Burroughs said:
This is very true. 100% agree. Top notch women know their value in the modern world.
So what cards do you hold when any women worth your time will eventually want you enter into a contract that favors her 99% under the law?
How do you feel about the fact that as every year of your marriage passes your leverage through the law decreases. I have friends in their 30s and 40s. Started companies. Some went IPO in the late 90s. Their ex-wives still collect on money made 15 years after the marriage ended. That's tough.
it is what it is.
she gets nothing of anything i have done before this year besides child support, which i would go out of my way to pay. And honestly, anything that i do from here on out, i consider her part of my team, she plays a big role in what i do and how i do it. I think that's fair, honestly. With that said, the vetting process that i put her though was like non other. This forum has taught me well lol. I assure you if it was about the money she would have given up a long time ago.
That issue, IMHO wasn't big enough not to not put a ring on her finger. Money is not the end all be all of life, you make some you lose some.
To me, the end game is marriage, simply because of what i stated in the previous post. At the end of the day, the best circumstances for a man to be in, is to be married to a really really good, supportive, not bat**** crazy wife. Because a woman worth her salt and knows her value, will hold out for that ring. They are trained form birth to want that ring, and even if you convinced that it's not important, see how many times you can spend the night over a friends house (guys) or get caught at Starbucks with a female worker and have someone tell your LTR about it, and the ring not come up. I'm just dealing with real life. It's going to come up, and eventually she will leave, because seh doesn't think you love her in her mind unless you marry her. Taht's just how it is.
spinning plates, becoming a man, dating, bachorhood, are all just screening processes. We learn here to go from nothing to finding the right ones, to even further finding the really right one, to knowing if this is the woman you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, or is this just the woman who is putting it on you because she is running out of options.
But there is no situation, at least as i see it that you are 34, and she is 32, and you have been together 5 years, and she isn't thinking about getting married every freaking day. Even if she won't come out and say it. Because of that, even though you are spinning plates as you get older, you are basically dealing with leftovers, because all of the real quality women are long gone. They are married, because that's what they want.
A perfect example, the freaking girlt hat brught me here. I eventually did turn the tables on her. We quasi dated for about 5 months... but i was at the peak of my game at the time, and honeslty everything she had put me through, i wasn't going to settle down, and espcialy not with her. she was hot as hell and i wanted some. We mutally agreed to go our separate ways and lo and behold, at the age of 23 she gets engaged 6 months later. I know her enough to know she isn't in love. But he fit the bill for a husband, good family, comes from some money.. she wanted to get married. She got married. This is what catches do.
I guess my stance is a quasi mix because "oh i love her oh shucks, let's get married" and "marriage, nevah!!!!!". I (obviously) am not against marriage, the type of women i like and the type i have, are the type of women that every man wants, and those type of women, are not going to settle for anything less than a ring. Knowing how to deal with marriage, how to keep the marriage strong, what to do if it ends, how to deal with the fall out, and how to move on with mjy life, but not shunning marriage for the sake of the institution, even though i am fundamentally against it, it's just the way the game is played.
