straight from a woman's mouth....being overly nice is a turn off

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here is a post by a woman from another message board....

Mr Braces has offered to help me with my car (I had to take it into service today) and I told him it would be way too much trouble for him and far out of his way. "No trouble at all" he said though of course I made previous arrangements to take care of it myself. He's like this about a lot of things though. A gentleman to a T. Some of you may remember him taking my gum for me before dinner, pushing in the chair, opening the door (from behind me so I walk in first), paying for everything, and always making sure I'm comfortable.

I am enjoying it very much. I know that I love the whole, opening doors, pushing in chair stuff.. its all very romantic.

But I wonder why him offering to help me out with the car is such a bother. Not that its literally a bother - but I can sense that it turns me off a little bit.

Why does that turn us off?

How many times in the past have I wished that a boyfriend at the time could help me with something but didn't? How many times have I cursed myself for not having someone dependable in my life. Someone as dependable and helpable as I am to others.

So while its a little bit of a turn off, and Im not even sure why, I am totally going to turn that energy around and try to appreciate that here is a guy whos willing to put himself out there for me possibly more so than most guys have in the past. I like it. And I want to like him.

But why again do favors like this turn women off? - Generally speaking. (And Im only using my case scenario for an example)
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good post future DJ..
it reminds as that good guys and even gentlemen always finish last.
 
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librito said:
good post future DJ..
it reminds as that good guys and even gentlemen always finish last.
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Good guys finish last!? No that's not right... Doormats finish last.

He didn't turn her off because he was treating her well, he turned her off because he went too far. She started to feel that he was kissing her @ss. He was being a doormat. Just because you'd be willing to eat 100 yards of a girls sh!t just to see where it came from doesn't mean you're a good guy.

Good guys never finish last.
 
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Same with women who kiss ass. If a girl start letting you have your way with everything even sex. You lose attarction to her because you respect her less.

In the end being too nice just makes people respect you less. :nono:
 

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BrotherAP said:
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Good guys finish last!? No that's not right... Doormats finish last.

He didn't turn her off because he was treating her well, he turned her off because he went too far. She started to feel that he was kissing her @ss. He was being a doormat. Just because you'd be willing to eat 100 yards of a girls sh!t just to see where it came from doesn't mean you're a good guy.

Good guys never finish last.
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right on Brother AP...
I treat my fiance like a queen...

when guys realize what this is all about it will all come together for them
 
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