.

If all goes as planned, later today she will be in my bed moaning and screaming while i am pulling her hair from behind. :yes:

 

[Zarky]

If she knows you are leaving and you are somewhat popular at your work, she may want to hook up with you for story value with her co-workers. I think you should come on moderately strong, but with plausible deniability, should things go south.

This happened to me once. I was kind of the "bad boy" at this one job I didn't give a sh*t about. I had flirted with the receptionist constantly in the 3 months or so I worked there.

One day after I came in to work really late, unshaven, and reeking of booze, they fired me and escorted me out of the building with security guards. The receptionist chick saw us, hurredly wrote her number on a piece of paper and ran up and handed it to me as they were escorting me out.

I called her that night and we talked for a couple of hours on the phone. I was in my mid-20s so I didn't realize she was waiting for me to invite her over so we could bang it out. I just sat there yammering away on the phone like an idiot. After a couple hours of this, the chick got tired and said something like, "Well, I'm getting tired, I would have liked to see you tonight. Maybe next time." We hung up, I called her back the next day but got her answering machine and never heard from her again.

 

[Packers2010]

We live in Taiwan and she is Taiwanese but grew up in Thailand....I take all of my dates here to the same Vietnamese place and they all like it a lot. Most have never had Vietnamese food and they all thank me for showing them it. Doubt she will think what you are saying because our only choices are all Asian food here hahaha.

If all goes as planned, later today she will be in my bed moaning and screaming while i am pulling her hair from behind. :yes:

that's ok then.

i think he was more talking about the western world. if i did that in perth.. would probs look like i love all things asian. though i don't i just love the food.

 

[zinc4]

well, she flaked on me......and i know why...she has recently befriended one of my enemies at the work place another co-teacher who i am not on speaking terms with...and my guy friend co-worker just informed me of this today...i had no idea....if i had known they were talking closely, i would have never asked her out in the first place...

she said hey about today sorry but something came up...i told her no worries because i was probably going to the beach today because of the great weather...

it's no real loss because i can get a just as good or better looking girl at the club tonight...but it does annoy me because now she will presume a ridiculous superiority complex over me when i know i am ten times the person that she is....lame women....they are like sheep once they hear one thing bad from another woman they follow like a flock....oh well, i am going clubbing tonight to get a new one...

My original idea to stay away from co-workers was a good one i suppose...