Taking a Break...

[sano]

Guys...out of no where last night my GF of 2 YEARS said that she wants to take a break and be less exclusive. She says that she still wants to have the BF/GF title but wants to also be able to go out with other guys is she chooses. I am completely at a loss of words, it came so unexpected. She wants to lean more towards the friend side of the relationship too.

Some background info... She is 16 about to turn 17. A Junior in High School, Very popular. I am 18 and a Sophomore in college at Florida Tech. We have been together for what i thought was a strong 2 years.

I really dont know what to do. I know think i know why she said what she did. I have become very jealous over the past the 3 months. To the point where I would get mad if she even talked to another guy. F'ed up I know. But the fact that i know right where I screwed up is good. I think. I dont want to lose this girl for good. Some of you out there dont believe in love, but I do and I love her to death.

Any tips or pointers on what to do to keep her as an exclusive GF/BF relationship?

Thanks, Sano

 

[LikRetsam]

She made a choice, now act accordingly. Let her know that you don't want to be less exclusive, let her know that it's all or nothing. Just walk out. don't ask wether she wants all or nothing, just let her know what her choices are.

Do not accept this decision. I know it's tough but if you need to, walk away completly.

Lik

 

[Porky]

I disagree. I think he should date other women. Not only will this improve his social skills as a DJ, but it will also get his mind off of her and possibly make her jealous enough to come back.

 

[DreamerZZ35]

Date other women.

When a woman (in this case a girl) says she needs space the worst thing you can possibly do is to try and chase her. Read DocLoves commentary about a womans IL (interest level)

 

[mtllcanpssy]

sorry bro but i dont really think theres much of a way to get her back n chasing after her is just going to make things work. Anyways your at college moron, you offered ass every day there. Stop being a *****, get over it, and hit some.

 

[Trance]

Girls can get a lot more guys than you can, so its a lose game. Tell her its all or nothing, either exclusive or its over.

 

[Vigilante7]

one word





NEXT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Serialized3]

I don't know if anyone noticed this but...

You're gonna let a 16 year-old girl run a relationship?

 

[Ojete]

I agree specially with LikRetsam and Trance, it's black or white, not gray. Walk out and start doing thinks like the DJ Bootcamp, believe me, it could take 6 months... but she will realize about her decision and come back for more. But then.... you will be deciding between other potential girls. That's the way life is.....

good luck

 

[Doppler4000]

The only thing you can do is tell her where you stand and then go ahead and give her some space.

These situations happen all the time, and unfortunately most of them don't work out very well. You gotta remember, dude, you started dating this girl when she was 14, and it's pretty rare for young girls to imagine being with the guy from their first LTR forever. Now she's in the prime of her high school life surrounded by other guys, girlfriends who are dating around and talking about other guys, and general high school stuff that you've outgrown now. She's probably wondering if she's missing out on anything by being committed to you for so long, and from what you wrote you're not exactly helping your cause by being jealous, either. You're pretty powerless right now.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by Trance
Girls can get a lot more guys than you can, so its a lose game. Tell her its all or nothing, either exclusive or its over.

NO NO NO NO!!! Don't ever tell a girl its all or nothing. She said she wants to take a break and you know exactly why, because you've become a wussy. So think back and become that guy you were before this wussy-itis came over you. Don't let your emotions get the best of you, I know its hard since you 2 have dated forever. However you need to stay in control of yourself.

Next time you talk to her tell her you respect her decision and that you'll date other girls. Don't call her, e-mail her or anything and if she ever gave two fuvks about you, she'll realize that she might lose a good think and come crawling back to you. If she doesn't then your just going to have to let go.

I know your stressed and you probably don't want to hear this right now, but if your gf said this to you, there is a chance she's already dating someone else, so keep that in mind. Her tone of voice and attitude should tell you all you need to know.


Get it back bro.



PIMP

 

[ScrewIt]

sorry bro but it sounds like you're possibly going to have to next her.

things dont get any better than this, and when they say that, it usually means a breakup will come eventually...when she finds someone new.

this is what happens when ppl come to realization in their lives when they go through a self-search and need time to themselves.
usually ppl go through this stage during their college yrs...but i guess she's maturing pretty damn quick

 

[CLOONEY]

Do you regard yourself as a strong person? Because if you do, you will have the courage to tell her it is all or nothing. 99% of the guys on these boards cannot do this, but u can try, although I know you wont be able to succeed! You are young and she is FUKCING young, I do beleive in love, but when she is 16? She hasnt even worked out who SHE is, and neither have you! What are you ultimately gonna do with this girl, spend 10 yeards dating and then get married? Is that what you want?

You might as well just take this opportunity to experience more in life, experience other girls. Down the track someday you two might still be able to be together. Take it easy, and just let her go peacefully, dont turn this into a show!

 

[NewMan]

1) she's young and wants to meet other guys but is not quite sure whether she will meet someone better than you or not - she testing the waters.

2) She taking the easy way out. She really wants to break up with you but doesn't have the balls to do it completely.

3) Date other women. It's tough for sure - but you have to cut all contact.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by sano

Some background info... She is 16 about to turn 17. A Junior in High School, Very popular. I am 18

Yawn......dude, you shouldn't even be in a LTR at your age, and this is exactly why. Your way to young. NEXT.