Strike 2- my 2nd chance with the same girl.

[gasolineonfire]

greetin's everyone...
i have been quite a fan of Dj n this is my 1st fourm query....
there was this girl in senior school i liked... high on adrenalin n pumped up by some frnds i went over to her one day n candidly asked her out for the evenin.
in the evenin when the date was abt to conclude i blurted out that i love her. she said she'd reply later... 4 days later v met again n she turned me down sayin tht "it ws nt the right time n v shud concentrate on our careers."

school concluded n she went her way n i enrolled up in a college.

now after almost 4 yrs v came in contact thru a social networkin website abt 5 mnths ago. v exchanged ph nos n would be messagin each other for hours together.
all this time she hasen't had a boyfriend cuz she says she finds love very "nauseatic n revulsive" n "she has seen her friends fallin out of relationships" so she thinks "relationships are a waste of time".

i really like her n love her deeply... for 4 yrs i haven tendered n tilled her thoughts on and on in my mind. how can i breake into the defenses of this girl n make her realize tht love is a gamble worth takin.

hopin to receive help...

thnx

P.S.- i asked her out to a movie once n she agreed without any qualms, but unfortunately the plan couldn't materialize dur to my job compulsions.

 

[shop until I die!]

First off, you need to stop using text shorthand to communicate this stuff.

Second, you need to either stop pressing so hard for this girl and move on or make a definite non afc move on her.

The time is ticking, because you are quickly becoming her friend.

 

[gasolineonfire]

This is some quick service!!!!

advice accepted... no text messages.
i call her up n invite her to the movie n start hangin around.
the crux ix shoul i act cool or shoud i drop some hints tht i still have the blues 4 her?

 

[hyperactive]

Gas, until you learn to write legibly, I find it difficult to believe that you are capable of making a rational assessment of your supposed love for this girl. Your obviously young, at heart at least, and in no position to be having an long term committed relationship.

What you are experiencing right now can be chalked up to two main factors. One, you are at the will of your hormones. Your biological chemistry has you locked down on mind control and indoctrinated you with the preposterous idea that you simply must mate with this woman and make babies. This is dangerous. If you settled down now, judging from your writing style, you would be stunting your growth as a human being. You have potential, everyone does, but too many of us settle, knock or get knocked up, and live the rest of our lives without really becoming individuals.

Second factor is probably your psychological state. You obviously have self esteem issues, or are lonely or something along those lines because infatuation happens to bored, lonely people who have nothing going on but to sit at ruminate on some chick that let them think they had a chance. I am speaking from experience and hey, this stuff still haunts me from time to time. I get oneitis for a quick minute until I get distracted again by work and new women.

Idle hands do the devils work. Go find something besides women that you enjoy and are passionate about. Then you just may find yourself meeting too many women. Sometimes it get's that way with me. I can't keep track or them all.

 

[gasolineonfire]

it isn't like i'm lonely...i love her still cuz she's the 1st love of my life... i dated all othr girls cuz when u grow up u need girls to go around with...
this girl here was the first one i ever proposed.
its not like i'm a loner or something... i really loved her then i really love her now.. nt even that i'm very eager to lay her... jst want to spend some blissful moments in the shadow of her love...

pure emotions here...

thnx 4 readin

 

[gasolineonfire]

does any1 hav any othr valuable tips to offer plz...

my handicap is tht this girl knos tht i fancy her (cuz i'v already proposed to her once)... tht perhaps gives her an upper hand...

 

[hyperactive]

My best advice is that you google Tom Leykis, find out what station his radio show is on in your area, and listen religiously. He doesn't have very good tips for hooking up with women, but he has great advice for how to stay away from them. Seriously. At your age, (and I'm guessing that is young,) you should not be in relationships, but instead having chicks giving you head or banging them at high school parties while they're drunk.

 

[gasolineonfire]

hey don't break my heart!!!!

i'm 21 already.. too old 4 high school parties!!!

 

[HoneyHitter]

Dude!! I have this feeling that you might be gay or something... I mean, you write like a chick!

 

[hyperactive]

I think it is a chick, or some queen fooling around online. Pink letters? Come on. You should be way to homophobic to write in pink letters.

 

[maranathaman]

Ha!

People who use the word "homophobic" are gay! :wave:

 

[gasolineonfire]

Guys!!!! Ewwwwwww!!!! come on!!!!
i mean... if i explore the various text options by the site n add a little colour to my posts (cuz i noticed not a single soul in this community does so....) u'll pronounce me a female or even HOMOSEXUAL!!! wht is wrong with u guys?
is this the way new comers r treated here?


n thnx for ur support Maranathaman... i really appriciate ur broader view abt ppl usin text colours...

and is this colour all right now?
perhaps blur means tht i'm a layed back chilled out dude or somethin!!!

or even better! RED!
perhaps if i use red u'll percieve me to b a hot blooded high libido stud!

gimme a break guys....

 

[[S]alvatore]

Hello troll Sorry I have to now ignore you.

 

[HoneyHitter]

hey don't break my heart!!!!

i'm 21 already.. too old 4 high school parties!!!
...

Guys!!!! Ewwwwwww!!!! come on!!!!
i mean... if i explore the various text options by the site n add a little colour to my posts (cuz i noticed not a single soul in this community does so....) u'll pronounce me a female or even HOMOSEXUAL!!! wht is wrong with u guys?
is this the way new comers r treated here?

...

and is this colour all right now?
perhaps blur means tht i'm a layed back chilled out dude or somethin!!!

or even better! RED!
perhaps if i use red u'll percieve me to b a hot blooded high libido stud!

gimme a break guys....

Sorry, but your response just makes it worse. And it's not ONLY your choice of words. If you REALLY were a guy that just wanted to write in pink for a change, you wouldn't start changing the color into something that WE think is acceptable. You'd simply ignore it.

I'm bound to agree with Hyperactive and alvatore on this one.
But I'll give you a chance to prove yourself a real man. :kick:

 

[gasolineonfire]

lemme get this clear to all you color blind canines.. this is not pink.
1) its magenta:A purplish red, one of the subtractive primary colors.
it's bright n it adds color to these otherwise bland lookin forums.

2) i'm not here to prove to some bleedin imbeciles whether i'm a man or not.
i'm here to learn n be a dj. no amount failures or mockery r goin2sway me frm my path.
there r still helpful ppl in this community ready to share their experience n wisdom. :rockon:

3)for all those of u who think writin in magenta(and not pink as i have mentioned above) qualifies a person to b a woman or a homosexual.. u r under no kind of compulsion to anser my queries. plz make way4othrs who r not as dimwits as u r.:moon:

thnx4readin.

stay beautiful.:yes:

 

[hyperactive]

People who use the word "homophobic" are gay! :wave:

can I quote you on that?

 

[gasolineonfire]

sorry i didn't get u...

 

[Maxtro]

I can post in COLORS

 

[gasolineonfire]

hey MAXTRO don't do tht man!!! u r usin so many colours in ur post!!!
thts bad 4 u!!! very bad...
i hav been declared a woman for my heinous crime of usin magenta... if u use such vivid colors on ur posts they might declare u a freak from outer space who wants to nail earthlings and eat their furniture!!!
lol

actin on the advice of hyperactive n shop till i drop i made a move n asked ma girl out for a movie. n hence i'm very thankful to 'hyperactive' n 'shop till i drop' for sortin out my situation n propellin me 2wards a fruitful direction in minimal time.

thnx guys.

stay beautiful.