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[RogueX]

Im going on my first date Saturday! (Im 16 BTW lol)

I've been lurking on these boards for quite some time and I registered a few weeks ago but didn't post much. Anyway, over the last year or so I have absorbed every bit of info on this board. Among other things, this site has improved my life overall.

Long story short: I was an AFC->I found this site-> Life is good.

I had been wanting to ask her out since school started (3 weeks ago for me) but the oppurtunity never presented itself. I simply didn't have the courage to call her away from her group of friends. I made a promise to myself that I would take the first chance I got. We were basicly the last two people in the school (small school, after acedemic team practice). Something clicked in my head, I could have got in my truck and went home but I didn't. I turned around, walked back in and said *drumroll* "Are you doing anything saturday night?" A few minutes later I walked away with a smile on my face. However she called me back and said she wasn't sure, I said it's just a date, nothing serious. She thought for a second and said "Ok, your right, I'll see you then". I figure she did this because at my school, if you go on a date you are instantly bf and gf. Honestly though, I really have no desire to date any of the other girls.

We're just going to eat at Pizza Hut (ours is usually empty at night, it has nice booth tables). The town with putt-putt, bowling, etc. is an hour's drive from her house so I thought something simple and much closer would be better.

The strangest part is that once I decided that I was going to ask her my nervousness disappeared. Though I could have done much better, I didn't stutter or anything. It was almost like a dream and I figured I would wake up at any moment to find I had never asked her and she had never said yes.

Sorry about the long post, but I had to tell someone and who better than the ones who helped me on my way? I will post the results of the date after I go.

 

[NYC Dude]

Nice job man! And remember, it only gets easier from here.

 

[Thraxeh]

is this without any prior contact with her ? u just saw her there, and said if she wanted to go out ?

nice work man

 

[LikRetsam]

Hah! Glorious!

Careful on the date. She doesn't have doubts about you being gf and bf she has doubts about you. She accepted to get to know you because she has some hope for you.

 

[RogueX]

Sorry I didn't clear that up. She's a year younger than me but we've been going to same very small school all our lives. I didn't really talk to her much at all until last year, because I was so focused on a different girl (those horrible AFC days). As soon as school started this year I applied all of my new DJ skills and here I am now.

For whatever reason, even though I like her a lot, I don't get nervous when I talk to her. The opposite seems to happen, I can make her laugh, smile, anything. I've also noticed other girls taking interest in me. I guess those DJ skills really work!

 

[RogueX]

I just got back from my date and I think it went pretty good. Only problem I saw was that it might have been too casual. I don't really know since this was my first ever date lol.

We just talked but I managed to avoid any long silences. I just couldn't remember many funny stories (of course I remembered them all on my way home lol). We just talked about a variety of stuff. She told what college she had decided to go to (which she hasn't told her family). She kept playing with her hair and she maintaned eye contact with me, those are interest signs right?

I went and picked her up right after getting home from a baseball game (yes, I took a shower and stuff) so I didn't have any mental preperation time. One plus was that her parents were extremely friendly about the date (they already know me though).

I'm thinking of going to the movies next time so I can get some kino in and we will have something new to talk about.

 

[TheMinistered]

movies? hah! go to a park and chill on the swings then go kino with her on a bench and get some! movies aren't exactly the *best* place for kino but you can get the job done there for sure... in fact, tons of places get the job done!

 

[Grandmaster Sexay]

I think a Theme park is a cool first date. If she is scared of some rides you can use a bit of kino to keep her safe. I hate movies, you don't really achieve anything with each other watching a movie do you?.

 

[Juggalo]

I agree, the movies kinda suck for doing anything with a girl.

The expectations are to do stuff at the movies....so it puts alot of pressure on you both.

Go to the park like TheMinistered said. That's really nice and romantic....you'll have the opportunity to get some kino in too.

 

[RogueX]

Ok, so movie is out the window. I can do the park thing (picnic maybe?) but how about this:

I live on a farm so I have my own horses and I'm an experienced rider. Would horse back riding be a good second date? I can teach her if she doesn't know how. I think it would be romantic and an action date.

BTW today all the guys knew I had gone on a date with her and their amazement was a huge confidence booster. Every guy in her grade and many in mine want to date her but I beat them all to it

One other thing, I sit beside her in one class and everyday we say hi to each other but today she whispered "(my name), hi" instead of saying it out loud. Does that mean anything?

 

[Juggalo]

Whispering your name could mean alot of things.

I'll leave that one up to the more experience DJs on the site to answer.

It might be alright to take her out on your farm and go riding on horses.....then you two could go somewhere secluded and talk to her and find out alot of stuff that you don't know.

But remember....don't tell her too much about yourself. Remain a mystery.

 

[LikRetsam]

Horses... animals... idea....excellent....

 

[JSH]

the horse riding idea is cool, i wish i could do that. Secondly dont worry. Thirdly "i managed to avoid any long silences", silences are not that bad, and it helps to break them with kino rather than with speaking. Be comfortable with them, it shows ur nervous if you rush to fill anything in that looks as if its heading that way.

 

[Grandmaster Sexay]

Horse riding is a great idea. Quite a lot of girls like animals in my experience. I would never ride a horse again in my life. Scared the life out of me once