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IamtheAlphamale

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Hey I'm going to Toronto tomorrow afternoon to do some approaching do you guys know any good openers?

I was there this weekend for something and I noticed there's infinity hot chicks so it seems like a great place to do a bunch of approaching.

All ideas welcome. Thanks
 

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Tell them you need a quick female perspective on something, but add a time constrait - will have to be quick because you have to get back to work. The time constraint eases her fears that she wont be able to get rid of you.
Your body language should be, as if you are about to leave any minute. Good luck. Enjoy.
 

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You’re not from there. Ask her for directions to somewhere or where it is, and work it into a convo.
Simple works as long as you can steer it into an escalating conversation…
 

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You’re not from there. Ask her for directions to somewhere or where it is, and work it into a convo.
Simple works as long as you can steer it into an escalating conversation…
I usually agree with mods here and will rarely question them but IMO, you have to be careful with indirect openers in daygame. She might think you are some salesman, religious person, or someone with an agenda. Direct or situational tends to work better but then again, I am a daygame newbie.
 
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Don’t focus on “street openers”; let the game come to you. Let the game fall into place effortlessly. Once the opportunity arrives to shoot your shot, then go for it.
 

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Hey I'm going to Toronto tomorrow afternoon to do some approaching do you guys know any good openers?

I was there this weekend for something and I noticed there's infinity hot chicks so it seems like a great place to do a bunch of approaching.

All ideas welcome. Thanks
"Hey, I'm looking for..." looking a bit lost so use your acting skills, pause while pointing ahead and say "your number..." She'll probably laugh or at least smile, then let her know you are not from there and work up a convo to where she could be your tour guide or show you her favorite spot in town. Boom, done.

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I've given this advice a lot but will try to summarize some main points.

ou have to be careful with indirect openers in daygame. She might think you are some salesman, religious person, or someone with an agenda
This is correct - specifically "crazy person" or "pan-handler" are some common ones women fear. When a girl doesn't know why you are approaching her, she has a lot of anxiety until she knows exactly why you are there. Most guys new to cold approaching have an ingrained (yet unwarranted) fear that girls will react negatively to a stranger coming up to them and saying, "You are stunning" that they try to beat around the bush which usually produces a worse outcome. MOST women are flattered when you are direct and it puts them at ease, even if they aren't interested in you, the interaction tends to go better.

My approach to day-game is always the same. My first choice is usually to go indirect but I will only do that if there is some situational thing to discuss. For example, if we are both waiting in a long line at a coffee shop, I might say something like, "I'm not one to wait in long lines but the coffee here is worth it. Have you been here before?" It has to be relevant to something you are both doing, experiencing, or looking for. Passing by a girl on a park bench who is reading a book - you wouldn't say, "Hey, sure is a hot day today." The "thing" you are talking about must be something somewhat unique or something that is impacting you both to an above-normal degree. Something you are "experiencing together." That's the goal anyway. One exception to this is if you are both standing and doing something very close to one another - like at the grocery store and she is looking at pears right next to you while you look at pears or apples - you can ask her a question about that. Notice that the key thing in these scenarios is that it should be fairly certain for her that you aren't a salesman or a panhandler.

If the above options aren't available because she's just walking down the street or sitting on a park bench, I find it best to be direct. When going direct, I almost always qualify it by saying "I know this is unusual but....." or something along those lines to let her know that you are socially calibrated and not a crazy person and you understand that approaching random strangers and stopping them to talk is not typical. This was more of a warm approach but one time I saw a girl staring at me as I walked by her in a store. My mind was elsewhere and I just wasn't in the mood in that moment to stop right there but after I got my things and checked out, I saw she was paying on another register as well. I walked outside the store and just stood there 15' from the door and waited for her. As she came out I just walked up to her and said, "Excuse me - I know it's a bit unusual to stop someone as they are leaving a store but you caught my eye in there as I passed you and I just wanted to meet you." She instantly smiled broadly and we had a great 10 minute long conversation. Lots of chemistry. Got her number and setup the date. I've also simply been on head-to-head collision courses with girls on the sidewalk and just stopped in front of them as we are about to pass and said, "Excuse me, I noticed how sexy you look in that jacket as you approached and knew I'd never forgive myself if I didn't take a moment to meet you," or something along those lines.

Talk for a few minutes depending on how the conversation is going. Make strong eye contact. Don't go a mile wide and an inch deep on their lives - go deep deep on just a couple topics. Get to WHY she is into the things she is, how it makes her FEEL. Then related it to something in your own life... doesn't have to be the same interest as her but it could be linked somehow, even if it's just linked to how it makes you feel compared to how hers makes her feel. After a bit say that you have to run but would love to continue the conversation sometime over a drink and tell her to give you her number so you can set it up.
 

