Stupid broad neglects to tell me she strips for a living...

[Moofahsa]

This girl is prolly an 8, I was at a restaurant with a friend and we were having a conversation about women and she was there with her personal DUFF and I ask her opinion about something and I ended up getting her number because she was showing major IOI by agreeing with everything I said.

So anyhow, we go to I Am Legend on th 23rd and the chick was cool I had a good time...small talk and stuff before and after. She basically said she was looking for LTR sick of partying and bad relationships. She was overly accepted to kino which should have been a red flag looking back. I'm on the LTR hunt, so I was intrigued how she threw that out. She has no real education above 11th grade, which was a strike, but she was working on her GED. (I'm doing my masters)

Well I made another date for this evening and she was overly excited, giggling and stuff. Well she texts me like 30 minutes ago and writes, "I have to tell you something"

I waited bout 10 minutes and tried to call her but she wouldn't answer

she texted me right after and said "I dance for a living, if you don't talk to me again i undarstand" (yes she spelled it like that)

What the hell? lol

 

[DavenJuan]

so wheres the dilemna?

heck, maybe you can meet some other stripper ho*s!

in all seriousness, if you are looking for a LTR, you are going to have a lot of baggage with a stripper, be prepared

 

[Sandow]

So She Strips, Who Cares.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Just don't let her get the upper hand in the relationship. You don't want to be her "savior" for the terrible life she set up for herself.

 

[j0n024]

Agree IF your looking for a LTR then .....well I am not going to tell you what to do since I am not looking for one right now anyway. I think if you do go out with her then she will be happy since I bet she had lots of BF's dump her and get jealous cause of that on the other hand she can dance for you in the bedroom which is a turn on( my girl tries but it comes off more funny then sexy ) ...If it were me I would give her another shot go with it since she said she is looking for a LTR you guys should sit down and talk about "Your" future togethor and what she is going to do ..is she going to stop and get a real job, does she have any crazy ex's you know stuff like that because since she said LTR then it shouldn't be a weird subject...GOOD LUCK and update.

 

[kdnash82]

she can dance for you in the bedroom which is a turn on( my girl tries but it comes off more funny then sexy )

I can definately relate to this. My girl will throw on some sexy lingerie and her "fukk me" pumps, put on the most none stripper song and do this awkward dance that not sexy at all. She's willing to do it, so I don't complain. I think it turns her on more than me.

To the OP. I honestly don't see the big deal here. Everyone has to make money some kind of way. I don't even put down the hookers on the street. Would you feel any differently if she worked at McDonalds and still had that 11th grade education?

Personally, if I felt a connection with a girl and felt like something could develop between us, I could care less what she did for a living as long as she was willing to stop if we became serious.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You say you want a LTR. A stripper is not LTR material, so that's that.

Exactly why you would want a LTR when you could be having cheap sex with a stripper is beyond me. If a girl's educational level is so important to you, then just date girls from your university.

 

[romangod]

Stupid broad neglects to tell me she strips for a living...


She did tell you............... her way and her timing.


.

 

[00Kevin]

3some.

 

[Moofahsa]

Just pisses me off is all, that is something that should have come out the first night instead of waiting imo. I understand you guys are like "Why not bang her?" Cause I'm not looking for that, I know I'm on the wrong site to be interested in LTR only but hear me out.

I'm done with one nighters and FBs, why? I went through 3 years of college going through women like candy and it really made me feel like **** in the end. All I had was myself and a list of girls who I had ****ed, memories are nice and all but damn I just can't do that to people anymore and being a man slut just doesn't make me feel like I'm accomplished.

I had the whole command and conquer thing going on and once I got them in the sack I'd move on to the next, I don't know...when I told myself I wasn't going to do it anymore was when I slept with a girl that turned out to be a virgin, (HB7 or so, she wasn't my type or anything, I just wanted to get in her pants. Sheltered Church girl) She said slept with me because she wanted me to "like her more" and when I ended it she called me up and bawled her eyes out about feeling used...I don't look down on guys that do it, I just don't have it in me anymore. I wasn't lying to women or intentionally hurting them, but they were just reading way too deep into things when I was just interested in a lay.

