First of all, my advice is intended for good looking guys, if you are below a 5 or 6 on the scale you may have a much harder time. If you are or 7 or higher you will have less issues. The closer to a 10 you are the easier it gets but it isn’t impossible for anyone.
Take your time to look good before you go. Decide what to wear, make sure it goes together the way you want, take into account the temp inside the club while dancing and outside temp.
Do what you need to prior to leaving home to ensure that you look your best, while not looking like you tried too hard. Once you leave the house, don’t worry about your looks. Simply know that you look great and everyone there loves you. You are everyone’s friend, who needs social proof when the entire club is your social proof? Make friends from the time you are walking in the place to the entire time you are there.
It is important to understand that to some extent you are the star in a play or movie, really this is easy to forget. You are being watched all the time, don’t let this be on the top of your mind but you should never show frustration, just laugh anything off instead of getting upset about it. If you do meet someone you may be surprised to find that they have been watching you all night. You are always on stage, this is an escape from reality.
The key is to have fun and don’t hold back. Don’t feel like you need to talk to every girl that looks hot. You need to be different, most guys will either be too shy to talk to or dance with the girls or they will be too ****y and too much of an ass and make a fool of themselves. You need to be confident and know that you are desired, if you honestly feel that you are, then you will be. If you can dance good this will help, but if you can’t dance but like the music, such as hip hop for example just sing along and act a fool.
Every club is different so you need to access what is proper and what is not in a given place, in some clubs something may be very acceptable but in another you could get kicked out if you do it. Generally but not always don’t be so outrageous that you are just obnoxious. You know that you have it right when the girls are lining up to dance with you or talk with you. When you talk to someone and instead of leaving, all of her friends come over or stop what they are doing to listen to the conversation.
Just because you are dancing with someone doesn’t mean that you need to be with them all night. Let the women compete against each other for your attention, you are the prize! You are the man, the bartended likes you, the doorman likes you, heck everyone there does. Don’t just think that they do, have an attitude and level of friendliness about you where they do like you.
In a club situation almost never ask a girl to dance, just do it.
Never let the conversations get too deep, keep it lighthearted. Ask questions but don’t talk too much about yourself. People love to talk about themselves.
Don’t feel like you need to close always, close by being friendly and fun but clear that you want her. Don’t tell her this, show it with your actions. Then allow her to ask you home, if she doesn’t then suggest it in a subtle way. But don’t waste your night doing this, feel free to excuse yourself to go get a drink or dance or whatever. If you leave her, she will wonder what she did wrong and may be more aggressive the next time. Most girls who want it that night will let you know it, you just need to pick up on it and play into it. Coming off too strong may make you look desperate or pushy, instead be desirable and have fun with whatever happens.
Hope this helps
. "So whats the point of that", you say? The point is that I've always gone alone, I'm usually the first one out on the dancefloor and I don't have to approach girls.. they usually come to me. Have a look for Darrens Dance Grooves or Mr. Wiggles and Popping Petes Instructional videos.