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Hey I'm going to Toronto tomorrow afternoon to do some approaching do you guys know any good openers?

I was there this weekend for something and I noticed there's infinity hot chicks so it seems like a great place to do a bunch of approaching.

All ideas welcome. Thanks
Just chat up girls. Anything will suffice. What won't suffice is worrying about lines or what to say.

Put work in. Get experience. Try new things. More advanced is skipping the open or opening without opening.

TO is where Mystery hails from. Saw threads about shopping malls be blew apart. After you get enough experience, you don't worry about openers. The thought process is on larger things. Think bigger. Shoot your thought.

Less spectator mode and boomer pods. More approaching. Post better Questionso. Get better answers and outcomes.
 

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Hey I'm going to Toronto tomorrow afternoon to do some approaching do you guys know any good openers?

I was there this weekend for something and I noticed there's infinity hot chicks so it seems like a great place to do a bunch of approaching.

All ideas welcome. Thanks
If you must street approach or cold approach, confidence is the key in my opinion.
 

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I wouldn't bother. Toronto is awful for pickup from what I hear. Why not just go out and enjoy yourself and talk to cute women if you see them?

If you must street approach or cold approach, confidence is the key in my opinion.
Groundbreaking advice right here
 

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man I don't know how people get success saying something gay like "have you been here before?" "I need a female opinion on my shoes"
honestly when someone says that I think the guy is gay. but maybe some girls like gay sounding guys.
I make fun of them
here are things I say
"you remind me of the pink panther. have you ever seen that cartoon?"
"nice t-shirt" (she is not wearing a t-shirt)
"you look so professional. if I didn't know any better I'd think you are an important person" (maybe leave the "if I didn't know any better" out, sounds offensive)
"wow you speak very good English" (hint: never say this to an asian woman, for some reason they hate it)

ultimately you have to come up with your own formula, maybe sounding gay works for some guys.
 

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Openers are going to vary on the person you are. Are you quick witted, confident and funny?

I fall into conversations and vibe, I've never used a line. I couldn't memorise a line if I tried. You pick out something you see (or usually overhear) then you just open and roll with it. Most of my openers are from overhearing a conversation and making a witty reply/joke.

Instead of the opener, put yourself in a very outgoing, energetic (not psycotic) state and be prepared to chat to people like a normal human trying to convey light-hearted confident vibes (results may vary). You better be funny and confident otherwise cold approach sounds like hell to me.
 

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I usually use my surroundings. Yesterday was on the train and asked a girl "If I already bought a ticket on the app do I need to scan anything here on the train as well?" and just went from there. Talked about the transit system, then the city... thats it.

The real challenge is recognizing if they're interested in you. Which in Roosh's book on daygame he calls it 'bait'. Where they ask you a personal question back and/or invest in the convo themselves after you drop something like "where I come from" or "in my last project".

Vibing is easy, recognizing interest is tougher. But way better than night-game imo.
 

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Awesome. Thanks everyone. I'm going back tomorrow and ill keep this open to try this stuff out. They have a 15 dollar transit pass for the weekend so that's amazing but it takes like 2 hours to get dt. Gonna approach for like 6 hours and work on moving targets
 

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I usually agree with mods here and will rarely question them but IMO, you have to be careful with indirect openers in daygame. She might think you are some salesman, religious person, or someone with an agenda. Direct or situational tends to work better but then again, I am a daygame newbie.
Had a girl do indirect on me at the gym. Was confusing. I couldn’t figure her out at first. And got my guard up. She’d have done better just being direct.
 

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Awesome. Thanks everyone. I'm going back tomorrow and ill keep this open to try this stuff out. They have a 15 dollar transit pass for the weekend so that's amazing but it takes like 2 hours to get dt. Gonna approach for like 6 hours and work on moving targets
Why are you focusing on moving targets? Arent they harder to approach? So you are going to be a social robot for 6 hours?
 

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I usually agree with mods here and will rarely question them but IMO, you have to be careful with indirect openers in daygame. She might think you are some salesman, religious person, or someone with an agenda. Direct or situational tends to work better but then again, I am a daygame newbie.
Indirect works better if you have major approach anxiety, direct only works if you are able to deliver it with confidence.
 

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Hey I'm going to Toronto tomorrow afternoon to do some approaching do you guys know any good openers?

I was there this weekend for something and I noticed there's infinity hot chicks so it seems like a great place to do a bunch of approaching.

All ideas welcome. Thanks
You: "I'm in Toronto"

Girl: "Yeah no sh1t"

You: "Kill me"
 
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