subtleties within the friendship

Packers2010

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I went to a concert yesterday and I met this girl oneitis for there. This was the first time i saw her after we had an argument. ( I called her a slut when she got a bf. yeah **** move I know) when I met with her she was already had a few drinks. so we started talking and catching up and stuff. then after bit she said this:

Her: do you still love me?
Her: it's ok to say no.
Me: what? no I don't love you anymore.

this kind of threw me off a bit

Then a little after that she started going on about the time we hooked up. She said.

Her: hey remember the time we went to the bar and I got really drunk and was in the carprack flashing car going past
Me: haha yeah?
Her: then I gave you BJ in the carpack park.
Me: yeah that was good.
Her: it was the best right?
Me: oh... I don't know about that.

Then she continues to talk about the times we hooked up claiming I had a small peen. (Lol )she kept asking me if it was good. I still said the same thing. " oh i don't know about that ;) )

Then later on we started talking about driving licences as I have just got mine. She said her bf has been telling her to get hers because they would be moving out together. then straight after that she asked me why i wouldn't meet her bf. I was like. "um cos?" ( I said a month ago I wouldn’t meet him for obvs reasons) they( her and her friend) kept pushing issue. so I just agreed to doing it. Before you ask no, I am not going to meet him. I just did it to shut them up.

we continued to talk. I grabbed her hand because she was going to fall over. I held her hand just for a second. Then I let it go. (There is a point to me mentioning this) so obvs we think nothing over and keep having fun.

We all sit on the floor ( I her friend and her) for a bit. Then I get up. To go take a piss, she starts trying to grab me and ask where I was going. I Said to take a piss ad walked off. So I am in the line to take a piss and I get a text from her 15 mins later, asking me where I was. I just messaged back. " needy much?. I am in the line to take a piss” so i take a piss. Then go back to where we was standing.

We talk a bit more. Then she says this.

Her: remember when we were holding hands before.
Me: yeah?
Her: my friend thought we was close to making out
me: what?
Her: we was only holding hands for a second.
Me: I know
her: I wouldn't do it anyway. I love my bf.
me: ....

latter on she said this

her: you going to add me back to facebook ( lol girls and facebook)
me: well.. I don't know. It’s going to cost you
her: I’m not going to make out with you.
Me: what no! your just going to have to jump through some hoops..

Also throughout the whole time we were together we would play fight. She was all like. I will get my bf onto you. I was like. ***** please I don’t care. Lol.
she also siad that i had to add her back on skype becuse i am moving to a diffrent country soon. so it would be cool if we skype called eachother.

I’m pretty sure she is just trying to make me jealous because we had a fling before and she thinks I still love her. I don't really love her anymore as much as I used to. I know I can do better than her.
not to too my own horn. But i’m pretty sure i could have hooked up with her when I was with her. But I didn’t because.

A) She has a bf. So i thought if i did try anything she would flip out and it would be bad for all people involved.
B) Her friend was there so she would know and tell her bf obvs.

So what do you think? Could you help me with my game? Thanks for posting.
 

Cyclops

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We could give you advice but I'm sure you wont listen again. You gotta just cut her off and make time for yourself and other people. I dont know why you keep wasting your time like this.
 

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If a girl treated me like this I would never talk to her again.....Seriously, if a girl is saying you have a small penis and saying she loves her boyfriend, I think it's time to dump that b!tch.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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Cyclops said:
We could give you advice but I'm sure you wont listen again. You gotta just cut her off and make time for yourself and other people. I dont know why you keep wasting your time like this.
^^This. You and her are playing games with no clear objective. Do you want to be her friend? Or do you want to hook up with her again despite her being taken? Or are both of you just bored and looking for some drama? Or are you just using her as a guinea pig to practice your game on?

Whatever you decide, I would strongly advise AGAINST trying to hook up with her again. She is a gossiper (if that's a word), and her friend is watching you two like a hawk. The word will get to her boyfriend.

If you are practicing your game, I would find a different girl to practice on.
 

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Cyclops said:
We could give you advice but I'm sure you wont listen again. You gotta just cut her off and make time for yourself and other people. I dont know why you keep wasting your time like this.
i didn't really go out of my way to meet with her. she was just there. you know.

thanks for the advice Mike32ct. i was pretty down about this on Monday but i got over it and got myslef back on track.

i will most likely be friends with her. but i'm not going to go out of way to contact her or anything. if she wants to hang out sure that will be fine. but i'm not going after her at all. no more.
 
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