Gears of Led Zep said:
ive fallen for a girl who has no idea what she wants.
She says she isnt sure if she likes me,
Hmm. She said she "isn't sure" if she likes you or not.
(Sigh)....alright,time to get out the "woman-speak" translator.
"I'm not sure if I like you" translate into ......
I DON'T LIKE YOU.
She's not attracted to you,but she likes you being around her. So she has to put the carrot on a stick just out of your reach to keep you moving forward.
If she just flat out told you that she didn't like you and wanted to date someone else,you might leave her behind and move on,and we can't have that,now can we?
and that she has commitment issues.
This can serve a duel purpose.
It can mean.... 1:
"I don't really have commitment issues,I just don't want to be commited to YOU.
or...
It can mean that 2: if she does get into a relationship with you,and she cheats,it's not her fault and you shouldn't be surprise because she told you in the beginning she had these issues.
My guess is #1.
Gears of Led Zep said:
In my heart I know that she does like me,
And you KNOW THIS based on what?
Has she asked you out?
Tried to have sex with you?
Tried to get into a relationship with you?
You said you "know this" in your
heart. Do you
really know this,or is it just wishful thinking?
Gears of Led Zep said:
and I'm wondering what i need to doto make her realise she likes me.
Have you known this girl a while?
You say you want to know what to do to make her realize she likes you.
Well my question is....in ALL THE TIME YOU'VE KNOWN HER UP TIL NOW,
what have you BEEN DOING to make her realize that?
Let's say you've known her 6 months. Ok,well in the past 6 months you've known her,what have you
been doing up til now?
Gears of Led Zep said:
i think the main reason she is so difficult is because she is scared of a relationship.
You think she's scared of having a relationship. Ok....so what do you plan to do then? You gonna hang around her til she's not scared anymore?
You
do realize that that won't work,don't you? You'll end up in the friendzone trying to do that. And from everything you've said so far,it kinda appears that's where you already are.
Gears of Led Zep said:
Sometimes i think that she wants me there as a surrogate boyfriend until something better comes along. i dont know what to think.
Well she can't make you a "surrogate boyfriend" without
YOUR COOPERATION. You hear that?
She has to have YOUR PERMISSION for that to happen.
All that stuff that girls do to guys.......
friendzone
emotional tampon
therapist
surrogate boyfriend
using guys to boost their egos......
ALL OF IT....
it ALL REQUIRES the
guy's cooperation and permission to happen.
Instead of going to see her tomorrow and being her little "puppy" at her side waiting for her to
"stop being scared of relationships",
"finally decide if she likes you or not",or
"keep you at bay until another guy comes along",instead of you doing all this,you could approach ANOTHER GIRL you find attractive and start something up with her,something REAL,not this "maybe/might/I don't know/I'm confused/I'm still trying to decide" horsesh!t you're dealing with with this girl.
But something tells me you won't.
You call this thread "struggling". So you're struggling,huh? You've never...
dated this girl
kissed her
had sex with her
She's not your girlfriend. If you're "struggling" now....BEFORE the relationship has even started,then what makes you think actually being in relationship with her will be any good? You're trying to be in a relationship with a girl WHO TOLD YOU she isn't even sure if she likes you or not.
Even you YOURSELF said that you get the feeling that she's trying to USE YOU as a surrogate boyfriend until "SOMEONE BETTER" comes along.
You want to be in a relationship like that? (Sigh)...well don't let us stop you dude. You want help on trying to get her? Ok.
Tell us what YOU'VE
BEEN DOING so we can see what adjustments need to be made.