There, I made my case.

 

[Moofahsa]

You say you want a LTR. A stripper is not LTR material, so that's that.

Exactly. Just blows my mind.

To the guy that had a comment about dating women that I go to classes with...hell no.

University girls are the worst, they are unmotivated for the most part, on daddies dime, never had a job in there life and think the world runs on there terms and time. Granted there could be an exception, but in my experience college girls are more immature than frat guys and create more drama than a soap opera...forget that. Then the responsible straight A girls are socially retarded and there priority is 100% school studies. Which I completely understand and commend them for...

I'm not by any means from a poor family, but I used to be a hell raiser when I was younger so I got put out on my own and literally black listed. I've bounced back, paid my own college, have a great job and live on my own and gained the respect of my family back. I don't know, I'm glad I did what I did...it put me 10 steps ahead of everyone else and "real life" isn't really going to be a shock once I get my degree.

Sorry for rambling, I'm bored at work

 

[Potbelly]

Rationally, I'd just tell her in the nicest way that she is not LTR material for me. Here's how I'd do it nicely:

"Hi, NAME. I got your message and wanted to let you know that I don't really want an LTR. I'm more of a ONS kind of a guy...I'm not ready for a relationship. BYEBYE"

Sure it's a lie, but everybody lies.

But my **** is thinking something else....if she's really hot I'm probably keep her around for the sex and that's probably it. But again, rationally this could turn out bad, she could be a nutcase, have weird STDs, violent exes that want my head, etc.

Oh and then there's that whole stripping for other men thing...

 

[KontrollerX]

"She said slept with me because she wanted me to "like her more" and when I ended it she called me up and bawled her eyes out about feeling used"

Talk about being a hypocrite.

She tried to manipulate you into loving her through sex.

She's got no moral high ground on you dude.

Anyway you have to follow your gut instinct with the stripper chick.

Do you feel deeply that she will make a good long term relationship partner or do you get an ominous feeling about her that this will not go the way that you want it if you proceed?

Whatever your gut instinct tells you follow that.

Not us.

 

[ready123]

anybody on this thread date a stripper before?

I'd do it just for the experience

 

[LostAndConfused]

I'm in love with a stripperrrrrrrrrr!

 

[oakraiderz2]

I had a class with a girl who was a stripper, she was pretty whorish, but it was badass. I asked her where she works and she told me she dances...i was like wtf? Do you strip or dance around? The first time i hung out with her she straight up told me she wanted to have sex with me...so we did...and it was bomb. One day i was talking to her and she said shes good at what she does and that i should come see her some time, in which i said no, f*ck that. My point...strippers know how to sex it up.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I'm like everybody else and I personally don't see what the problem is. So what she dances for a livng. Stripping is what see does for a living, hopefully it isn't what she is as a person. I'd be more concerned about her not completely high school. That's the red flag.

I have a question. Would you buy the first car you test drove? Would you rent the first apartment you saw? Of course not. You'd shop around. The same principle applies to LTRs. You have to date a lot of different women until you find somebody you wanted to be in a LTR with. So be patience.

I'm curious, what is a LTR going to give you that your not getting now?

 

[j0n024]

Security? Is that what your looking for? I got to tell you ..I know I am young then most of the guy's here \ I know I'm a little baby on this site lol compared to most)..I see a LTR as a false sense of security, in my eyes that is. I dont know waking up to a women doesnt give you the satisfaction of having everything....yes you can get a lay whenever you want, yes you guys will look to the future, yes it will feel nice to be laying down on the couch on a long afternoon with your girl snuggling next to you but that's all it is - visual and physical stimulation nothing more and nothing less...I have no need for a LTR anymore because I see women as nothing more as how you said it "Candy" but then again that's just me and I do have a problem about getting old and wrinkly so take my advice with a grain of salt lol...good luck.