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Stumbled across the female version of SoSuave...red-pilled girls!
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There is a distinct difference here.
Let’s be honest, a HELL of a lot of guys here came here because they weren’t doing well with women.
I hold my hand up. That was me.
Why did many of us come here? We wanted affection, yes we wanted sechs but a lot of us just wanted a decent girlfriend.
Many are embittered but it’s very, very rare to find anyone on here crowing about how he broke a girls heart. The general advice here is to NOT be an A-hole and most here while advocating plate spinning, if a guy revealed a girl in his rotation was seriously upset we would likely say leave it - be honest. Most of us aren’t bad guys, we don’t want to harm women. In fact those who are angry are those who just crave their love.
I’ve not read their threads but I’ve read enough of Reddit to know that their position likely comes from a deep seated resentment and callous machievelian view of men. I doubt there’s much “I just want love and affection” when there are threads about not sucking D and being high maintenance.
On the converse - some of what’s written here I disagree with. Being an a-hole one of them, that’s the flip side of being high maintenance.
Healthy women DO like to be treated well. They do like flowers and to be made to feel attractive. There is a LOT to be said about not fawning and displaying lower value but if a girl is being cool and it’s going well why not? Just don’t lose yourself and occasionally disappear to a bar for some pool with the lads so you’re not building everything around her.
As for being an a-hole, there is a big difference between having boundaries and enforcing them and being a douche. My marriage got healthier when I worked on boundaries.
A lot of dudes don’t know how to set a boundary and a lot of women like to push them
as for high maintenance, a little quirkiness can be nice. Let’s say a chick insists on a certain brand of clothing or MUST have the bathroom a certain way. That can be cute and also it’s the hallmark of a potential good matriarch, that she has demanding standards for certain things. Also my wife did buy me a £1000 iPhone as she insisted her HB had to have a good phone. Weird, but high standard.
Being an annoying pain in the @ss is generally what we think of high maintenance women.
Let’s be honest, a HELL of a lot of guys here came here because they weren’t doing well with women.
I hold my hand up. That was me.
Why did many of us come here? We wanted affection, yes we wanted sechs but a lot of us just wanted a decent girlfriend.
Many are embittered but it’s very, very rare to find anyone on here crowing about how he broke a girls heart. The general advice here is to NOT be an A-hole and most here while advocating plate spinning, if a guy revealed a girl in his rotation was seriously upset we would likely say leave it - be honest. Most of us aren’t bad guys, we don’t want to harm women. In fact those who are angry are those who just crave their love.
I’ve not read their threads but I’ve read enough of Reddit to know that their position likely comes from a deep seated resentment and callous machievelian view of men. I doubt there’s much “I just want love and affection” when there are threads about not sucking D and being high maintenance.
On the converse - some of what’s written here I disagree with. Being an a-hole one of them, that’s the flip side of being high maintenance.
Healthy women DO like to be treated well. They do like flowers and to be made to feel attractive. There is a LOT to be said about not fawning and displaying lower value but if a girl is being cool and it’s going well why not? Just don’t lose yourself and occasionally disappear to a bar for some pool with the lads so you’re not building everything around her.
As for being an a-hole, there is a big difference between having boundaries and enforcing them and being a douche. My marriage got healthier when I worked on boundaries.
A lot of dudes don’t know how to set a boundary and a lot of women like to push them
as for high maintenance, a little quirkiness can be nice. Let’s say a chick insists on a certain brand of clothing or MUST have the bathroom a certain way. That can be cute and also it’s the hallmark of a potential good matriarch, that she has demanding standards for certain things. Also my wife did buy me a £1000 iPhone as she insisted her HB had to have a good phone. Weird, but high standard.
Being an annoying pain in the @ss is generally what we think of high maintenance women.
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mindset change, i would imagine lower quality women or women that are not as physically attractive would then need help from a female version of sosuave.