sagexx said:
Today my gf suddenly approach me and asked to break up, she says im not the type of man she wants.
That's when you show her the door and tell her to GTFO.
she is sick and tired of the feeling of insecurity.
Tell her to go buy herself a dog then.
as a normal person i asked if i can change for her and stuff, and all that other stuff.
No, not as a normal person... as a WHIPPED AFC.
You don't change for anyone.
Look, if she says she wants to break up... she's saying it because she doesn't want to be with YOU anymore... so why do you want to change YOU for someone you think she wants? There are enough women willing to accept YOU for YOU.
she says without thinking " no". so i came here and read and joined the no contact challenge. midway through the day she dissappears from class and did not attend the last class. when i got home and ready to accept the fact. she comes out of no where and wants to hear my voice. and says how scrwewed up she is and yea. she wants to talk with me over the phone, but i limited to texting. we've been going out for 3 years now, i still miss her and dont want to let her go. any advice on how i should approach this? a wrong approach can mess this whole thing up.
Let her go.
She told you that she doesn't want to be with you. Why would you want to stay with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Ohhhh, she made a mistake?
Mistakes are when you write a 6 instead of a 9, or you colored outside of the lines in your favorite coloring book or when you accidentally burned the toast.
What she did wasn't a mistake. She knew what she was saying, and I'm just astounded by the fact that you could sit there and instead of kicking her to the curb, you ask to change for her?
HELL to the NO.
The whole thing IS messed up. And guess who messed it up... HER.
She's saying she fvcked up and now you are holding the frame unknowingly.
Oh, it's been 3 years? WHO CARES.
That means nothing. She was willing to throw away 3 years in 3 seconds and you are still considering sticking around with her. What happens when she pulls this crap again in 3 months? Are you going to offer to change for her again?
Grow a pair and then tell her to kiss that pair goodbye.
I wouldn't deal with this situation by trying to get back with her, neither should you.