Met this girl at the gym. While I was talking to some of my friends, I observed she was observing me and even heard me chit-chatting. Finally, I approached her and talked.
1.She seemed very interested during the first few days. She used to glance at me quite often and whenever I caught her eye, she swiftly used to turn her head. I was ****y n funny most of the times and she used to enjoy the talk. Whenever I said "Hi", we used to shakehands. Infact at times, she used to chat with me once she was done gymming. I also asked her out, she smiled, shy'ed and said her schedule was tight but would see to it sometime. (actually her job profile is quite hectic. she's always on her toes).
2.Suddenly, one fine day she looked gloomy. She didn't even shake hands !!! When I was exercising right next to her, she was looking away. Infact, she left the machine and went to the corner of the gym leaving her exercise mid-way !! I was shocked. How could she get repelled to such an extent ?? It seemed as if someone turned her against me. Someone must have *****ed about me behind my back. (maybe some jealous girl/guy. She is one of the hottest girls in the gym and I ain't less than her either.... all of my girl and guy friends would vouch for it)
3.Next few days, she doesn't even look at me in the gym, as if I never existed !! After a gap of 5 days, I sent her some texts, her response was lukewarm. Asked for a movie, she rejected (I knew she would)
4.Then I started to ignore her. Within 9 days, she approaches me and says "Hi". Not just a "Hi", she appreciates my clothes too !! I begin a conversation, again the ****y/funny talk. She smiles and laughs. I asked her if she would like to join me for a Saturday night social evening. After initial hesitation she agrees but in the end does not show up. I too didn't call/text her to ask why she couldn't make it.
5.The very next day, I again ignored her in the gym. Then, she went on a vacation and temporarily stopped coming to the gym. Her birthday fell 16 days later (saw it on her facebook profile, even though I'm not in her friend's list). Finally on her birthday, I messaged her exactly at 12 midnight. I thought she would get surprised to see my message. After all, she wouldn't be expecting a message from me, we never talked about birthdays nor was I added on her facebook profile.
She gives a dry reply: "Thank you so much". Thats' it. I asked her how was her life going on, but she didn't reply.
6.Finally, she came back after a 1.5 month long break. And today, we just exchanged a "Hi" and a smile (without a shakehand)
Is there anything that can be done ?? In the initial stages of dating and relationship, when the girl is yet to trust you 100%, if "someone" tells the girl all negative stuff about the guy, she tends to believe that "someone" and backs-off. Her shields get stronger and she starts hating/disliking the poor guy. How to deal with such a situation. How can the guy prove that she needs to know him more herself and not depend on other sources.
Please help.
1.She seemed very interested during the first few days. She used to glance at me quite often and whenever I caught her eye, she swiftly used to turn her head. I was ****y n funny most of the times and she used to enjoy the talk. Whenever I said "Hi", we used to shakehands. Infact at times, she used to chat with me once she was done gymming. I also asked her out, she smiled, shy'ed and said her schedule was tight but would see to it sometime. (actually her job profile is quite hectic. she's always on her toes).
2.Suddenly, one fine day she looked gloomy. She didn't even shake hands !!! When I was exercising right next to her, she was looking away. Infact, she left the machine and went to the corner of the gym leaving her exercise mid-way !! I was shocked. How could she get repelled to such an extent ?? It seemed as if someone turned her against me. Someone must have *****ed about me behind my back. (maybe some jealous girl/guy. She is one of the hottest girls in the gym and I ain't less than her either.... all of my girl and guy friends would vouch for it)
3.Next few days, she doesn't even look at me in the gym, as if I never existed !! After a gap of 5 days, I sent her some texts, her response was lukewarm. Asked for a movie, she rejected (I knew she would)
4.Then I started to ignore her. Within 9 days, she approaches me and says "Hi". Not just a "Hi", she appreciates my clothes too !! I begin a conversation, again the ****y/funny talk. She smiles and laughs. I asked her if she would like to join me for a Saturday night social evening. After initial hesitation she agrees but in the end does not show up. I too didn't call/text her to ask why she couldn't make it.
5.The very next day, I again ignored her in the gym. Then, she went on a vacation and temporarily stopped coming to the gym. Her birthday fell 16 days later (saw it on her facebook profile, even though I'm not in her friend's list). Finally on her birthday, I messaged her exactly at 12 midnight. I thought she would get surprised to see my message. After all, she wouldn't be expecting a message from me, we never talked about birthdays nor was I added on her facebook profile.
She gives a dry reply: "Thank you so much". Thats' it. I asked her how was her life going on, but she didn't reply.
6.Finally, she came back after a 1.5 month long break. And today, we just exchanged a "Hi" and a smile (without a shakehand)
Is there anything that can be done ?? In the initial stages of dating and relationship, when the girl is yet to trust you 100%, if "someone" tells the girl all negative stuff about the guy, she tends to believe that "someone" and backs-off. Her shields get stronger and she starts hating/disliking the poor guy. How to deal with such a situation. How can the guy prove that she needs to know him more herself and not depend on other sources.
Please help.
