Stuggling not to turn AFC in LTR

[Scorched]

Anyone else find them selves turning a bit AFC after being in a relationship for a long peroid of time?

I catch my self entering that train of thought...

I think some it is because I was brought up in a strict family/christian private school environment. No sex before marrage, fall in love, work hard, be a good huband, etc... So I feel comfortable being "an old fashioned southern boy" and I have to like snap my self open to reality of americanized women.

 

[spider_007]

So I feel comfortable being "an old fashioned southern boy" and I have to like snap my self open to reality of americanized women.

You got to "nap your self open to reality" PERIOD.

Your folowing the crowd:trouble: and values set in front of you by someone else.
I hope you realize this.

 

[MisterNigma]

If you can't spell . . .

OK, so I judge people based on their grammar.

Please for the love of all that is **** use the **** spell checker if you can't spell.

I'm "stuggling" to stay awake at work, so don't take this personally.

As far as the relationship... well, just try to catch yourself. Don't get too comfortable.


-E.Nigma

 

[KarmaSutra]

OK, so I judge people based on their grammar.

Um, how about judging someone on the merit of thier posts you superficial fvck.

Please for the love of all that is **** use the **** spell checker if you can't spell.

He missed one fvcking key. By the way, what the fvck are you trying to say with this bassackwards line of sh!t?

Contribute or get the fvck out of the way.

 

[MisterNigma]

Back It Up.

Um, how about judging someone on the merit of thier posts you superficial fvck.

I do that too...

He missed one fvcking key. By the way, what the fvck are you trying to say with this bassackwards line of sh!t?

Figure it out... but I'm not sure you can so... first word is HOLY, and the second is D*MN.

Contribute or get the fvck out of the way.

What exactly did you contribute via this post, aside from blatantly flaming mine? I at least put in a sentence with an answer to the original question.

Take your medication, and take that oversized *ildo out of your rear. It might improve your disposition.


-E.Nigma

P.S. - Why do we assume that all average chumps are frustrated? I know many who are quite happy with their lives.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Scorched....I am in the same thing as you are.

Although I am filipino and lived there until I moved to ausralia. I do play around and fool around with as many women I am comfortable with. But when I get into a LTR I do get really comfortable and settle down...next thing i know I go all AFC on her like ringing her up a lot, doing a lot fo things for her, put her up on the pedestal etc....just like how my old folks n others used to do back in the day. Im scared Id lose her this way but I just want to settle down and be comfortable so Ican concentrate on other stuff.

Spider is right in a way...but more elaboration and suggestions if you can.

And to the fighting couple....I dont recall the grammar police being on sosuave. Look at the big picture. dun ssweat this sh1t ok? Scorched has a valid point and he needs our help

 

[synergy1]

Anyone else find them selves turning a bit AFC after being in a relationship for a long peroid of time?

I catch my self entering that train of thought...

I think some it is because I was brought up in a strict family/christian private school environment. No sex before marrage, fall in love, work hard, be a good huband, etc... So I feel comfortable being "an old fashioned southern boy" and I have to like snap my self open to reality of americanized women.

Id like to post more on this thread but I am a tad ill as of late; sick with a nasty bug called one-itus. Recommended dr. prescription.....more chicks.

Seriously, it happens to the best of us. Alot of us can relate because the complacency that comes with the potential for a decent LTR is comforting; thus the AFC/ one-itus crap starts to set in.

 

[Scorched]

First of all Thanks KarmaSutra,

Rudy_TubeSteak,
Glad I can identify with someone!
As far as being comfortable like that, I'm starting to believe the way my father treated my mother... Is the way I am most happy being. But it was SOOOOO much easier back then to be a chump! As well as after you have a kid or two, you can get away with being a chump!

I will continue to hit my self in the head each time I start to think AFC.

 

[Jon55]

Um, how about judging someone on the merit of thier posts you superficial fvck.



He missed one fvcking key. By the way, what the fvck are you trying to say with this bassackwards line of sh!t?

Contribute or get the fvck out of the way.

He said not to take it personally. Did you not read that part? If it bothers you that much why don't you go tell mom and dad and make the bad things go away. Or you can grow up and skip over the comment, yeash.

 

[Solarium]

I'm in a similar situation. I broke off with my ex after being with her for almost a year, but felt guilty so I kept fvcking her. Now we're in a wierd a$$ relationship since I'm attending grad school in another country but still talk to her everyday. Just by talking to her I feel that I'm falling in love again and becomming an AFC all over again. It's good to read the DJBible once in awhile to keep your head cool though. Meanwhile I'll try to practice once in awhile to some ass on this island to get rid of my one-itis and keep my options open.

 

[Wyldfire]

Here's the thing with this site...it helps you overcome being too insecure and afraid to approach. It helps you to weed out women who are bad news. It helps you gain interest from a woman and get things started towards a relationship. However, it does NOT help you maintain and KEEP a relationship that you actually want to hang on to. In fact, there is such a huge, gaping hole in that area that many guys on here will continue to follow the same guidelines on this site and once they develop feelings for the woman she ends up getting fed up with the stuff from this site and dumps him...and he's right back where he started from...licking his relationship wounds.

If you want your relationship to last then stop following the rules on this site once you HAVE a GOOD woman who loves and wants you. Just like every man needs sex to be fulfilled and happy in a relationship...a woman needs to feel loved and have a certain amount of attention so she won't test you, pick fights out of the blue and do things to force you to pay attention to her. This is why your gf broke up with you over the phone(I read your other thread but held my tongue)...you are behaving like an ass to her.

If you want her to get disgusted with you, give up on the relationship and dump you for good....then keep right on with how you're being. If you want to keep the relationship then toss out all of the "rules" from this site and adopt new rules...1) Always respect yourself just as much as you do the person you are romantically involved with and 2) Don't tolerate being mistreated by your significant other. 3) Do not suffocate her with attention and neediness but don't STARVE her of love and affection either...both are EQUALLY as bad. 4) Don't treat her in a way you wouldn't want to be treated and 5) Don't allow her to treat you in a way you would not treat her.

You can be a loving and attentive partner to your girlfriend without being a total puss. Women do want to be treated well...they just don't want a clingy, needy girly man suffocating them. You don't have to be an ass to hold onto a woman...in fact, if you are an ass you will still lose her...only after you've invested a lot more time and then you lose all that time.