Successful eye contact

HalEmmerich22

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I think Taz's post on where the eyes go as another form of body language is excellent. I haven't seen somehting like this in the bible or anything so Taz, I propose that you make a post about eye contact as a form of body language and that that post be submitted into the DJ Bible. I believe it is very worthy and it shows how one can see how another person feels just by looking at their eyes. Anyways, good luck and hopefully we will see the post in the bible.

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Brett
 

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I think Taz's post on where the eyes go as another form of body language is excellent. I haven't seen somehting like this in the bible or anything so Taz, I propose that you make a post about eye contact as a form of body language and that that post be submitted into the DJ Bible. I believe it is very worthy and it shows how one can see how another person feels just by looking at their eyes. Anyways, good luck and hopefully we will see the post in the bible.

Sincerely,
Brett
 

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I think Taz's post on where the eyes go as another form of body language is excellent. I haven't seen somehting like this in the bible or anything so Taz, I propose that you make a post about eye contact as a form of body language and that that post be submitted into the DJ Bible. I believe it is very worthy and it shows how one can see how another person feels just by looking at their eyes. Anyways, good luck and hopefully we will see the post in the bible.

Sincerely,
Brett
 

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I do the whole eye contact thing, but when do you look away? I can look into a girl's eye forever if I wanted to, but it really gets irritating for myself / possibly for the girl too I'm guessing.
 

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Here's a suggestion from a women's magazine; look for 3 seconds, look away for a moment, look back for a moment as if you liked what you saw so much that you had to double-check it, and then look away for a few minutes before checking back. If you can't manage a natural smile, just turn up the corners of your mouth a little, so she knows you're an interested suitor and not a psycho scoping out a potential victim.

If you want to do a body-language psych on her, use "mirroring," which means copying the way she has the parts of her body posed; you don't want to look like a little kid playing copy-cat, so do it slowly and gradually, as if it were part of the natural shifting of your body.

Why does this work? Take a look at happy couples and good frinds talking together, and look at their body postures; they'll generally be VERY similar, even identical. We subconsciously mirror the poses of people we like, and we can use this to "trick" people into subconsciously seeing US as people THEY like. (This will also work when you're making new friends, during job interviews.... any time you want to nudge people into liking you.)
 

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Originally posted by Princess-Spock:
Here's a suggestion from a women's magazine; look for 3 seconds, look away for a moment, look back for a moment as if you liked what you saw so much that you had to double-check it, and then look away for a few minutes before checking back. If you can't manage a natural smile, just turn up the corners of your mouth a little, so she knows you're an interested suitor and not a psycho scoping out a potential victim.

If you want to do a body-language psych on her, use "mirroring," which means copying the way she has the parts of her body posed; you don't want to look like a little kid playing copy-cat, so do it slowly and gradually, as if it were part of the natural shifting of your body.

Why does this work? Take a look at happy couples and good frinds talking together, and look at their body postures; they'll generally be VERY similar, even identical. We subconsciously mirror the poses of people we like, and we can use this to "trick" people into subconsciously seeing US as people THEY like. (This will also work when you're making new friends, during job interviews.... any time you want to nudge people into liking you.)
Is there actually something worth for us guys in those women magazine? I mean they are meant to the women and only. Whatever they wrote, it is for the benefit of you women right?...We guys only suffer in the end if we fall for those tricks?



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J_B_B

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Originally posted by Iskandar Reza:
try smiling and blinking your eyes slowly, but not too slowly as to make it look artificial.

it is known to have a calming effect on cats, but i noticed it seems to have the same effect on women as well. strange, no?
even stranger than that... i noticed cats always wink at me. or maybe its just me.
 
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