Super shy girl

[CollegeLife]

I never thought this type of girl exist, but I guess they do. So I met this girl from a computer science class and realizing that to get through this class (it’s known to be notoriously hard on campus), I’ll need to find some friends. So I grab two cutest girls in class and got their number, might as well them as anyone else.

From one of those two, turns out to be an unusual one. When I said shy, I meant it. I mean voice trailing off mid-sentence, fear-in-eye, unable to say something shy. I never met anyone so shy in my life, not even close. Even the simplest questions mean a response that seems to take a lot of energy.
I guess, technically, I should write her off as some super weird girl. However, my gut told she that she is friendly and cooperative despite her shyness and as long she can help me with the homework, I’m not wasting too much of my time on something more productive. So I did.

Since then, she has warmed up, though ever so slowly. She can respond to my questions easier and more enthusiasm and with certain types of subject, sound normal (like little stories, questions, and stuff other conversational things back and forth rather than short answers). Though more deeper questions seems to freeze her up.

She really does not have any friends, even introverts would keep a small circle. Yet, she not a hermit, she functions in daily life. Able to navigate for classes and order and things like that. However, she clams up if anyone try to talk to her pass the “how are you?” part. I got pass that because I manage to see that she willing to be around and a shared activity. She has acquaintances, just not anything stronger, 'cept family.

Actually, after writing this, I have to wonder if she have some kind of social phobia disorder, though harmless one for other people. Still, I wonder if my thinking about this girl is correct. Part of me still worry that I could be playing with fire, I mean usually a girl who don’t act normal means a serious red flag. No one I know has ever met anyone that even remotely resembling her. Though I can understand that, how many would encounter this girl she would never be in any social situation and be ignored in class. I wonder if anyone have any experience with this type of girl here.

 

[arutha]

What are you doing going to hot girls for homework help?? Generally they are the dumb ones that need to try to get the answers off other people (ie. you). You're much better off talking to the nerdy looking guys, or in particular Asians. I know its a stereotype but they really do work like machines and all the ones I've befriended have been incredibly resourceful, like if I ask to compare answers they give me an answer sheet that they somehow 'found'.

Anyway, the girl. Don't expect it to get too far, sounds like she lacks personality a bit and is unwilling to express herself. You think you scare her asking a question? Wait until you try putting your hand in her pants, she'll sh!t herself. I have ran into a couple of really shy girls like that, and my experience has been like I said, it is really difficult and awkward to escalate and sometimes they may even want you to but their terror of the situation just makes it impossible. Treat her like any other girl though, just don't use negs and laugh at yourself as well as her to make her feel more comfortable.

 

[Dannyrt34]

Can I ask you something?

After reading what you wrote, why do you like her? You make her seem like she has a boring personality. Is it just her looks that you're after? Don't set your standards low just because you think it's a girl you have a chance with. Find a girl that meets your standards.

 

[CollegeLife]

What are you doing going to hot girls for homework help?? Generally they are the dumb ones that need to try to get the answers off other people (ie. you). You're much better off talking to the nerdy looking guys, or in particular Asians. I know its a stereotype but they really do work like machines and all the ones I've befriended have been incredibly resourceful, like if I ask to compare answers they give me an answer sheet that they somehow 'found'.

This one is not a dumb one. On the last mid-term, she got the either the highest or second grade in the class. Though, to be also fair, she's cute with the nerdy cute look going.

why do you like her?

Didn't wrote about her personality because it is a non-essential detail. I never dealt and no one I know have dealt with a girl like her. Only my instincts and theory to go on. So I posted this to see about that.

Since you asked. She does have some individuality developed. From my observations, while it seems she have difficulty talking and I suspect her social acumen is stunted, she's not a complete bore. She's a nerd and a Japanophile. She seems to be very close with her family back home. I noticed that she loves tea alot. She seems to be a simple girl and I observed that the way she lives doesn't seem to demand too many things, if that explanation makes any sense. So far, she doesn't seem to be critical or demanding (ie, I came pretty late a few times, enough to justify a look of annoyance at least). To be honest, I find her shyness cute too, in some weird way. I'm not sure it is shyness itself, or because it present a challenge or both. I do admit that it have a high chance of getting old. So it is not just completely looks, but it is still to be seen if her personality is worthwhile. At the very least, she does have a personality and there's some common interests and connection. Still to be seen if there actually any potential, but she not some blank slate.

I have ran into a couple of really shy girls like that, and my experience has been like I said, it is really difficult and awkward to escalate and sometimes they may even want you to but their terror of the situation just makes it impossible.

Now this could be a problem and why I posted this.