Taking a break- Recommended

[Lozboss]

Hey all,

Just wanted to share. Today I decided to let all my plates fall. Only respond to booty calls.

I'll be starting nofap and removing porn from my life. Most importantly I'll be refocusing on my fitness and getting back in shape and my side business.

I think it's always important to be outcome independent and to not let the pursuit of being a DJ be limited to smashing as many girls as you can.

Don't forget the main role of this community is to better yourself- it's not a PUA forum.

So wish me luck on my monk mode and I'd love to hear from anyone who has done this and their experiences.

 

[Alpheta]

whats the main reason for this decision?

 

[fastlife]

I'd take it a step further--focus on creating a life that having no women in it is just as, if not more, attractive than introducing women to it. When you do decide to reintroduce women to your lifestyle, you'll already have healthy frame and won't be dealing with fear of loss or scarcity.

Women can be a hell of a distraction--I don't pretend to have anything approaching balance in that regard, (yet) so it's good to take time off (I'm assuming you're doing this from a place of abundance rather than avoidance). Typically what works best for me is to enjoy being completely immersed in myself and in my work for a couple months until I find a solid plate or two that I can meet up with a couple times a month to fulfill my needs until they become a distraction. Having too many women can be every bit as constraining, self-limiting, and time-wasting as being tied down blue pill-style in a serious relationship with one girl.

 

[ubercat]

if you think your side business has the potential to make you decent coin absolutely go for it. helps with your day job as they know that they don't own your whole life. and chicks love enterprising guys. health always be number 1 guys. it's really important to keep a base level of Fitness going. I became a fat bastard over the last 4 years. Took a Year of hard work just to get back to normal and I probably got at least another 6 months to get where I want to be. and it does take time to learn new skills and broaden yourself as a person. and of course chicks don't want to see any of that hard work. The just want the payoff.

although it does depend on culture. one of the reasons I like Asian girls is that they respect hard work before it's paid off. had a date with a Chinese chick on Sunday. We were talking about our hobbies and I said I like to play badminton but I'm really just converted tennis player. She immediately said you are tall you could be good you should get some coaching to learn proper technique. and that's how they roll respect education and understand that a persistent guy will always win in life. can you imagine having that conversation with an American or Australian woman? and yeah I can beat just about all the Chinese guy's at badminton now days. I joke with the Asian girls that Australia is a terrible country everyone rides kangaroos and the gwai loh can play badminton ;-)

 

[Fatal Jay]

It's funny I made a similar thread like this in the mature man section, I plan on going all year on no fap. I am currently on day 45, I have went over 100 days in the past but I plan on going all year this time.

I am in the same mindframe as you though, it's time to at least take a month break from chasing and thinking about women.

 

[Lozboss]

Thanks for your posts!

To answer you alpha- it's because I find myself jaded and losing interest in women. It's become boring rather than fun!

 

[om1xr]

I totally understand that feeling. I tend to get bored with plates too after a long time of spinning and sh!t.

The realization from this kind of experiments is that you see that you can be happy and stay excited and entertaining with many things that really interest you solely. Girls come and go but the skills and the body you build serve you on many ways that no girl can serve you the same way.

Personally I'm not a fan of nofap. I've gone for months before just because of the sake of the challenge but fapping can be a problem if you are listening to your ego instead of your body and believe that busting a but is a failure or a bad thing. It all comes down to your state of minds and beliefs and such.

Good luck man.

 

[ubercat]

Equally women r always there. I m into sports and I find it easier to pickup in winter so I tend to follow that pattern. Sometimes my goals take all my time and energy. But it is an age thing. As u get older u have to pick yr shots. I set a minimum KPI of getting horizontal with 4 women a year if I'm not in an LTR. For me that strikes a balance of not losing my skills but still keeping focused on my objectives.

 

[Dealler]

a think that nofap is biggest BS ever.

 

[Lozboss]

Thanks for your support guys. Let me explain:

Nofap: because currently I'm suffering from desensitisation (both body and mind). I don't *** from sex and I want this to change. It's a reset that's been recommended to solve this issue.

The break from women has been a mixture of not being at the HB level of plates I would like (that's partly due to me not being in shape) and some genuine confusion around a few plates who have dropped off for no reason I can see. This worries me and I have to try and work out what has changed.

Either way- I'll be around on the boards. With a view to hitting it again in mid summer.