Struggling with breakup

[chris2for]

It is making him pine over her and he can't let go and move on.

Read the nc challenge board. It will help.

How so? He could genuinely like the picture-nothing less nothing more. Or simply be looking at her stories like he looks at his other friend’s stories.

So you’re telling me if you and an ex recently split up and she was looking at your Snapchat, or whatever social media, you would perceive it as her still pining over you? Not her just simply looking like she looks at other posts?

 

[Glassguy]

That’s the thing she did still want to be with me. She said she got tired of me always being a jerk to her but she wanted to try and fix things, but that’s when I told her that I was happy and moved on.

You tried to patch things up and she declined. Then she ignored. She argued all of the time to have a reason to leave.

If you truly feel as if she wants to be with you and this is all a big misunderstanding, then send her a final attempt to resolve it.

Invite her to dinner and tell her that you would like to talk about a few things. No I miss yous, etc. Just the invite to dinner and to talk.

If she accepts, then you show up, be calm and laid back. If you have in fact been a jerk to her, tell her that you apologize for x,y and z and you are willing to work on that. Its not a time to grill her over the arguments. If you get this far with her, you will just have to leave it in the past.

I am willing to bet that she will decline your dinner offer. If she does accept it, take advantage of it and keep it positive and maybe you can ease your way back in there with her.

Its not the end of the world to reach out to her, but if she declines your offer, doesnt give you a solid answer to the offer and tries to jack you around, walk away and know that every she did was done to set up the breakup and accept it.

 

[vanballmoos]

You tried to patch things up and she declined. Then she ignored. She argued all of the time to have a reason to leave.

If you truly feel as if she wants to be with you and this is all a big misunderstanding, then send her a final attempt to resolve it.

Invite her to dinner and tell her that you would like to talk about a few things. No I miss yous, etc. Just the invite to dinner and to talk.

If she accepts, then you show up, be calm and laid back. If you have in fact been a jerk to her, tell her that you apologize for x,y and z and you are willing to work on that. Its not a time to grill her over the arguments. If you get this far with her, you will just have to leave it in the past.

I am willing to bet that she will decline your dinner offer. If she does accept it, take advantage of it and keep it positive and maybe you can ease your way back in there with her.

Its not the end of the world to reach out to her, but if she declines your offer, doesnt give you a solid answer to the offer and tries to jack you around, walk away and know that every she did was done to set up the breakup and accept it.

Thanks I really appreciate the help.

She tried to fix things and I declined when she wanted to rekindle.

 

[dude99]

How so? He could genuinely like the picture-nothing less nothing more. Or simply be looking at her stories like he looks at his other friend’s stories.

So you’re telling me if you and an ex recently split up and she was looking at your Snapchat, or whatever social media, you would perceive it as her still pining over you? Not her just simply looking like she looks at other posts?

If you break up with someone why would you want to like their pictures or read their stories? Only one answer. You are still carrying a torch. If you have moved on you don't care what they are up to. If you have moved on it really doesn't matter to you.

If he was spinning plates he would be too busy to care about her social media.

If i had an ex poking around mine i wouldn't even know because i would be too busy to notice or care for that matter.

 

[JonnyD123]

End of thread.
Here's a rule: if a biatch ends your relationship it means that her interest level has reached an all time low. Think about it logically, if she had high interest then she would never risk breaking up with you. The rule is if she breaks up once you don't give her the opportunity to break up twice.

In fact, state it up front "there's no going back for me if a girl wants to finish it. If it's done it's done"

Do not start analyzing what she said after the fact.....once she said it's over, it means her interest level is at an all time low and that's all you need to know....

...why would you want to keep a biatch with low interest level in your life? You don't. She'll make your life hell. She'll disrespect you, look for fights, put you down, cheat. Cut her loose.

She's now trash to you. Put the thrash out and don't look back.


Fvck this cvnt. Who is she? your shrink? You don't need a codependent cvnt in your life. Fvck her.


Ok listen....tough love time....you are a needy little boy (the self control Reykhel showed there by only writing boy was impressive)....
You don't need counseling.....

You need to work on your masculinity.

Telling a biatch that your having a hard time? Let's look back at that in a years time and laugh...

It's a double standard in society but a man must be the stoic rational one in the relationship as the woman is emotional and reactionary...
A man is the island and the woman is the waves bashing against him. This may be unfair but deal with it. Weak men are despised in society. If you tell a woman you are depressed she loses respect for you. As a man in society, you get no sympathy. You swim or sink. Whereas a woman has many safety nets in society....betas and white knights are only too willing to pay her rent for her.....she gets pregnant from a one night stand....no problem she doesn't have to take responsibility for her poor choices....the government will provide for her, a willing beta will adopt and provide for the kid. She's depressed? poor baby...what can we do for you? your depressed? Alone. man up ****e sucker...

You cannot have two emotional people in a relationship. The relationship, just like the island will cave in on itself.

This one is dead, but it means nothing. For you see you have greater things to pursue now...

You have a journey ahead of you.

This is fuçking gold. Listen to this man

 

[soulforge]

How so? He could genuinely like the picture-nothing less nothing more. Or simply be looking at her stories like he looks at his other friend’s stories.

So you’re telling me if you and an ex recently split up and she was looking at your Snapchat, or whatever social media, you would perceive it as her still pining over you? Not her just simply looking like she looks at other posts?

They only just broke up... the dude is on here right now, sounding like a broken man.. desperately looking for an answer!

Offcourse he is NOT liking her pics, and following her stories just like a freind would.

What the fuk is liking her pics going to do for him, when he catches a glimpse of her sat on Jamal's knee, grinding his dik on her?

If it is truly over between these two, then he needs to cut all contact 100%

If he still feels there is something to save, then maybe op should go NC for a little while, give each other some space, then maybe try communicating again!

 

[Roober]

Hate to say it dude, but it's over. If she had anything for you, she wouldn't risk breaking up over it. She would work it out or go a very short time before reaching out again. Letting it go a week or more says that she is willing to look at other options and you are too. If you still made her pvssy tingle, there is no way she does this....

Trust me, just delete and don't look back. I could have saved myself two months of agony of I would have done this with the last chick I dated.

 

[chris2for]

They only just broke up... the dude is on here right now, sounding like a broken man.. desperately looking for an answer!

Offcourse he is NOT liking her pics, and following her stories just like a freind would.

What the fuk is liking her pics going to do for him, when he catches a glimpse of her sat on Jamal's knee, grinding his dik on her?

If it is truly over between these two, then he needs to cut all contact 100%

If he still feels there is something to save, then maybe op should go NC for a little while, give each other some space, then maybe try communicating again!

Yes, we know that. I'm sure OP's ex just believes he's looking at her stuff because he's just simply looking at it.

 

[A 3% Percent Man]

First I want to say we all feel your pain. Most of us have been there and have those shirts. And some might still be in the heartbreak hotel.

Right after a breakup it's only natural to feel the way you are feeling at the moment. Anxiety will get the best of you. You will feel like you have lost the love of your life. How could she do this.

Its going to be OK OP.
This roller coaster of emotions will pass.
I wasted 6 months of my life not healing but instead chasing an ex who had a low level of attraction for me.

I recommend you do the following

#1 The first thing you must do is regain self control.. Start by going no contact. Zero phone. No Text no Social media. No bday or death in the family.. Do not reach out to her.

#2 reconnect with your family and friends

#3 take her off the throne. She had flaws too.

#4 Start working on yourself and your relationship game.

#5 focus on yourself. With goals and actions

#6 Start dating other women. I know you probably might not want to. However it helps.

#7 work out and go for walks